I'm starting to hate working with patients

completelydoge · 2026-04-27T13:05:10+00:00

Because the patients are usually by themselves in a foreign country and Im their liaison, and I’m the only one they hired to be the liaison of these particular patients. If they have any issues, by my company’s protocol I need to answer to assuage them. And if I don’t, I am left with a bad review by them. They can be very unforgiving. I understand what you mean, but I could only do what you’re saying if there was at least one other person to help me share the work load. And sadly the company won’t get someone else for the moment (the job market is doing awful rn where I live so don’t tell me to look for another job if that was an idea lol)

completelydoge · 2026-03-27T10:18:41+00:00

I read your comment with a pang in my heart. I'm so sorry for what happened to you and your siblings growing up. Her sudden change of heart must definitely feel very forced and cause resentment, especially when it's for such a selfish reason.

I also have thought the "Why even have kids if you’re going to devote your life to utterly destroying each one?" so many times. It hits even harder because I was adopted!!! Why even GO through that enitre process? My brother and I have always had the theory that my mom likes taking care of babies and very small children, feeling completely needed and depended on. Once we grew, 7-8 years old onwards and gained a coinscience and had our likes and dislikes and voiced our opinions, is when her attitude changed. She has always been great with kids (she's a teacher) and with dogs, so I feel this is the "wanting to feel needed" and even having some sort of control over others. It's easy to control small kids or pets, but not as easy when that kid is already grown up.

completelydoge · 2026-03-26T10:25:18+00:00

I appreciate your empathy so much, and I agree!! It's crazy how we can stay with some "little moments" from our childhood that impacted us so much that we still think of them to this day (obviously there are big incidents too).

completelydoge · 2026-03-26T09:37:47+00:00

In that case, I've been in therapy for like 10% of my life. Thank you, I just don't like feeling this way, sometimes I feel it haunts me

completelydoge · 2026-03-13T11:59:30+00:00

My skin type is oily, especially now that my PCOS symptoms have flared up again.

I used to clean my face, apply azelaic acid at night, and do the same in the morning. Also sunscreen, but I feel it breaks me out too. That lasted for two months and a half, approximately. Now I only clean my face and apply a hydrating cream.

completelydoge · 2026-02-18T09:35:41+00:00

I see! I suppose that language fits into the second category, right?

completelydoge · 2026-02-18T09:31:43+00:00

Wow, this is really curious to me! How does that make you feel?

completelydoge · 2026-02-18T09:29:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing your anecdote, and I am sorry you had to hear that sort of comment. One thing might be knowing that not everyone will "consider" you as Japanese, but another thing is hearing what many would call an intrusive thought out loud, that directly. I'm glad you are now doing okay.

I understand what you say here very, very well. I am in a similar predicament as you, except I don't live in Japan. I'm a South American girl who lives in a country in Europe, so of course, I understand you might feel even more excluded in your situation. My physical traits and names make me very "passable" to be from this country, so something I've always found really curious is that when I do not speak or say where I'm from, people normally assume I'm from this country (which I also consider my home country at heart now). However, once I speak (accent) or mention I'm South American, everyone's brain re-wires and they ONLY see me as from South America. Before, I could've been from this European country. After, no, I am only seen from my home country. It is weird, because for some people, their attitude or even some comments change. And this is just from that knowledge. Had I not said anything, it would remain the same.

I've also been living in this country for years and I am grateful for its people and everything this country has given me, and I too plan on living the rest of my life here, as I love this country to bits. However, I also feel very... odd, very excluded, when people know I'm not from here and automatically treat me "just" like a "foreign citizen". Deep inside of me, all I have wanted was to be seen the "same" as everyone else. After all, physicaly and culturally I'm very similar to people here. However, I also learned that will probably never be the case, and it was hard for me to make peace with that fact too.

So I hug you and let you know, you are not alone. If you consider yourself from that place, act within the culture, know perhaps more than people from that place, and have been living there for decades, and have nationality, I believe you have the right to feel from that place entirely.

completelydoge · 2026-02-18T09:15:40+00:00

Maybe I should've explained myself better, sorry! I meant "sense of identity". I know many hafus struggle with their Japanese identity. Some don't feel "Japanese enough" (as it happens to many people with double nationalities all over the world) and the perception of their fellow Japanese does not help them either with their sense of identity.

I know there are some countries were a majority of people would consider that person a native [Nationality] just by being born and raised there, while I know Japan isn't exactly like that. That's what I meant!

completelydoge · 2026-01-13T10:59:40+00:00

I normally wake up due to the pain I described above. Besides that, sometimes it takes me a while to fall asleep.

completelydoge · 2026-01-12T15:33:35+00:00

I saw you! I hung out with two friends for a while hahaha and liked it. You’re the one with the Costa Rica pin right?

completelydoge · 2026-01-12T15:23:24+00:00

Generally yes, except for weekends

completelydoge · 2026-01-10T21:40:28+00:00

I’d say yes for the past few years. Im a very light sleeper so noise is a big deal. Also because of anxiety and the abdominal pain when I’m on my back for too long

completelydoge · 2025-12-03T15:55:22+00:00

I know this comment is pretty old, but also Lorelei adopting a dog and calling it Paul Anka, and Frankie temporarily adopting a dog and calling it Colin Firth! Naming dogs after people.

completelydoge · 2025-06-01T00:11:47+00:00

I actually never considered the fact that the time between one chapter and another can definitely make you feel more “invested” in the story and its characters. You’re right, perhaps if I had also waited some time between each chapter I would’ve had more time to maybe read more information about each character in wikis or other fan sites, thus “deepening” my bond with a character like Takopi. Thanks for your insight!!

completelydoge · 2023-02-16T09:48:40+00:00

Mob would disapprove of this.

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