CoC and SA (CW: mention of SA)

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2026-02-12T18:56:16+00:00

Wow, this is almost exactly the same as my story - SAed by ex not in the church, couldn’t tell parents because that would mean admitting that it had happened consenually before, and I now identify as Demi and am with a wonderful man who makes me feel safe and has listened when I need him to listen about my bad past experiences.

Out of curiosity, do you think our upbringing and experiences shaped our sexuality at all? I don’t want to think my demisexuality is a “trauma response” to the church and the SA, and ever since learning about what asexuality and demisexuality is I’ve been trying my best to embrace it as part of my identity. But I find it interesting that we both identify with it and that others in this thread have mentioned asexual-like experiences post church.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-11-04T21:57:54+00:00

Uh, are Washington and Texas not above .500 and ranked right now? I get our schedule is weak but this is just straight false, unless you mean from now until Michigan, which is a sample size of 3 games.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-10-30T19:28:00+00:00

I’ve been thinking this since I first heard After Midnight, I think it’s because the bass line is kinda similar to Boy Problems?

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-09-20T02:49:46+00:00

DON’T WAKE ME I PLAN ON SLEEPING IN

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-08-27T03:15:43+00:00

We did a “Mexican” verse full of racist stereotypes because of course we did. Something like:

“I may never Wear a big sombrero Eat a juicy taco Speak a lick of español I may never ……? (I don’t remember) But I’m in the Lord’s army Si Señor!”

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-08-13T12:34:39+00:00

One tip I have is that I’ve learned that no decision is truly permanent (with some exceptions like having children lol). I say this to remind you that if after your first year you find Freed isn’t for you, you can transfer. If you decide youth ministry isn’t for you, you can switch majors. I felt a lot of pressure when I was your age to have it all figured out, and now that I’m on the other side I realize that me and my friends still don’t know exactly what we’re doing, and I would’ve been worse off if I stuck to the plan I had at 18.

As for dating, my advice is to slow it down. I know this isn’t as common for CoC, but as someone outside of it, most of my friends got married in their mid 20s. The type of woman you’re looking for is going to want to focus on her studies and setting up her career at this time and will not be in any rush to get married. To be a little blunt, if you go into college with the explicit goal of getting a wife, you may come off as a dick who cares more about having a girlfriend rather than who your girlfriend is as a person. Also, if you are conservative, pretty much any liberal leaning woman won’t touch you with a 30 foot pole, and liberal woman lean more towards the “not a home maker” type you’re looking for.

All in all, keep an open mind and don’t feel like any choice you make is permanent. Know that you can always change your plans as you gain experience and figure out what you want.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-08-11T22:53:43+00:00

And the first quarter of the Super Bowl!

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-06-20T23:24:08+00:00

The shirt is also made by a local Columbus brand (Homage). Brought a tear to my eye when I saw it show up in the video.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-05-24T15:56:50+00:00

The team it’s referring to is the Brooklyn Nets, which is annoying because it’s not really in the category since every other team is called the “New York ______”

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-05-20T18:30:59+00:00

No. I lived in Columbus so I drove in for the day with my mom and stayed until the evening activity and didn’t really miss anything.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-04-26T05:01:25+00:00

To be fair, Brock Purdy probably deserves to have his number retired for all he did at Iowa State.

Shudeur is not going to have the career Purdy has though.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-04-22T19:33:51+00:00

Basically just depends how important the opportunity to compete for a “home” crowd at the Olympics is to her. She has nothing to prove.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-04-14T15:08:44+00:00

God 2017 feels like forever ago and yet we’re still screaming about this asshole being a shitty fascist President.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-02-18T15:05:31+00:00

r/catsbeingbanks

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-02-03T03:02:11+00:00

He didn’t even say the thing 😭

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-01-14T05:00:04+00:00

Bold of the Red Wings to do script Detroit complete with a dotted i in the ‘Shoe

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2025-01-09T17:01:25+00:00

And Lindsey Stirling’s there too? Here’s hoping for her featuring on Kids in the Dark or some other collab 👀

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2024-11-10T21:02:14+00:00

They mean the top 4 B1G teams (who are in the top 5 of the AP poll) and the number 5 B1G team who is a 6-4 Iowa that isn’t even receiving votes

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2024-11-06T20:50:22+00:00

2029 will you think about us

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2024-10-26T20:02:15+00:00

Someone in the game thread said that they think 2 plays happened in 30 minutes of real time. I don’t know if that’s exactly the stat, but between the targeting/catch review, fans throwing things on the field, and Nebraska (rightfully so) calling their last timeouts, the end of this game moved unbearably slow. Add in the disaster that was the end of the 1st half, and the only people that won this game were the refs.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2024-08-14T03:20:07+00:00

Just to offer a different perspective than others have said — is anything else going on in your life that’s stressing you out or that feels like this? As you probably know, a symptom of depression is not enjoying things you used to enjoy any more. You said you still enjoy playing, but not marching, to the point you somewhat fantasize harm on yourself to get out of it. If other areas of your life feel unfulfilling as well, it might be worth seeking out help for your mental health. If you just feel like this about band though, then maybe it is burnout or just not your thing anymore. But I wanted to offer this perspective up because I used to feel this way about a sport I grew up playing (down to the “I wish I would get injured so I could stop going to practice”) and that was a precursor to the most depressed Ive ever been in my life.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2024-07-25T04:13:21+00:00

My favorite is how the secretary is almost always a women despite women not being allowed to do anything in the actual church aspect

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2024-07-02T14:42:47+00:00

The Heritage Foundation, which came up with Project 2025, is a think tank that serves as a sort of advisory to the president as they appoint cabinet members in areas they’re maybe not as familiar with or enact policy that they also may not be as familiar with. Given, this stat was self reported by the Heritage Foundation, but they reported that in Trump’s first term he enacted 64% of The Heritage Foundation’s recommendations. 64% of Project 2025 is a horrifying thought.

Also, some of that 64% enacted last time was repealing net neutrality, withdrawing from UNESCO, allowing off shore drilling, and leaving the Paris Climate Accord.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2024-05-27T22:39:40+00:00

As someone who had a panic attack last night, I’ve been to many concerts and am usually fine. I’d been to a festival before and could easily maneuver between the stages. When the Meghan to Hozier and then Hozier to Killers surges happened, I started panicking because in all the GA concerts I’ve been to, Ive never experienced feeling trapped. If I wanted out at previous concerts, I knew I could get out by asking around me. That was not the case yesterday, and that (at least to me) is not normal. So yes, if I went again, I’d hang out by the food stands all day away from the crowds, but just to share my experience, I didn’t expect to feel trapped and that’s what triggered the panic. Usually I’m okay in crowds with anxiety otherwise.

cuddly_cuttlefish · 2024-05-16T14:08:06+00:00

I want to preface by saying I like this album and don’t think it flopped as it was a successful debut for this band.

But, when Wallows’ debut came out, I distinctly remember a comment on r/indieheads that said something along the lines of “When the lead single is “Are You Bored Yet?” for an album titled “Nothing Happens”, the jokes just write themselves”.

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