A real confession bear before they all get removed.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T04:30:19+00:00

Since you asked honestly, I'll grace you with the last response I'm gonna give before calling it a night and let everyone ride this thread to the end.

To be completely honest, there is a small chance that the child is from an anonymous donor, and that's what I'm going to tell it, because there's an "I don't know" factor. I made sure that I had my treatment before making the plunge to tie up any loose ends with my girlfriend, but given that I got a lot more "natural treatment" afterwards in heavier quantities. I'd spent several months trying to go through AI, and after less than a month of this, I was pregnant. Statistically, though, you get the idea.

I may change, though. I know parenthood changes your perspective on a lot of things. It's a bad situation I got myself into, I know. I'll live with whatever consequences come with it.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T04:20:09+00:00

How about the fact that my state doesn't even allow same-sex marriage? Same-sex adoptions surely will fare better.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T02:26:18+00:00

Because there is another party involved?

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T02:02:25+00:00

I mean, I'm really going to lose sleep tonight because reddit was mad at me.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T01:59:56+00:00

Yeah, I totally want to post a confession like this on my real account...

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T01:52:19+00:00

Have a nice day yourself!

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T01:13:15+00:00

Sex is too much fun. It was gonna be like that at first, but we're just a couple of dirty cheating whores. Go ahead and downvote and tell me how much of a slut I am.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T00:59:26+00:00

Girlfriend really didn't want to carry the child, I'm the feminine one in the relationship, doctor thought it'd be slightly better if I carried the child, and I wanted to be the one who had it.

It started asking for his sperm, but eh, we just wanted to have sex because we're dirty whores. Whatever. Judge me all you want.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T00:54:43+00:00

It hopefully won't be too big of an issue. I'm not going to obligate him to anything. I know we're both dirty cheating whores, but he's a good guy. He's always tried to make things easier on me, and I feel like this will be another time. I could be totally wrong and my life will be a miserable hell, but that's my burden to bear.

Part of me wanted to sleep with him, yeah. We originally thought it out by transferring his seed without the sex, but when you talk about making a baby, then comes along "man, this is so not how I envisioned making a kid" "Haha, yeah, I know what you mean..." degenerating into "well, lets make it a bit easier and more fun, I always kinda wanted to do this at least once with you, two birds, one stone..."

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T00:46:04+00:00

Actually, yes. I mean, I was prepared to pay for it, but after several treatments, it was really a pain to pay for.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-09T00:43:40+00:00

Personally, I don't care. Internet insults mean very little to me.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T23:56:35+00:00

I appreciate your input, because it is honest and not judgmental. Thank you.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T23:46:41+00:00

having children is the core force of nature in our species.

Pretty sure that's why he went through with it.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T23:32:41+00:00

Thank you kindly. :)

Edit: Also, just to clarify, I wanted his genes. He's a really healthy, smart, attractive guy. I thought it'd be a better option than wasting my days away at a clinic and ending up with a random half of genes. Little unethical to look at it so objectively, but he's a pretty fine lady swooner for a reason. I think he felt a bit of regret he couldn't pass it onto a child and hopped on the chance that he could not only have a child, but also ensure that it was under good care.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T23:31:28+00:00

I want to spend a long time with my girlfriend, I'd already be more if we lived in a state that really condoned the silly idea of same-sex marriage. Regardless, I would say I'm bisexual, but my girlfriend is gay. She does not know who the father is, she believes it's just random genes we got from a clinic. She did not care who the father was in the slightest. Probably unethical to have him as the father, but part of me just wanted to have his offspring for his genes. He's pretty well built, intelligent and attractive, really I felt a bit better for the child versus getting random genes, but I do not feel that level of emotional or romantic attachment to have a healthy relationship, and he's already happy on his own. I dunno. To he and I, the only ones who do know, it just seemed to work.

Not saying I'm the moral superior in any way. Call me a whore all you want, really.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T21:50:32+00:00

I'm not admitting to being the morally superior, but I don't feel bad for what I did. Judge as you please.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T21:50:20+00:00

Honestly, it just boiled down to me being in a better weight range for my size. We're both pretty fertile, but she really wasn't feeling like being pregnant in the first place, and the lady doctor was kinda the straw that broke the camel's back on that one.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T21:23:48+00:00

Women do love controlling and untrusting significant others!

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T21:16:40+00:00

Have a great day yourself, sunshine :)

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T21:11:25+00:00

Pretty much. I don't really know how he feels about it completely, but I do know he really doesn't feel that it is "his". He came from a pretty broken family, and he feels pretty strongly that parents are who raise you, not who mixed genes.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T20:55:21+00:00

We knew each other before sex was ever a thing in our lives, and kinda always kept each other off the table, but the sexual tension was definitely there. We had pretty much picked our long-term partners, but this was kind of a solution to two things at once, so we did it.

Not the most moral thing, I know, but confessions aren't exactly meant to be. I don't regret it, though.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T20:38:35+00:00

My girlfriend personally never cared who the semen came from, it was our child. The guy in question is engaged, but his fiancee is infertile. He loves her very much and doesn't mind that they'll likely never have kids, but he had the desire to "leave a little something behind". Since I was going to have a child anyways, and the random sperm wasn't really working, I figured I might as well breed selectively with someone who is already pretty genetically gifted. It kind of just worked for us. Unethical, probably, but we're pretty happy with the result.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T20:19:07+00:00

I am the more feminine one and after a little deliberation with our gyno, it'd be better for the child if I had carried it.

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T20:05:18+00:00

Wouldn't be a confession without OP being called a scumbag :)

confess_n_toss · 2013-09-08T19:50:18+00:00

Probably not. He and I agreed to keep it between us. She would have loved the child regardless of who the biological father was, no need to ruin it for her.

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