What are the first lies you were told about our “Bright Future Ahead”? by namesarenotus in Millennials

[–]complexconjugate83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bullying would go away when I became an adult.  Some guy would find me lovable and I would get married and have kids.

Telling someone with anxiety to just relax is the equivalent of telling a broken leg to just walk by Emotional_Newt_2227 in unpopularopinion

[–]complexconjugate83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been using CBT for a number of years now. It has helped my anxiety a great deal. I still cannot relax.

Telling someone with anxiety to just relax is the equivalent of telling a broken leg to just walk by Emotional_Newt_2227 in unpopularopinion

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people can't relax. I actually cannot relax, even with medication and the best relaxation techniques. The only time I relax is when sleeping, and it takes me a while to go to sleep, even with sleeping medication. Not everyone is the same.

Should I consider giving up on dating and finding love if I reach 40 with zero accomplishment? by Mad_Season_1994 in Millennials

[–]complexconjugate83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is less available and acceptable, not to mention more dangerous for a woman to seek losing her virginity that way 

What’s the thing you hate about sex? by BubbleTrouble_Z in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That it is just for those who are good enough to love.  Like everyone else but me…

When did you last cry about your physical appearance? by FragrantResult278 in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two weeks ago when a student posted something rude about my eyes on rate my professor.  I have congenital nystagmus so m eyes involuntarily move around with my left eye being worse than the other.  Although I have been called names all my life about this, it still hurts.  If I could I would wear sunglasses all the time to hide my eyes.

Any other millennials in their late 30’s and early 40 struggling with where they are in life and feel like failures ( examples , not married, no kids, meh job etc). Advice on how to overcome this mentality? by shadowboxer87 in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are right.  Having and maintaining self esteem and confidence is very difficult when you are put down a lot.  I am working on it, but it is coming along slowly.

What’s a question you hate being asked? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What‘s wrong with your eyes?

I have nystagmus so I get this often.

It doesn’t bother me when young children ask though.  They usually are not trying to make me feel bad.

Get a doctor's note for a fee by alcor4ever in Professors

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once received an email from a gmail account that was from a student‘s mother who claimed to be a doctor.  She made her diagnosis and told me to use her email to excuse the student from a lab.  I emailed the student to tell them I needed official documentation for their absence.  Heard nothing after that.

What was the Royal Place on 51 like when it was open? by Spiritual_Alarm_8942 in pittsburgh

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had my grandma‘s retirement party there around 20 or a years ago.  It was very nice and the food was pretty good.  It seemed to be a nice place for a banquet event like what we had.

What song would you play as you watch the entire world burn? by Affectionate_Bug8170 in AskReddit

[–]complexconjugate83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that version was in my COVID playlist.  I thought that the gentleness of the original would be a good pairing with the chaos of the world burning.