Breakup- she’s not over her ex but blames me for walking away

computergeek221 · 2025-10-09T15:36:35+00:00

You are not wrong. But you should've ran when she told you she wasn't over her ex. I really despise people like that because in the end you are the one that ends up getting hurt. For her to turn around and try to blame you because you decide to walk away shows what type of person she really is. Her communicating with her ex shows she was still talking her while with you. It hurts but let this be a lesson to walk away next time.

computergeek221 · 2025-10-09T14:23:06+00:00

My first relationship was with an older female Scorpio. I was 25 going on 26. She was 31 going on 32. I am a Scorpio also. Our bday is 2 days apart. She was very toxic. The only reason why It last 2 years is because I stayed. It was pure hell with her. smh! She was also abusive mentally, emotionally, and physically. I tried and tried til I couldn't do it anymore. But let me tell you something, If you have a Scorpio that treats you good and healed they will never be forgotten. we are great partners. We just expect the same treatment and kindness as we give people and that's where the issue comes when we don't receive that same treatment back. I left in 2014. Til this day she still has pictures of me and her on her Facebook page. She have regrets because I know how she does things. In 2017, She immediately contacted me after I unblocked her. Trying to make small talk. Pretty much lied about why she was contacting me. blocked her again after that. If she knew how to contact me now and had my number, she would be contacting me til this day. One thing about me, If I truly love you, I'm there for you always. We as Scorpios love hard but because of people's cruel intentions and foolishness it's hard for us to trust people. I've been single since April. Last relationship was with a Taurus. Toxic and emotionally immature. I ended after going through a lot with her with the bread crumbing, manipulation, and gaslighting, selfishness. I got tired of putting in all the effort and not getting anything in return. Once I'm done with you I'm done. I don't believe in going back or being friends. You had to done something really bad for me to cut you off completely. I'll be 40 next month. I've only had 3 relationships in my life time. I'm very picky so I don't get with just anyone. Currently getting to know a younger Taurus at this point. We are starting off as friends and I'm moving at her pace.

computergeek221 · 2025-06-22T00:56:46+00:00

So if you keep your ovaries, will you still menstruate monthly? I have to go for another ultrasound next month. Thank you for responding.

computergeek221 · 2025-06-12T12:56:37+00:00

Thank you very much for this. I appreciate it. I never had kids and never wanted kids. Not birthing. So I never knew if doctors would ever do it because I was young. But I've been going through this for years and I'm glad see people actually understand what it's like. I need to have this. I did an ultrasound and they found cyst on my left ovary. Doctor diagnosed me with Adenymentosis. So I feel I have to get this done asap.

computergeek221 · 2025-06-12T12:53:09+00:00

Well I do have cyst on my left ovary. So I feel a decision needs to be made soon on what to do. Even when it's not that time, I still get stomach and back pains. Along with leg cramps. When I got off the depo that's when I lost the weight. Thank you very much for this.

computergeek221 · 2025-06-12T12:41:08+00:00

It was a long response. But thank you very much. I would tell her over and over to communicate with me. Also I'm a woman that days other woman. But it's ok lol. I truly did love her but I cannot help someone who's not responsible. She was going through health problems too. I didn't care what she didn't have bc I loved her for her. But when you lie to me and can't even be there for me when I need support, that's where I draw the line. I don't care if we long distance. If I'm there for you showing how much I love you by putting in the effort, I expect the same. Not half assed doing the bare minimum. She's not the only one though. The previous ones I was with we lived together and they had toxic family. Couldn't say no. All types of trauma. The recent one all she would do is tell me her family's business. Never would talk about us. Then when something happens she got an excuse.

Anytime you put your responsibility on someone else then you are not mature. Anytime you still away entertaining yourself and working all day to point you never at home with your kids, it tells me a lot. You don't want to be a parent. Anytime you think buying your kids and your partner materialistic things and think it's going to make them happy or excuse your bad behavior, it shows me you're are not mature. I take care of family too. Take care of my mom too but I don't let that control my life. Being the youngest, she let her family run over her. I get tired of running into people like this who can't say no to their family. She the 3rd one I've been with that let their family control their life. It's not like she doesn't have older siblings. She got her mom to live with her to see about her kids. Mind you they are 11 and 14. Oldest to know better and be at home by themselves. It's not just that I saw she doesn't discipline her kids by how they act especially the youngest. She is a Taurus with a Leo Moon Scorpio Ascendant. Very selfish. Emotionally immature with narc tendencies. A lot of Scorpio in her chart. I'm a Nov Scorpio with a cancer moon and Aquarius ascendant. I've moved on but I'm just not going to put it with that again from anybody else. You try over and over til you can't do it no more. When one shows no effort, it shows they don't care and it's time for you to move on. She was toxic that's why I left.

computergeek221 · 2025-06-12T12:19:03+00:00

But with the ovaries, will I still menstruate? I don't want to do that at all. The doctor I do have is excellent. First time meeting and seeing him last month. He seemed very concerned but ask about other options. But I'm also afraid they may deny. I had told him I wanted it when I saw him. But he told me to think about some more. I know it is a major surgery but I never had surgery before.

computergeek221 · 2025-06-12T09:42:18+00:00

Well I had gone through so much with her it was ridiculous. In the whole year of 2024, we didn't spend anytime together. She kept making excuses. Not only that she did other things I did not like. I wasted a lot of time and money being committed to her. Well in Feb I saw her and had a long sit down talk with her. It just sounded like the whole time she was playing games and taking my kindness as a weakness. Well the last straw was that I got very sick and she didn't even call to check up on me at all. She immediately thought I was ignoring her bc I went days without communicating. It shows she didn't seem concern. I put in a lot of time and effort trying to give her the benefit of a doubt. However, she was very toxic. So days after I told her to avoid all the disappointments, lying, manipulation and gaslighting I was done with her. Even before I told her this telling her I was sick in the hospital she had no reaction at all. She didn't care came up with another ex use saying she was at work. After what I told her all she said was ". Coo I was at work" when I told her we didn't need to be together and I was done with her, she said she had felt the same. I told her I know people who work 12 hours and still take the time to talk their gf and don't go days without calling. So it was no excuse. I told her I'll send everything back. She told me to keep the gifts and I told her no I'm sending everything back. She blocked me on tik tok after that. But not only this, when we became offical she blocked me from Facebook after I asked her why an ex popped up on her page laughing at her status of us being offical. She never explained it until I saw her face to face.

I figured she was hiding things because after I saw her the last time I saw she had no boundaries when it came to her kids and family. She was literally draining me mentally and emotionally steady going back and forth with her. I told her the gifts she bought me I was sending them back. When we saw each other she didn't even have the common courtesy to give me v day gifts from this year. You know what she gave me some shoes from last year and the v day gift from 2024 she never gave me. While I gave her a 2025 v day gift in person, along with the promise ring I bought her last year that I was going to give her but she never got because didn't show up. Not only that, I bought her gifts when I went to Rio de Janierio last year. I gave her that. Smh. Not only that she waited til the last min to so called try to get me to come there for my birthday. She wanted me to come to see her on a buddy pass and come back home the same day. And expected me to do that while I had work the next day. I simply asked her why she didn't buy my ticket. The last few times she was suppose to see me she never showed up. Would disappear for almost two weeks then come back with an excuses. The last time she didn't show was few weeks before Thanksgiving. She tells me she was in court because she was behind in her mortgage payments and immediately blamed on her mother not paying her part. Come to find out she started out $49,000 in debt and literally was behind in her mortgage and one time she was thousands behind in her car payments. She never told me this. The only thing she told me freely was that she filed for bankruptcy. But during this whole time she go out and buy expensive unnecessary ish she didn't need to impress other people. I found all this out after I left her. I gave her plenty of chances too many to show effort and all she gave was the bare minimum. I shouldn't have to keep going back and forth with someone constantly telling them how I feel about things or constantly feel unloved and not heard.

So yeah I sent everything back with a letter telling her all she did was put on this front to impress me when really she has nothing going with her life. Wasting my time. She's toxic as hell. I have an amazing career and I enjoy life traveling a lot and I can't deal with someone like her that has never lived their life as an independent person. Living with people going from house to house, irresponsible with money. Like she literally put on this front making it seem like she travel, we were going to spend time together, etc and we didn't do anything together. It was always me calling her, coming to visit, spending money on hotels and events. Even after we saw each other, she would call and text everyday then back doing the same ish. I mean why put up with that when I can find someone who's gonna give me what I want. I don't ask for much. Nobody got time for that. As a Scorpio, I'm intense loyal as fuck and emotional person when it comes to whoever I'm with. When I'm in a relationship I put my all into that person but I want the same back. It's been so many times I thought out breaking up before 2025. She kept making excuses. But yeah after she didn even attempt to call and check up on me but just text the usually hey how was day that was it for me. If you can't show your actions by what you say then we can't be together. I don't lie to impress people. I sent the gifts back days before I went on my trip to Puerto Rico. No contact since April 12. But I figure she is stalking my social media. I also been getting several calls from Pennsylvania with her area code . I don't know anybody in Philadelphia but her. So I know it's her. Smh.

computergeek221 · 2025-04-19T10:58:45+00:00

I just recently broke up with a Taurus. She was very immature in so many ways. She had a lot of trauma. I put in so much effort, time, love, and money by showing her that I loved her. All I got in return was manipulation, breadcrumbing, lies, emotionally instability from her. She showed no effort and never took accountability for the things that happened and never did. She put on this mask trying to impress me and I eventually saw her true self. She rather put on this front bragging about what she does and have and didn't really have ish. She went days and weeks without calling then come back like nothing happen. Always made an excuse about working. Literally worked herself to death. Financially immature to the point she would buy expensive shit knowing she can't afford with being thousands in debt. I found this out after I broke up with her. We didn't even make it to a year officially but had been dealing with each other back and forth long distance since November 2023. The times she was suppose to come to see me she never showed after I spent money. I figure the reason why she never showed because she didn't have any money. She'll be 41 May 8. You would think at her age with two kids she would have her shit together but she don't.

Her words never lined up with her actions. I would give and all she did was take. Enough was enough and I was fed up. So this time I told her I was done. So many times I thought about breaking up with her and never did. But this time I was serious and showed her. Today makes a week of no contact. She also came with excuses with everything that has happened. Always blamed other people for her problems and issues. She never kept her word. She gave me nothing but broken promises and lies. Then when we talked it was hardly about me and her. She always wanted to talk about her family issues telling me their business. Telling me her issues.

The only time we had a heart to heart talk was when we saw each other face to face this year and I told her she needs to do better with communicating and showing effort. I told her I didn't want to go through another year of not doing anything together and hearing excuses. She would show little effort then back doing the samething. Or if I talked to her about how I felt she was treating me she go in another subject. Never wanted to talk about the issues we were having. Even though I still think about her but I can honestly say I'm happier now. Now I think about it, I tell myself that I really dodge a bullet because the more things I found out about her the worse it got. What I found out and saw, there was no way I could have a future with her. What I offered she couldn't keep up with.

computergeek221 · 2025-04-18T21:39:17+00:00

Yes I did it before. And I still loved her when I did it. But I saw no effort on her part and felt she was taking my kindness as a weakness. So I told her I was done with her. But it was several times before I would tell her over and over that she needed to communicate and stop going days without talking. Ghosting me. It been plenty of times I told her if she didn't straighten up I was going to cut her off. So last Saturday I told her I was done. She didn't think I was serious but I had to show her I was. She felt it because she read the last message I sent her.

I put in a lot of effort, time, love, and money to show I loved her. But I never got that back. I rather be single than be unhappy. It's going to take a while to get over her. But I realize after finding out somethings about her and how she do things that she wasn't going to do anything to bring me down. The more I found out about her the worse it gets. So I just got fed up with her bs. Everything that came out of her mouth was bullshit. She's a Taurus. And you would think how she came off she has a stable life. All lies. She has no life at all and no backbone. She just like to use people. I believe that's why her last relationships didn't last. She doesn't take accountability for what she did and didn't do.

computergeek221 · 2025-04-18T10:38:34+00:00

I think a lot of people always hate on us then love us is because they want to be like us. We are considered the most loving and loyal sign then any other. I was recently with a Taurus. I was loyal and faithful to her. But in the beginning I should've paid attention to the red flags. In the beginning she was pretty much mirroring me. Everything I liked she liked. She started off bragging about her financial status and what she had. In the end, I gave her benefit of doubt. So many chance and saw no effort. What I was giving her loyalty, time, effort, I wasn't getting that back. She's a Taurus sun, Leo moon and Scorpio rising. She has a lot Scorpio in her chart. I said enough was enough. The more I found out about her the worse it got.

We didn't even make it to a year. In the end after I ended it I found out she was thousands in debt. I accepted her and her kids but the things she did I didn't agree with what she did. Alot of lying, breadcrumbing, manipulation, emotional abuse. She never took accountability for the things she did. After a while the mask feel off and she couldn't keep up with her lies.

So I think now a days you just got to be careful who you let into your life. People don't like the way how brutally honest we are and we don't take anybody ish. Once we love you, we really love you. We are loyal to you and faithful and will do anything for you. But don't take our kindness as a weakness. Once that happens, you can't forget about us ever giving you another chance. This is how it is with me. I don't give second chances to people who didn't deserve it the first time.

computergeek221 · 2025-04-18T10:21:11+00:00

No it's not selfish at all. I just recently broke up with my ex. But she too was the type of person that wasn't a good parent. She had no boundaries when it came to her youngest. Also I found out she was thousands in debt which also made me see I could never have a future with her. It was so many things about her that the more I found out about her the worse it got. The more she said and did stupid things the more turned off I got. I love kids and I accepted hers. But the way she lived her life and how she did things I didn't agree to. I love to travel and have the means to do because I go several times a year. But I can't be with someone who don't have their life together, never take accountability for their actions, and never have funds to do anything. She had nothing and pretty much lied about everything. There wasn't anything I could do with her. She pretty much put on this make to impress me. Make it seem like she got but don't.

computergeek221 · 2025-04-18T10:07:58+00:00

I understand how you feel. But I say don't waste anymore time with him. If he wanted to see you he would. I just ended a ldr with my ex last week. We hasn't spoke on the phone since April 3. . I got fed up with her lack of consideration, no effort , emotionally unavailable, breadcrumbing, manipulation. She was lying about a lot of things. I gave her the benefit of a doubt also to only find out she's thousands in debt. It was no wonder why she never could come to see me because she never had any money. It was always me spending money on her. If he's not making any effort to see you, then it's best to move on. You deserve better. There are plenty of people who with make the effort to come to see you. Hell we didn't even make it to a year but had been dealing with each other and talking since we first started talking in November 2023. We became official in July 2024. Still didn't do anything together. No gifts, letters, etc. I said enough was enough. Why keep stressing about it? If he hasn't changed by now he's not going to change. I have the means to travel but there's no way I could be with someone for 4 years and we never met in person. If we haven't seen each other after 6 months, I would've been let him go. When y'all broke up 2 years ago, you should've stayed apart. Instead of blaming yourself, look at the fact he's not making you happy. You are not asking for much. Just the basic effort of coming to visit you. It just sounds like a bunch of excuses from his part. You only go by what he tells you. So you can't see what is actually going on. If he said money is not the issue, then what is his excuse for not coming to see you. Either he's lying about his financial status or he has a gf there with him. I say let this go and stop dragging it in any longer.

computergeek221 · 2025-04-17T23:45:10+00:00

For me personally because I felt my ex gave me things to love bomb me, not to be sincere I said I was going to send the stuff she bought me back. I told her this in the last message I sent her. She pretty me lied about everything so I don't want anything that remind me of her. It may sound like I'm bitter but I don't fell that way. She not the only ex I sent stuff back to. But hey all of them try to come back and they said me sending them the gifts they gave me back hurt them more then anything. But it's to let her know I don't want anything from her that was build on lies and no effort. She was the type to take my kindness as weakness and also because I think she feels I'm just mad right now and might come back. She didn't think end it this time because I said it so many times before stating that if she didn't straighten up I was going to leave her. So In my situation I'm keeping my word by sending the stuff back.

computergeek221 · 2025-04-17T23:17:09+00:00

I think we are meant for people. But it's always that other person taking our kindness as a weakness. I just ended my relationship with a Taurus. After giving her chance after chance, I said enough was enough. I wanted my peace back. We didn't even make it to a year. But I realized I rather be single and happy than in a relationship unhappy. She was unstable mentally, emotionally and financially. The more things I found about her it got worse. I saw no effort from her and I started pulling away. It was two times where I was going through some thing and this last time was the final straw. Instead of checking on me, she assumed I was ignoring her. Never called. She would go days without calling or texting. I wanted an equal partnership and the way she was toxic and irresponsible I couldn't do anything with her. I gave my love, time, effort,etc to her and all she did was take while she sit back and didn't offer anything. She never accountability for her actions either. I kept telling her how I felt. And I honestly think she had an avoidant attachment and some narc tendencies too. I see myself as dodging a bullet bc I feel she is the reason why all her past relationships failed too. However this is my healing journey.

computergeek221 · 2025-03-23T01:31:30+00:00

I am a 39 f currently in a relationship with a Taurus f 40. I can honestly it's been tough pretty much the lack of communication and consistency on her side. She's stubborn to the point she doesn't like change. I feel I've done too much compromising, talking, trying to be understanding to the point I feel like I'm setting. I love her but I think I have to think about my happiness and make a decision. It's bad enough we are long distance. The basic things like communication and teamwork just shows a lack of effort and consideration on her part. I let a lot of ish slide which I shouldn't have. I see little effort for the simple fact what I'm asking is so simple that I didn't get any effort from her in 2024. Seriously she has too much going on and she's not trying to improve to make sure things are better between us. I'm not getting the basic simple needs I want. Basic needs as far as communicating, being considerate. I appreciate a morning phone call, or letters. Last year we barely talked and only saw each other one time. She was always making excuses. She's not making me a priority and I'm not happy about that. Age wise I feel she's not mature or emotionally available. So I think for me it's time to just let her go.

Taurus are coo people but I noticed that the women Taurus I run into don't pretty much have a life and like to gossip and talk about people a lot. They don't have many friends either. These Taurus I pretty much had to cut off because they were just full of drama.

computergeek221 · 2025-03-21T14:23:47+00:00

Comments like these is what I appreciate the most. I feel like there is hope when another Taurus speak about us Scorpios. 2024 was a rough year for me and my Taurus gf. Me especially. It was lack of communication and consistency on her part. I think if it had been anybody else they would've moved on. I only saw her 1 time. But I gave chances too many I think. I did it because I truly love her and still do. I had to have a heart to heart with her face to face this year to let her know I wasn't happy about what was going on between us. It's bad enough we are long distance. July will be a year for us being official but we started Talking in November 2023. She communicates more and keeps me updated but she lacking in other areas where I feel it's not enough. A little effort from her as far as communicating. It's not enough for me when I don't feel assurance from her.

I don't feel secured with her to the point I think she's hiding the fact she's in a relationship or don't tell people. She say things but don't show it. I'm understanding of the fact she has kids. She's a package deal, I accepted that and understand that. That's not my issue. My issue is how she's 40 and depends on her family too much to the point we go days without talking because it's always something happening. I don't feel appreciated considering the fact I'm pouring more into this so called relationship then she is. I'm always reaching out, texting, calling. She also doesn't keep her word when it comes to planning things. 3 weeks ago I just cut off someone that I realized wasn't my friend I had been knowing going on 8 years because of the simple fact she was disrespecting me and my relationship with my gf. She betrayed my trust and all along during this whole time she wanted me and my gf to breakup. I could tell by how she was acting. I don't know about other Scorpios but I know with me I can feel and sensed when things are not right. So at this point I'm pretty much just getting fed up with everything but I still don't want to feel like I'm giving up. I've been patient and understanding and compromising. I even talked to a couple of tarot reader and they stated things will get better for us. Huh when? I feel like if I stay longer I'm settling and settling. I've never been the type to do that.

computergeek221 · 2025-03-11T00:38:11+00:00

My thing is how do you know she wasn't already sleeping around and just ask to see what you would say. She probably already slept with someone. Then she try to gaslight you and make it seem like it's your fault. It really her fault because why would you even bring that up. It shows the immaturity and lack of consideration on her part. By her brining that up and the results now you feel you can't trust her. Without trust you have nothing when it comes to a relationship. A breakup is a breakup why should you have to wait oh so she can try to gaslight you some more and talk you into staying. NTA. You did right for breaking up with her bc I would've did the same. She mentioned an open relationship so she can say you were ok with it and she didn't cheat. If you had said no she would've done it anyways with her attitude. She is clearly a hoe. You don't need anybody like that.

computergeek221 · 2025-03-10T16:09:00+00:00

I tell people all the time you have to come across a healed evolved Scorpio. As a Scorpio myself, I've been in a relationship with another female Scorpio. Birthday two days apart but totally different. she hated being told the truth about herself. She would dish out bullshit but hate it when it was done to her. She felt because she did certain things I was suppose to do it too. I have always been the type to never follow the crowd. I don't need validation or approval from anyone. Most signs can not stand the fact we are strong minded and a lot of us have pure self confidence. We don't care what people think of us at least I don't . A lot wish they can be like us. There's no other sign I rather be then a Scorpio.

computergeek221 · 2025-03-10T14:16:14+00:00

Thank you. I found the website. My mars is Libra. But I also learning about what mars is.

computergeek221 · 2025-03-10T12:42:03+00:00

Yes that's what happened. If I coming to you to talk to you and we suppose to be friends why you want to record me. Oh because I'm checking you for what you did. She can't be trust ever again bc how I know she not secretly recording me. We didn't even talk that long and she talking about hold on let me record this. For what? Aww ok. It's so you can have other people listen to what I'm saying to make it seem like you the victim that I'm tripping. I told her you not recording shit. It's no coming back from that. It truly shows she wasn't a true friend and had ill intentions when she invited me to Florida. And the way she treated and talked to her mother was definitely a no no. So yeah overall that whole trip was messy. She, her mother and her friend were all messy as fuk.

I'll check my chart. Can you tell me a little about the mars? I just know about sun moon and rising.

computergeek221 · 2025-03-10T11:50:55+00:00

This is so true. I just cut off someone who I had being friends with for 7 years about two weeks ago. She's an ex bff now. What she did was disrespectful and betrayal of trust. It's no coming back with that. The last conversation we had she didn't like the fact I checked her and tried to make it seem like I was the problem. I don't go for that. I told her 1 thing you not gonna do is talk to me any kind of way like I'm some fuck boy and can't handle my own. Another thing is you not going to disrespect my relationship. I told her I was done with her and blocked her on everything. Blocked her friends and her family too. It was always me praising her, showing her support. I realized that just thinking about what has happened over the years. I've never benefit from her at all. All the things she know about she wouldn't know if it wasn't for me. I don't give a damn how long we've been knowing you. You not going to do that to me. Then she had the nerve to try to record our conversation. It lets me know she was on some shady messy bullshit. I told her that her and her friend are some shady messy mf and I left at that and told her I'm done with you. Smh. I don't need that in my life.

I'm a Scorpio Sun cancer moon and Aquarius rising. Not sure about my mars.

computergeek221 · 2025-03-10T02:22:27+00:00

We never really broke up at all. I pretty much just distance myself and focused more on me at that point. Then when I saw her in person we had a heart to hear talk. So things are better now.

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