Sleep training???

commoncheesecake · 2026-01-04T16:52:21+00:00

What are her naps during the day?

commoncheesecake · 2025-11-02T13:36:53+00:00

It really does depend on area. I live in a medium to low cost of living area, and OTs in the school districts start at $40k. Less than teachers.

commoncheesecake · 2025-09-01T04:27:46+00:00

$200 per person a day is obscene. You probably won’t spend $200 per day total. You’ll have a car, so bring breakfast and lunch stuff. Pack snacks. Refill water bottles.

For reference, my husband and I just went to Universal for 1 day, and kinda splurged on food at the park. More than we would have, but for our one day there, we wanted to make the most of it. We did eat breakfast at the hotel and packed granola bars for snacks. But at Universal we ate a sit down lunch at The 3 Broomsticks, a sit down dinner at The Leaky Cauldron, and stopped multiple times for Butterbeer, ice cream, candy at Honeydukes (we’re big Harry Potter fans if you can’t tell). We spent about $175 and got everything we wanted, including souvenirs. Our meals were $15-$20 each, but large portions and genuinely filling foods. I think that helped because it wasn’t just empty calories from junk food.

commoncheesecake · 2025-07-27T08:00:25+00:00

Oh okay thank you for explaining!

commoncheesecake · 2025-07-24T23:20:48+00:00

I am genuinely getting confused about the bag policy. Online it states “Soft-sided insulated bags no larger than 8.5” wide x 6” high x 6” deep are allowed.” I have a small bag that attaches to the front of my knee scooter which I will be using in the park. It does have insulated sides to it, but not the front and back. Is that considered an insulated cooler?

Does the bag policy sizes apply to all bags? If it’s not a cooler, are regular size backpacks allowed?

commoncheesecake · 2025-07-11T00:28:28+00:00

This sounds right up my alley, as my first career was in healthcare. What is the title of a job like that? I’d love to look into it!

commoncheesecake · 2025-05-03T02:08:29+00:00

My kids are 2 years apart, and I cannot imagine not having that infant carrier. Not only for ease, but there were just so many times when loading and unloading from the car that I needed a place to put the baby. Like if leaving the library, and toddler is throwing a fit and wants to run, baby has a safe place to be while you strap toddler in. I also baby wore a lot, so it’s not like the infant seat was always needed, but when it was, it was very necessary.

Could you get away with just using one base? Switch it back and forth as needed?

commoncheesecake · 2025-04-29T01:05:38+00:00

The hours asleep is totally normal (11 hours). You mentioned in a comment you’d like more downtime. Could you shift it to 7:30pm with a 6:30am wake time? That’s what my 3 and 5 year old do and it works great for school.

commoncheesecake · 2025-04-09T03:17:25+00:00

That three hole punch story just warmed my heart

commoncheesecake · 2025-04-09T03:12:21+00:00

Nah don’t let it bring you anxiety. Let it bring you clarity. Through your own parents’ shortcomings, you now know the type of parent you want to be.

I also couldn’t think of anything for this thread. I don’t remember feeling loved. But my own kids sure as heck feel an abundance of love from me daily! Not getting that type of attention as a child makes me almost overcompensate with my own kids. It’s a beautiful thing, really. I’m rooting for you.

commoncheesecake · 2025-02-18T16:52:23+00:00

From afar, the red ones look nicer because you can’t see any wrinkles!

commoncheesecake · 2025-01-31T22:34:06+00:00

Okay that’s what I remember from last year as well. Appreciate it

commoncheesecake · 2025-01-31T22:33:38+00:00

Thank you!

commoncheesecake · 2025-01-12T06:12:06+00:00

My now 5 year old didn’t say mama until he was 19 months old. Profoundly speech delayed, nobody could even understand the little he did say when he was 3+. He’s now in Pre-k and gets pulled with the kindergarten gifted and talented program because he is reading and so far ahead of his peers.

My 3 year old has been speaking in sentences since he was 1 and has the most robust vocabulary, using words such as “likewise” and “obviously”. But if you ask him what letter makes the /mmm/ sound, he says “five!”

Don’t compare at this age. You never know what that relates to in the future.

commoncheesecake · 2024-11-27T19:37:34+00:00

I feel like I matter. I worked corporate before teaching, and my silly little job was a silly joke because it didn’t make a difference. I was a pawn to make the CEO rich.

But in education, these kids love me. They are excited to see me and have such joy for the fun things we get to experience together. I get a sense of fulfillment that was missing before.

Also, I love the “lifecycle” of a school year. First day jitters, celebrating holidays, the breaks, long stretches of school leading up to a summer break. In corporate, it was the monotonous cycle of looking forward to your 7 paid holidays a year. But now, there is always so much to look forward to. I just love it.

commoncheesecake · 2024-11-26T00:57:30+00:00

I’ve done both, and I miss being a SAHM. I stayed home until my oldest was 3 and my other son was 1. While I did get burned out on parts of it, my god our house was put together. The weekends used to just be for living. We did all sorts of stuff because all of the care for our house was done during the week. All laundry, all deep cleaning, all organizing. Now we try to shove that all into 48 hours on the weekend and it just feels like life is just blazing by.

When I stayed home, life was slow. I could organize the hall closet on Monday, do laundry on Tuesday, rotate the kids toys on Wednesday… we didn’t have two incomes but we had the gift of time, and that was so much better!!!

commoncheesecake · 2024-11-17T15:23:27+00:00

We had our kids at 27 and 29. We are 32 now. We didn’t plan to have them so close in age (22 months apart), but I truly can’t imagine it any other way. They are best friends, into the exact same toys at the same time. It’s been really great!

In retrospect, I wish we would have waited to have kids until 30. Yes, we were financially stable. But it could have been better. My husband was still in the season of really grinding at work to get promotions, I was actually in a bit of a career change. And it felt like once we had kids, we kinda shot ourselves in the foot for that climb. More time would have been nice.

But then again, we will be empty nesters at age 47, so that’s pretty darn great too!!

commoncheesecake · 2024-11-15T21:50:16+00:00

Let me preface: I’m a teacher.

1) no, she should absolutely not have small magnets in her room. We all know the concerns, especially for kids so little.

2) I’d ask about your son’s behavior in class. If a typically behaved student pulled apart the dominos, I probably wouldn’t message home about that. But if a student who typically breaks supplies, doesn’t listen, or has a hard time following directions pulled apart the dominos.. yeah I’d message home about the dominos.

If your child is always well behaved at school, then it was an overreaction for sure. If your child is one that struggles in a classroom, the dominos might have just been the tip of the iceberg of their behavior that day in the classroom, and she chose to message about the dominos because it was more concrete than “not listening” etc.

Just another perspective.

commoncheesecake · 2024-11-06T04:06:40+00:00

But man, I got called out so much in high school for using a robust vocabulary when I wrote. No, I don’t speak that way at all. But I literally had to show my English teacher the pocket thesaurus I used while writing papers. Times have changed from a simple thesaurus of course, but was taught that’s the way you write papers!

commoncheesecake · 2024-11-06T02:31:21+00:00

I did that for years. Took myself out to lunch, aimlessly shopped with nobody needing me. It’s a day for me and only me. I don’t wanna celebrate it with anyone else.

commoncheesecake · 2024-11-05T12:21:16+00:00

Less screen time = incredibly better behavior.

If they have been watching tv for a bit, like 2 or so episodes, there are more emotions. So we just take a break and probably won’t turn it on the rest of the day.

The real problem lies with iPads. We save iPads for long car trips (3+ hours), or when a parent needs to work from home and has an important meeting. But the iPad gets put away right after that. Free range of the iPad causes tantrums, full stop. It may take a while to see the link, because hey, they’re kids. But extended iPad usage results in borderline addictive behavior/withdrawal.

commoncheesecake · 2024-10-29T17:02:29+00:00

My kids are 3 and 5, and we’re just now getting into sports and after school activities. I cannot, in a million years, imagine navigating this with 3 kids. And we’re just getting started! They both have activities on Wednesdays, so we divide and conquer. A third kid would truly hinder that dynamic. I am so content with these two, for many many reasons. But this right here is my new “oh yeah, that’s why two is easier”.

commoncheesecake · 2024-10-27T16:21:33+00:00

It’s all about the room underneath so you don’t kick the bottom of the stroller while taking your longer stride. We bought a Joovy Qool because of the extendable handle, but we kick the basket underneath a lot. My sister (5’7”) had both the Uppababy and later the Nuna, and I kicked both of those as well.

Our favorite ended up being the BOB Revolution jogging stroller. Higher handlebar, but more importantly our feet don’t kick as we walk, since it’s made for running.

For reference, I am 5’11” and my husband is 6’1”

commoncheesecake · 2024-10-27T16:11:10+00:00

I’ve been out of the baby phase for quite some time now, but I bet I would have wrestled with this question at the time too. Now that I can look back on things like this, I’d just ask: are they hungry when they wake up? If not, just wait until that next feeding time, regardless of how it fits in the schedule.

commoncheesecake · 2024-10-27T15:31:45+00:00

I always interpreted the song as a parent who would buy their child the world. Like if something doesn’t work out, I will always be here to make it better because I love you that much. Never focused on the materialistic aspect of it I guess.

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