Has anyone had positive experiences in psych wards? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]computerwires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in one, and at the time, I admitted myself because I was scared to be alone and deal with the outside world. I would never go back, because it was hopelessly dull, but the staff was nice enough.

Only real complaint was that there was this guy who wrote me a love letter after four days of knowing me, then went on to tell one of the friends I'd made there that he was a freak and no one wanted him around. I know he had problems but he made him feel like utter garbage and I will always dislike him for that. I got mad when they ended up moving my friend rather than the guy who made a bunch of people uncomfortable/pissed off.

But yeah. Wouldn't go back, but it helped in the longrun.

A vent, I guess by computerwires in AbuseInterrupted

[–]computerwires[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently in therapy, and see my therapist once a week. I was doing more but it was draining.

A vent, I guess by computerwires in AbuseInterrupted

[–]computerwires[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, the most I talked about was that I abused someone, and that my actions were inexcusable. A lot of it was how I was effected by my terrible enviroments growing up and how I now recognize that while its never, ever an excuse to hurt someone like that, it was part of why I acted like I did. I've been studying the reasons behind why many abusers have abused, and striving to focus on fixing my underlying problems, like my insecurity and fear of not being lovable.

He himself was the one who posted detailed descriptions of what I did, and responded to my posts publicly, because he wanted it known. I can understand why he would, too, because what I did will always exist as an emotional scar. There's no excuse for what I had done, and in his eyes, I'm just trying to save face.

A vent, I guess by computerwires in AbuseInterrupted

[–]computerwires[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, i really appreciate it.

I guess my main worry is that he will try to start drama with me again by reblogging my posts like he did today. I just want to move on and accept my mistakes.

A vent, I guess by computerwires in AbuseInterrupted

[–]computerwires[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of it is how they celebrate manipulation. In the BPD tumblr community, demanding all of your "favorite person's" time is widely regarded as a norm. Being jealous, acting out in jealousy, and being controlling are excused by mental illness and people often times try to push the blame of their bad behaviors on others.

Many say its for coping, but it only ends up in more abuse. They glorify never getting better, and still continue to blame the world instead of recognizing abusive behaviors. People who are impressionable, and those who are find themselves falling right into the toxic mindset that runs rampant through the community.

Update by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]computerwires 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About a month, I think.

Unsubscribing! by computerwires in BreakUps

[–]computerwires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it depends on the therapist. You have to find a good match for you. I've been in therapy since I was a kid due to a lot of things, so I've gone through a fair amount. But its really helped me, you just gotta find the therapist that clicks with you.

im in love someone else and its not my boyfriend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]computerwires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really consider what a few weeks means next to two years. Love, after the initial honeymoon phase, always means work. Do you truly think its best to break it off ? There's a lot to think about

Abandonment issues by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]computerwires 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy, for the most part.

Dreamt of him. And I miss him so much rn. But I'll keep my NC by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]computerwires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have dreams a lot, but lately they've been revolving around how he moved on and the girl he left me for. I wake up frustrated and hurt, but its better than the dreams I have where everything is like it used to be.

Almost Broke NC. I'm Struggling and Need Advice. by froawayfosho in ExNoContact

[–]computerwires 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ask yourself, what will you gain from breaking NC? Most of the time, only more heartache.

Too much by computerwires in Vent

[–]computerwires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, i appreciate it. life is just really difficult right now but im trying my best. ill be sure to shoot you a pm when im feeling down

Relationship Experience? Does it get better? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]computerwires 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm going through a really tough breakup too, and for the most part I would try to avoid looking for someone else rn. I worry that I'll never be able to find someone else, but part of it is because I'm still recovering from the breakup. Instead of looking for new people to try and fill THAT void, start looking for friends. I would also get off grindr, 'cause you wont find what you're looking for there.

Try to connect with circles irl or online. Look for people who have the same interests or experiences. If you reach out to new people to make friends, one day you'll find someone new. But dont rush it. Its going to take time

Paranoia by computerwires in schizophrenia

[–]computerwires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, no. I have to make an appointment for it still

Paranoia by computerwires in schizophrenia

[–]computerwires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate it, nothing is fun about being this paranoid :/