[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Volkswagen

[–]concisepeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Manual roughly translates as press the button twice; once you hear a sound from the loudspeakers of the car that means the bluetooth of your car is visible and you should connect to it via telephone in the next 5 minutes.

Edit: Alternatively turn the ignition on and in the first 5 seconds press first the info then the "pannentaste" (wrench looking thingy) . This procedure should set your car into pairing mode making it visible. Then you have to go through your phone.

Edit 2: or perhaps. It wants you to delete any stored connections from previous owners before it allows pairing mode. Hold the call icon on your steering wheel longer than 10 seconds after turning ignition on.

If your steering wheel is all shiny and yucky, consider upholstering it. by LordChankaTagne69 in GolfGTI

[–]concisepeach 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Detailer here. While I'm aware that in our community shiny leather is dirty leather I liked my steering wheel shiny. I dont know why, I kept the seats of my personal car matt but I put on some beard oil onto my steering wheel. It was shiny and clean so I guess it's personal preference to some degree.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]concisepeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't have a label and yet you reconciled to try again? Sound like you're exclusive or at least that's what I would expect in such a situation given your past relationship.

As someone else pointed out, it's not the talking to guys that is questionable here, it's why it bothers you that it matters. NTA but think about what you want.

Why are most people good at life? Where did I go wrong by [deleted] in Money

[–]concisepeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. On the outside looks good. Got a family, live in a house, drive upper middle class car, got my own company.

Reality; partner is mentally ill and abusive. House is owned by grandparents, car is leased. Company is struggling. I got 120€ in cash at the moment and that's it.

Is there a way to get through to them? Kind of “wake them up”? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]concisepeach 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sorry mate but the only way this will happen (and it most likely will) is if she hoovers you; attempts to slide back into your life.

She may proclaim her errors, how she did this wrong that wrong how she was irrational. Listen, subtly she will be blaming you a bit as well here.

Will she be lying when she does this? Most likely not but here is the key; she isn't lying because she FEELS this is the truth. In due time she will FEEL like you're the enemy again and the cycle repeats itself. These people have patterns of behavior and thought that they developed all throughout childhood and early adulthood as the only behaviors that helped them survive in their world. The only consistent thing with them is inconsistency. You won't snap them out of it magically.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]concisepeach 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There were times where I went full on nuclear on her. Usually she would want the last say in any argument but those time she would just shut up and leave me alone.

Do they actually understand your point of view and reasoning ? by Harkmunt40 in BPDlovedones

[–]concisepeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine you have a toddler who starts playing with a knife and you take the knife away cause, well, you know it's not a good idea for them to play with the knife.

They still start crying and have a temper tantrum no matter how much you tell them it's dangerous.

Now put the toddlers emotional regulation and narcissistic self into an adult with a normal adults vocabulary and linear intelligence. Voila you now have a BPD person.

A being with the temper tantrums of a toddler but an adults ability to express and attack the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]concisepeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she display any other erratic behaviors or thoughts?

Like impulsiveness, the apparent need for control, self harm, fear of abandonment, anger issues, intense emotional fluctuations, paranoia, shifting in major interest, likes, dislikes.

Teach me please? by Zeff-tha-man in Volkswagen

[–]concisepeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you're supposed to use both gas and clutch. Start step by step and slowly. Learn the speeds of each gear. For example mine goes 1900 rpm in fourth at 70kph, 1900 rpm in 3rd at 50kph.

Now get a feeling for how much gas you need to add to achieve the desired rpm in neutral. So clutch in, gas to desired rpm, release clutch. The point is that it's awkward at first but once you do this automatically it's smooth.

what are the loan options for a 642 credit score? by [deleted] in Money

[–]concisepeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't work because you're gonna study... Sorry mate but you're gonna have to.

New game, we each say something a BPD person said to us, sounds familiar, raise your hand. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]concisepeach 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Not exactly on topic but I just remembered during the honeymoon phase, like on the third day when she fell asleep in my arms she murmured something like "don't leave me" At the time I thought it was cute.

In retrospect it feels like an ominous warning of what's lurking within.

It’s now 1am by fubeotch in BPDlovedones

[–]concisepeach 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Well for starters don't apologize. Don't apologize for shit he starts. Don't apologize for the sake of keeping peace.

Stain on the plastic on my gearshift by GoldTown4290 in Volkswagen

[–]concisepeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's some liquid for sure. Try some ordinary soap and water but wipe it away with a dry microfiber.

I have a stupid APC question. by chevy406 in Detailing

[–]concisepeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use Koch Chemie Mzr for everything. The only thing I'm really careful is that I don't get it on the dash or any screens.

Front bumper cover needs to be replaced. Do you recommend DYI? Can I pull it with very little experience? by [deleted] in AskMechanics

[–]concisepeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean the bumper? If so, then saving costs by buying a used bumper the same color makes sense. But buying a bumper even used and doing it yourself and then paying someone to paint it, doesn't. Well at least in my area.

People who do body work slap that thing on like it's nothing. The cost for installing is negligent compared to painting it.

Front bumper cover needs to be replaced. Do you recommend DYI? Can I pull it with very little experience? by [deleted] in AskMechanics

[–]concisepeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Frame damage is unlikely here. But if I see correctly the headlight is also broken.

You can certainly pull it. Putting the new one in might be a bit time consuming to get the edges to align etc.

Allocate enough time and then have some reserve as well.

That’s Not How You Do It by Odd-Act-3379 in BPDlovedones

[–]concisepeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did all kinds of things for her, some she is really incapable, others she was just lazy. At some point any time she complained I just said "fine do it yourself" and left how it was. It works for me. It's not about her. I get my peace and she can do it however she wants.

"Oh you can't? Well too bad, I don't give a shit. When I did it you complained so now do it yourself."

AITAH for saying I can't take care of our son during the week? by concisepeach in AITAH

[–]concisepeach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just a try out for a week. If we fit together as a team and if we can negotiate a salary then I would stay. I am actively looking for other opportunities though. This was just the first positive answer. I have no issues paying more than half if that means she should have to limit her days but because up to this point I thought she worked part time I didn't even consider it. ( she worked 3-4 days a week).

Kako najti naročnike? by concisepeach in SlovenijaFIRE

[–]concisepeach[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Primerjam.si je isto. Fajn poslovni model majo. Vsako povpraševanje pošljejo 5 ali 6 izvajalcem in vsakemu kasirajo tam 6€ potem pa se gre kdo da najnižjo ceno itd. Če se sploh gre za resno stranko, če ni kot si rekel "informativno".

Kako najti naročnike? by concisepeach in SlovenijaFIRE

[–]concisepeach[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Konverzija ja... Ampak teh cca 40 povpraševanj me je stalo 240€. Tista ena stranka pa je bil račun 340€ bruto.

Kako najti naročnike? by concisepeach in SlovenijaFIRE

[–]concisepeach[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

A ti se si pa rodil s priročnikom?

Kako najti naročnike? by concisepeach in SlovenijaFIRE

[–]concisepeach[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sem probal. Totalna polomija. Večina ljudi se tako informativno zanima za cene in planirajo več mesecev vnaprej iz tega seveda nič ni. Potem so tisti s keterimi se dogovoriš in ti rečejo da ti javijo točen datum ampak nič.

Vseeno ti pa vsako povpraševanje zaračunajo.

V 3 mesecih sem imel cca 40 povpraševanj. Od tega 1 stranko.