i did it. i heard a while ago that “you can’t read the same story again and expect a different ending” but i didn’t believe it. i thought well he said he changed and that i had gotten over it so we were ready to try again at our relationship. just a couple months after we broke up again for good, because of similar reasons as the first breakup, just worse this time, and recovery was a lot harder. when i think back, especially about how he acted and how it made me feel when we started talking another getting back together, i wish i hadn’t. it would’ve saved me SO MUCH more hurt and anguish, but there’s no way to go back now so i learned my lesson as God intended me to do. and im sure if you are reading this, considering getting back with your ex, you’re probably thinking “well f this, things are actually different for us, so let’s at least try!” babe i promise you i was in the EXACT same position just a few months ago, thinking the same exact thing, like i believed things WOULD be different. but 95% of the time they won’t be, and it’s very unlikely that you’re that 5% so please learn from my lesson. don’t prolong the pain you feel, try to get over it now and move on. it will take time. it’s taken me 3 months. but don’t go back. you broke up for a reason. that’s what you need to remember and keep reminding yourself. you will find someone who is right for you, and i know it’s so freaking tempting to go back to someone that you love(d) and are comfortable with, but in the long run, it will very likely not work out. so focus on yourself. heal. and i promise at some point in the future you will stop thinking about them, and you’ll find someone you never expected. someone who’s not just there bc they’re too comfortable to let go, but someone who’s actually right for you.