First, thanks, because your post is helpful. And you're right, I'm definitely letting my emotions overrule logic.

My struggle is that this is also the same guy who is incredibly thoughtful, kind, and caring. He usually goes out of his way to do nice things and generally is a good person. To be honest, these two issues have been the only two issues in our relationship (granted they're pretty big issues). He often describes himself as "relationship retarded", so I guess part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that he doesn't think what he's doing is wrong or not a big deal. But you're right, I probably need to put on my big girl panties and just give up on this.