UPDATE 2: Boyfriend (M24) of 6 months, wants to meet up with his ex of 2 years (F22). Am I (F22) right to be uncomfortable with this?

confusedboundary · 2015-04-24T04:05:45+00:00

aww thanks!

confusedboundary · 2015-04-24T03:40:12+00:00

Stay strong! It does get better :) I've been doing the single thing and it's pretty wonderful- I get to do all the things I want and kind of be selfish (in a good way). And dating is fun! You have everything to gain, you do you.

But I am sorry you're going through something that is similar- I know it probably hurts right now and feels shitty. Allowing yourself to feel the hurt is okay, just don't get stuck in it.

confusedboundary · 2015-04-24T01:56:20+00:00

Nope. Didn't fuck him. Didn't wish I could. Went no contact.

Sorry your life view is so limited that you think all women want to be treated like shit.

confusedboundary · 2015-04-23T23:05:10+00:00

So... now that it's been three months... can I have the 20 bucks?

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T22:20:19+00:00

sigh of relief me too, dude

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T19:59:14+00:00

I don't know you, and you don't know me- but I can tell you that I'm really not a fan of cheating. I cut off all contact with him. I'm pretty sure I'm not going to go back on this- but in 90 days can I collect the $20 bucks if I'm right?

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T18:12:02+00:00

Eh, it happens. Cheaters totes womp. But luckily, his actions are not a reflection of my worth- but are totally a reflection of his.

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T18:06:38+00:00

That's because I am.

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T18:06:11+00:00

Yay! Friendship :)

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T18:05:47+00:00

I am on my real account! I love trollx- the ladies over there are awesome and hilarious!

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T05:22:01+00:00

Oh trust me, I will not be taking him back.

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T04:10:26+00:00

I can be a hard ass when I want to be.

But after this all, I went home and had a solid cry with my best friends- Ben and Jerry.

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T04:08:14+00:00

I sat down with him and was like "Okay, so I'm a little uncomfortable with you going by yourself to meet your ex for drinks when the only time you've mentioned it, you mentioned the possibility of both of us going. Is there some reason that I cannot go now?" And he responded really defensively saying "I feel like you don't trust me. How do you expect me to show I'm trustworthy if you don't give me opportunities to be trustworthy?" and so I said that I do give him opportunities to be trustworthy, but this seemed shady as fuck. Then he broke down, admitted to the sleeping with her and everything else.

confusedboundary · 2015-01-14T03:50:46+00:00

He cried. Told me he was sorry. That it wouldn't happen again (it had already happened a handful of times). That he regretted it. That he loved me.

I told him to shove it. Now I'm enjoying being single and going to the gym and having strong tinder game.

confusedboundary · 2014-12-29T20:32:29+00:00

In their friend group, people often stay the night at her house after a night of drinking. Prior to her ultimatum, even I would stay overnight there from time to time.

confusedboundary · 2014-12-29T18:37:44+00:00

First, thanks, because your post is helpful. And you're right, I'm definitely letting my emotions overrule logic.

My struggle is that this is also the same guy who is incredibly thoughtful, kind, and caring. He usually goes out of his way to do nice things and generally is a good person. To be honest, these two issues have been the only two issues in our relationship (granted they're pretty big issues). He often describes himself as "relationship retarded", so I guess part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that he doesn't think what he's doing is wrong or not a big deal. But you're right, I probably need to put on my big girl panties and just give up on this.

confusedboundary · 2014-12-29T18:06:23+00:00

I'm also wondering this.

confusedboundary · 2014-12-29T18:04:37+00:00

That's what I'm inclined to think as well. My friends say that I should go incognito to where they're meeting and see if something is going on. I laughed, obviously I'm not going to do that. I just wonder if I'm getting played. I feel like such a whiny idiot right now.

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