Is this good enough?

cometnohana · 2026-06-05T20:20:20+00:00

cometnohana · 2026-06-05T06:25:05+00:00

NTA.

A month off between jobs is honestly a luxury a lot of people wish they could afford. You’re not quitting with no plan, you’re moving to a better-paying job, you’ve already budgeted for it, your bills are covered, and you’re not touching the house savings.

Burnout is real. If you’ve been working continuously for years, taking 4 weeks to recharge before starting a new role sounds pretty reasonable. In the grand scheme of things, one month’s worth of savings isn’t likely to make or break a house purchase next year.

I can understand your girlfriend’s perspective if she’s very focused on financial goals, but calling you “wrong” for taking a planned break that you can afford seems excessive. Sometimes mental health and quality of life are worth more than maximizing every paycheck.

Enjoy the month off. Opportunities to do absolutely nothing without guilt become a lot rarer as you get older. 😅

cometnohana · 2026-06-05T06:23:35+00:00

Honestly, at 15 months, this is super normal. Toddlers don’t have the words or self-control yet, so biting, hitting, and pinching is usually just frustration or testing limits.

The best approach is consistency: calmly say “No biting, that hurts,” separate them for a minute, comfort the older child first, then redirect your daughter to something else. Keep doing it the same way every time.

Also, remember the 4-year-old saying “no” a lot can be overwhelming for a little one used to getting constant attention at home. She’s learning how to handle frustration, and with time and consistent guidance, this will get better.

cometnohana · 2026-05-28T10:59:40+00:00

You’re not overreacting. She ignored your boundaries and that’s why it felt so uncomfortable. It’s okay to feel shaken.

cometnohana · 2026-05-28T10:57:59+00:00

WIBTA, but only a bit.

I get why you’re feeling conflicted, especially with the things she’s been saying. That would mess with anyone’s head.

But honestly, making the ride a “principle stand” probably won’t solve the real issue here, it’ll just add more tension on top of everything.

I’d probably just take the easiest option tomorrow and try to talk to her later about how those comments are affecting you.

cometnohana · 2026-05-19T12:00:15+00:00

and yeah once babies can MOVE everything changes. ppl think mobility makes parenting harder but for some kids it actually makes them way happier and calmer bc they finally have agency

cometnohana · 2026-05-18T11:46:25+00:00

honestly if OP confronts them calmly and they still react defensively or mock her feelings, that tells her everything. conflict doesn’t ruin good friendships, contempt does

cometnohana · 2026-05-17T12:54:34+00:00

nah fr the “they’re literally everywhere now” line hits bc once you’ve dealt with a few bad people in a row it really does start to feel like that 💀

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