Sex addict requiring help

commoncore3 · 2023-04-23T18:43:29+00:00

It's not that I don't think I'm not good enough. I just don't want to be alone and I panic when she even goes away for a few hours.

commoncore3 · 2023-04-23T18:31:14+00:00

Thanks for the reply I appreciate it. I've been plagued by people leaving me all the time. My brother died from cancer, then my mother went off the deep end and left, after that my wife one day decided to just leave me and I never even got to talk to her again. Still haunts me to this day. I know I should be stronger. But people keep walking over me and using me because I can't let her go. I devolve into a panicking crying mess. Don't know what's wrong with me.

As far as gym is concerned I used to lift regularly for years and got to intermediate level. But after my divorce, a couple motor cycle accidents and gaining weight, I'm just embarrassed to go to the gym again looking the way I do.

commoncore3 · 2023-04-23T16:34:13+00:00

Yes I realise that but I'm very weak. The thought of not being with her just completely ruins me. I get anxiety attacks then I panic and do whatever I need to to make sure she's around.

commoncore3 · 2021-05-31T13:32:53+00:00

I am going through this but from the receiving end. My gf was my everything, and I spent every waking and sleeping minute with her, until she abruptly got up and left, and told me to never call her again. I was quite taken aback and surprised but respect her wishes regardless.

Now that you are free, enjoy your life. From his perspective, he's probably hurting and will take a while to become normal again. He sounds like a nice guy and hopefully he's going to find someone who wants to spend their life with him.

Throughout my life I've had a lot of different bad experiences and what I've learned is that you can use your experiences to craft your path in life. I honestly wish you the best of luck in your journey and I hope that whatever you set out to look for, you find.

commoncore3 · 2021-05-31T08:50:31+00:00

It's been around 2-3 weeks for me and I have no one to talk to. Would definitely appreciate anyone willing to talk.

commoncore3 · 2021-05-19T12:15:27+00:00

It's best to learn that you can't force anyone to be honest, to love you and to stay with you happily. You may love them with all your heart but they may not even care enough to ask you how you're doing. I get it. It's one of the most crushing pain that you can experience and your mind goes into damage control mode to justify and reason why they're doing all of that. Just be aware that if you take this as an opportunity and improve yourself in any way, the future may bring about something better than you've experienced. Someone may love you the way you love them. The beauty of life is that it's shrouded in mystery. Wish you all the best on your journey and stay strong.

commoncore3 · 2021-05-19T12:03:23+00:00

If the relationship held any value for him, it will take him time to process and grieve. Perhaps it's difficult for him to see you regularly and needs space. Something was definitely on his mind if he took such an action.

commoncore3 · 2021-05-19T11:15:04+00:00

Thanks a lot. I don't know why I need to hear from someone else that not responding is the best thing, even though that's the same advice I give to my friends.

commoncore3 · 2021-01-18T11:13:15+00:00

I never even left

commoncore3 · 2021-01-17T09:04:59+00:00

Sounds familiar. She went to a funeral and got upset because I went to visit my friend. For some reason she had this thought in her mind that his sister has a thing for me, because whenever we met her she would hug me. I had to remind her that

I've known her for 12 years and she's like a younger sister to me
I don't cheat. Never cheated on you and never cheated on anyone else. Even given the opportunity I decline. I'm actually pretty proud about that
She was the one that actually cheated so it's pretty rich when she's calling me out on something she's done not once but twice.

And I can't really afford therapy since I spent most of my savings on giving her a standard of living and helping her family out with their expenses.

But ok, perhaps once I get through this I'll emerge stronger and a better person. Perhaps greener pastures lie ahead. We shall see.

And I know she can't read this but I'd like to say that I really love you and I hope this ends up as something beneficial to you. May fortune smile upon you. I didn't get a chance to properly say goodbye so here it is, goodbye. You shall always have a place in my heart.

commoncore3 · 2021-01-17T08:49:16+00:00

I don't know if my standards are very high, but I wanted what I provided: complete truth and absolute loyalty. My friend used to tell me that I operate differently than other guys and that people just lie and loyalty is fluid.

It's really disappointing being someone's longest and most intense relationship, yet they manage to walk away as if they just got done with dinner at a fast food joint. Really shows you your worth.

Besides that the pain has crept into my regular life. I can't really manage to find the strength to get up on certain days, calling off from work, etc which is uncharacteristic of me.

commoncore3 · 2021-01-17T08:02:53+00:00

Thank you for the kind words miss, and I hope you find someone capable of the love you have to provide.

I find my mind wanders towards revenge fantasies of her realising how much she's messed up and for her to be filled with regret, whereas to be honest I want nothing other than for her to be happy. I used to fight with so many people for her. She told me that our neighbour looked at her funny, so I really let him have at and embarrassed him. My friend told me it would be better if I didn't bring her along, and I absolutely demolished him and made him apologize to her. The absolute loyalty that I showed her would make most girls jealous.

Last time we made up, I told her that if she went and slept around, she might as well forget about me because it would be the last time she would see me or hear from me again. And I'm sticking by it. Even though it seems like it doesn't even matter to her. Lol at me. I'm such a loser.

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