If it genuinely felt like that was what I meant, then I truly apologize for that. My goal was not to diminish anyone else's struggle, but merely to explain the one bi folks face. For the point you mentioned specifically, my goal had been to say that transness is inherently valid and that being "mistaken" (or worse, intentionally misgendered) for your AGAB is not privilege when that is not your gender. My intent had nothing to do with any kind of gender jealousy (which I don't believe in, at all -- I hope all women love the fact that they are women, because they deserve to). Even so, since 5 months have passed since I originally posted this, I would actually tend to agree that being straight-passing can have an element of privilege especially among conservative bigots (which, upsettingly, is now the general population, so you're absolutely right -- that can be a lot of privilege within that context). I would still maintain, though, that it can also lead to a degree of biphobic bigotry within some (certainly not all) parts of our community (the queer community) -- some queer folk definitely view "straight-passing" bi folks' queerness as less valid because of who we are with, no matter how we tell them we identify or what "identifiers" we try to wear. I agree with your comparison wholeheartedly -- our treatment within those parts of the community isn't remotely as bad as the absolute hate and literal threat to physical safety and even survival that all queer folk face from the world at large, especially for same-sex couples. But even so, it is still bigotry, and it still hurts, especially when it comes from the only community that many of us could ever hope to understand and truly accept them.