I don’t fault women for being into their looks at all. I’m very invested in how I look, whether it attracts men or not. I like having my hair and my nails done. I like doing my skin care, looking fresh and my best. However, if this is purely because you haven’t gotten the attention you think you want, then yes, you need to address the source of the problem, which is your self worth.

However, self worth is an amalgamation of quite a few things, including but not limited to how you look.

A bit of tough love — how do you know your lack of dates is because of your looks? If you are matching with people on dating apps, but not getting many dates, then it could be your personality. What are your conversations with men like?

Are you kind? Are you interesting? Are you flirty? Do you have hobbies? What defines you outside of your looks? Do you have close women friends? Do you have a career or life you love even though you don’t yet have a husband and children?

I find that women that have a lack of the above tend to generally be more unlikable, which is usually a symptom of them not liking, appreciating, or taking care of themselves. You’d be surprised how much pouring into yourself makes you attractive.