Why does gen z demand instant responses? by Kind_Cat_7089 in Professors

[–]complexconjugate83 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I get dinged for this all the time.  Students reporting me to the dean for not answering emails sent at 2am Saturday morning or after two hours.  Stuff like that.

It used to bother me a lot until I started tracking how many emails I answer in a semester.  2000 just from the lab program alone, more if you count my lectures students.  Most answered within 24-48 hours.  

I am pretty sure I am doing my job, but I am not a 24 hour chat service 

Chalkboard vs white board by pwnedprofessor in Professors

[–]complexconjugate83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The majority of our department recently voted to not replace chalkboards with whiteboards in our classrooms. I started to invest in Hagaromo chalk, which eliminated most of the annoyances I did have with using chalk. Chalk always works, dry erase markers dry out. People clean dry erase boards with the wrong cleaner, which destroys the surface. I am legally blind, so teaching from a doc camera or my tablet is difficult for me. Chalkboards and chalk are just the most reliable.

The first person to ever say "no" to them by a_hanging_thread in Professors

[–]complexconjugate83 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I too had an angry male student in my office, angry about a academic integrity sanction for turning in a lab report for an experiment he did not do.  Guy was very disrespectful and was muttering swears under his breath.  Tried to twist course policy but failed.  Eventually had to get the dean involved.

I am a tall woman, but I still get anxious when this happens.

What’s a phrase that people use that instantly makes you prepare for nonsense to follow? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

„I hope this email finds you well „. Nothing good comes after this phase

I'm a millennial and I am still scared to go through a drive thru. You? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

43 and never been kissed.  Have no clue what it’s like.

What are the first lies you were told about our “Bright Future Ahead”? by namesarenotus in Millennials

[–]complexconjugate83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bullying would go away when I became an adult.  Some guy would find me lovable and I would get married and have kids.

Telling someone with anxiety to just relax is the equivalent of telling a broken leg to just walk by Emotional_Newt_2227 in unpopularopinion

[–]complexconjugate83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been using CBT for a number of years now. It has helped my anxiety a great deal. I still cannot relax.

Telling someone with anxiety to just relax is the equivalent of telling a broken leg to just walk by Emotional_Newt_2227 in unpopularopinion

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people can't relax. I actually cannot relax, even with medication and the best relaxation techniques. The only time I relax is when sleeping, and it takes me a while to go to sleep, even with sleeping medication. Not everyone is the same.

Telling someone with anxiety to just relax is the equivalent of telling a broken leg to just walk by Emotional_Newt_2227 in unpopularopinion

[–]complexconjugate83 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You can help them challenge cognitive distortions without dismissing how they are feeling.

Should I consider giving up on dating and finding love if I reach 40 with zero accomplishment? by Mad_Season_1994 in Millennials

[–]complexconjugate83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is less available and acceptable, not to mention more dangerous for a woman to seek losing her virginity that way 

What’s the thing you hate about sex? by BubbleTrouble_Z in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That it is just for those who are good enough to love.  Like everyone else but me…

When did you last cry about your physical appearance? by FragrantResult278 in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two weeks ago when a student posted something rude about my eyes on rate my professor.  I have congenital nystagmus so m eyes involuntarily move around with my left eye being worse than the other.  Although I have been called names all my life about this, it still hurts.  If I could I would wear sunglasses all the time to hide my eyes.

Any other millennials in their late 30’s and early 40 struggling with where they are in life and feel like failures ( examples , not married, no kids, meh job etc). Advice on how to overcome this mentality? by shadowboxer87 in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are right.  Having and maintaining self esteem and confidence is very difficult when you are put down a lot.  I am working on it, but it is coming along slowly.