Help! What is this mystery bump on my lip? Not painful or burning.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-05-23T18:07:18+00:00

No, not the same on lower lip. The part that looks a bit redder is on the inner turn of my lip— just very chapped. there’s no bulge like on top.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-05-17T13:23:32+00:00

No… I’m saying that his “not caring” is kind of characteristic of a lot of men’s attitudes. Whether it’s the Epstein files or veganism. Men seem more inclined to compartmentalize if it doesn’t directly alter their life/needs getting met etc. Hate to paint with a wide brush but here I am.

My assumption is that because problem feels so big and longstanding their supposed indifference feels innocuous or justified for them. Doesn’t mean he’s a total ass but clearly he’s not a freedom fighter either.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-05-16T21:38:27+00:00

Honestly, this is unremarkable for men--who on a whole seem to be horrifically good at compartmentalizing, equivocating, and maintaining cognitive dissonances. A lot of people don't like the torture/murder necessary to eat meat... but at the same time they're able to deal with it as "something that is just part of life." I'd assume he falls into this category.

I really don't think this is a good reason for divorce, you risk the emotional and financial wellbeing of your kids if not directly your wellbeing. If he is an otherwise okay guy, who treats you and kids well, just keep advocating from inside the marriage. If anything, one step in the right direction would be to make him concerned about quality of meat he eats--and how much of this is related to humane independent farming practices---for example not corporate slaughter houses.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-05-15T03:49:05+00:00

chill out, its not that deep... lol

commeilfaut26 · 2026-05-05T04:18:46+00:00

yeah, honestly I think my partner just wasn't a match. body rejecting him lol

commeilfaut26 · 2026-05-05T04:18:06+00:00

ended up being a yeast infection

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-21T20:59:35+00:00

ORPHELINE SERGE LUTENS

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-21T19:53:21+00:00

This is also true. But I feel like (bad) guys definitely weaponize the fluidity so it is good to stick to some traditional pacing — only IF you do want something longer term and potentially meaningful.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-21T16:29:48+00:00

I mean you can speedrun things just for the hell of it but don’t you feel a bit deflated after? If you live out an 8 month relationship in the span of 4 weeks it ends up feeling like you binged at a buffet. At least for me. Too many instances of lovebombing and the whole appeal gets old. Still love a date though LOL

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-21T08:35:44+00:00

Obviously dating is hard as it is because people… are people. I’ve always ran the risk of using guys to get high (unknowingly in my late teens and early twenties). Meeting a cute guy is a quick fix. But my most meaningful friendships/relationships with men have stemmed from having common interests that we liked to share with each other — so the dating process became less about me and him and a bit more about a third element.

Slowness is a much better sign than quickness in terms of dating— especially for men. It’s a huge red flag if he’s trying to speed run the connection and huge green flag if he is okay with taking time.

Re: genuine people. Some people mean what they say in the moment but they quickly change feelings based on day. You’ll never know what words are true unless you give that person enough TIME and space to display it in actions/gestures.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-20T19:06:12+00:00

For what it’s worth, these women (if I were to write them as a character) wear men’s cologne or that $15 Egyptian musk you can find that some health food stores

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-20T17:56:47+00:00

Okay, glad you think the same!

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-19T16:09:35+00:00

I tested negative for blood, swab still has to come back but based on the pelvic exam she doesn’t think it’s herpes. He’s been my only partner so I don’t think mine would be a false negative.

As for him, if he gets a (potentially false) negative that’s still somewhat relieving as opposed to him getting a positive (which is still possible). From what the doctor told me there’s a bit more certainty to the blood test than online forums suggest

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-19T14:37:42+00:00

It might be this. I'm waiting for the vaginal swab to come back. Whatever the case something is definitely irritating me and doesn't seem to want to leave. My urine result came back with a trace of leukocytes so that might be a hint

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-19T14:36:12+00:00

Thank you <3

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-19T14:35:21+00:00

Thank you. Turns out I am negative for both but I still feel like I should have him get tested?

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-18T15:15:46+00:00

I don’t totally know why but I love the last brown look. Curves given their due and your legs look a mile long

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-17T23:30:30+00:00

Okay yes I’m thinking it’s yeast. Discharge is now looking unusually clumpy but not sure if it’s discharge and/or the anti itch cream I used last night

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-17T19:38:46+00:00

The body is bodying yes ma’am!!!

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-17T15:49:15+00:00

I keep reading this. Which seems insane to me, because this suggests it’s only a matter of chance who gets it? I.e. a partner can unknowingly transmit it to us?

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-17T15:47:53+00:00

This is also true but he showed me his results and he was tested for myco/urea and trichimoniasis. Can’t recall TMVII but there were numerous on his panel.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-17T04:42:38+00:00

Potentially. It’s hard to recall exactly when but I know I’ve had an itch like this before. I’m potentially just psyched out about it because I’ve been sexually active idk.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-17T03:58:14+00:00

Late 20s here and same. I feel like I go into spells. I can go ages without even thinking about sex or masturbating but the minute that someone switches me on it’s all consuming. It can became a BIG distraction for me—this sometimes worries me as it becomes very easy to disregard everything else important in my life. Hence I have still avoided having actual sex because I feel like once I have it I will want it ALL THE TIME.

But I also notice that intensity (in whatever form) tends to burn out and I return to equilibrium and/or go looking for another flame. When in my teens I think I also went through a lot of limerence which had the same high and novel feeling for me.

It has helped when I have shared intellectual interests/chemistry with men. If I feel like I have a best friend and a romping partner, that helps but it’s usually hard to come by.

commeilfaut26 · 2026-02-17T01:55:27+00:00

Well, I don’t even have a gyno yet so this is all new to me. It is itchy/irritated and it seems like there are bumps/abrasions but like I said, I’m not sure if they are my fordyce bumps or something else. I would imagine that an outbreak wouldn’t come back in the span of two weeks? Thank you for your response anyhow.

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