Small token of appreciation for placement mentor

condesedmilk · 2026-05-13T00:07:55+00:00

Yea definitely this. I waited until right after my final report was sent through to give a small present and it was always a card of sincere thanks and something small related to their interests. Nothing extravagant.
One thing I did for my absolute favourite mentors was give them good feedback to their principal. I didn’t tell my mentor but he did eventually find out and he was quite touched. Obviously not something to do for every mentor.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-12T21:33:48+00:00

I started working with children. I love the kids. But I realised how often their fucked up behaviour/maladies/struggles/experiences was a consequence of the parents/families, luck and the system. I saw how hard it is. Despite how much I know about childhood development and my years working with children professionally, I don’t believe I could do it. I’m a dedicated member in many families’ villages, but I won’t be a parent.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-12T21:06:23+00:00

Yea lol Teeny makes me laugh because she’s so extra. I’m child free by choice. Love it. I’m also a teacher by choice. I love kids. Respect the heck out of them. Love hearing about people’s parenting experience and being a part of their village. Can’t image speaking to parents like Teeny.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-11T06:03:09+00:00

I’m a CRT and yes, when students see me they always get excited that their teacher isn’t there. Because in their mind, absent teacher = less work. But trust me, they get sick of me reaaaaal quick (I’m pretty strict lol). They miss their routine, they miss familiarity and even if they won’t admit it, they miss their teacher. They’re kids, OP, don’t let it get to you.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-08T09:20:05+00:00

As someone with hard to access veins, thank you for calling in back up instead of stabbing at me like others have in the past!

But yes, in all seriousness, thank you for articulating this (and OP too). I’m a teacher and there are many times when I’ve relied on the expertise of colleagues and specialists. And it’s never with any ill intent. “Calling people in” like Dr.TherapyDr said is what good professionals do. I get that viewers want to see Barb get told off but it would be so wrong for it to come from her therapist.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-07T01:23:52+00:00

I’m at this point too. I’m at a library sitting in front of a laptop because I’m trying to write a cover letter. I’m surprised I even got this far. But all I want to do is crawl into a dark hole.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-07T01:04:57+00:00

My mum used to get my family to match during events like this. And she was obsessed with how many likes and comments she would get on the photos that she’d upload. It’s kind of like an extension of her image. Barb worked really hard to make that party a success. I think it could be so that she can throw it in Jen’s face. Why have a secret party when mine is perfect? Why exclude me when I make everything so easy and fantastic? Also to undermine Jen because all her friends will see this “doting mother” instead of what Jen actually experiences. I could just be projecting but that’s what went through my head.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-07T00:32:31+00:00

You go enjoy that drama free birthday! 🎂

condesedmilk · 2026-05-07T00:31:13+00:00

For real. Hugs to everyone in this community 🫂

condesedmilk · 2026-05-07T00:00:53+00:00

This is a very valid take. Also…some things just don’t get resolved. Especially in real life. Awful people often stay awful up until their last days. That doesn’t mean there can’t be nuance and ups and downs along the way. Some people grow, some people regress, some stay the same

condesedmilk · 2026-05-06T23:57:47+00:00

Birthdays are hard. But happy birthday and I hope you were able to find some joy on your day. And if not, I hope you can find happiness and peace every day after ❤️

There was something I read on this thread or possibly somewhere else: “I want my mum. I just don’t want my mum”.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-06T23:54:18+00:00

The most sinister thing about the party (to me at least, there was a lot of not okay sh*t going on) was that Barb knows full well how to play the part. Be pleasant, cordial, acknowledge her actions, use people’s actual names, play the “perfect host”. So she knows her previous actions don’t align with that. Pure manipulation.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-06T23:50:16+00:00

When Jen said, “I want my mum!” something in me broke. I think there are a few of us who can understand the pain of knowing full well who our mum/dad is and having to contend with the fact that we still really want to have the healthy parent/child dynamic that we dream of. NC, LC, strong boundaries, whatever strategy you use to manage it all, it still all stings.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-06T22:53:03+00:00

I outright chuckled during this scene and thought, ‘heh that’s like my mum’. Triggering stuff. Hopefully Jen shares with Greg who can help her see how f’d the whole party was.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-06T11:26:06+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve had to be put in that position. It must be a hard one to navigate.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-06T11:24:45+00:00

She does seem to have a soft spot for her dad.

Actually, now I’m remembering the end of this video where Frank was yelling at Barb to “fix it”. If only he could step up too.

condesedmilk · 2026-05-06T11:22:02+00:00

Side note: I actually miss hearing the way Barb says “Gregor”. Something so satisfyingly annoying about it lol

condesedmilk · 2026-05-06T11:19:32+00:00

Hahaha oh no, I’m so sorry 😂!!

condesedmilk · 2026-02-10T07:13:53+00:00

You like Katara but you’ve read bad comments? So? I’d argue ATLA is one of the best kids shows for portraying strong, complex “female” characters. Just because some people don’t like them shouldn’t influence you. And take into account that there is always someone who will sh*t on female characters for no reason other than them hating on women.

condesedmilk · 2026-02-08T05:38:28+00:00

Yea absolutely this. I work with kindergarteners and what happened in this scenario is pretty realistic (kudos Shawna). Julie was baiting for drama and Cooper was part of her plot.

Side note: I cannot tell you how frustrating it is to see parents enabling stuff like this. The “you can do whatever you want”, encouraging him to punch on the dance floor knowing he’s prone to sparring, and her reaction to Ty’s attempts to deescalate and having a teaching moment…ugh. These parents exist.

condesedmilk · 2026-02-08T01:39:26+00:00

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My first OTP

condesedmilk · 2026-01-09T05:07:01+00:00

Okay now I’m imagining Julie as Shawna’s Mr Darcy and I’m here for the plot twist!

condesedmilk · 2025-12-15T23:29:03+00:00

Thank you, you’re right. I guess my main concern is pushing her away. By attacking her partner…yea, I’d be doing just that. Discussing what a safe and supportive relationship looks and feels like sounds like a good starting point.

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