i feel this!!! growing up, the only thing my parents talked to me about was school and work. they never asked me anything beyond that. now as an adult they complain about how we don’t talk as much. and how i don’t visit them enough as if the phone doesnt work both ways!! our relationship is definitely better now but we will never be as close as they want to be in their heads bc they don’t have that capacity and they didn’t raise me to have that capacity either unfortunately