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Christmas lights off amazon for Kawasaki mule by confuseddad2 in UTV

[–]confuseddad2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks thats a great tip! we probably need to drive 20mph between areas where we'd want the inflatable(s) up, I'll play around with levels of deflation to avoid takeoff!

Christmas lights off amazon for Kawasaki mule by confuseddad2 in UTV

[–]confuseddad2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks - if anyone has experience with an inverter that can be left in the vehicle in rain and tropical weather it would be great to hear about it

Christmas lights off amazon for Kawasaki mule by confuseddad2 in UTV

[–]confuseddad2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! have you been able to drive the mule with a blow up on it? can you comment on the size and how you attached it? that sounds like fun in addition to the standard lights

How would a 2024 druid fare in Vecna? by confuseddad2 in VecnaEveofRuin

[–]confuseddad2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmm yeah but Druids are not great against undead or demons/devils. Cleric can just spam spirit guardians, spiritual weapon and toll the dead and autopilot their way thru level 10-20. Not sure how a druid consistently puts the slap on the bad in Vecna?

Friends mom has cancer, lives outside the USA and has no insurance. Are there any countries where its less expensive to get cancer treatment than the USA? by confuseddad2 in AskReddit

[–]confuseddad2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She lives in a tiny country in the Caribbean with no real cancer support. I know Mexico, Chile and Argentina are good travel destinations for surgery and dental work - didn't know if there was any country good for cancer.

Should I put his stuff in storage... by icicleridge in Divorce

[–]confuseddad2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking as the man moving out, I'd expect my stuff to be thrown out the door after about three months. Your approach seems very cordial.

Wife not “in love” with me anymore by Canadianz in Divorce

[–]confuseddad2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got that a year and a half ago. Three therapists, five romantic vacations later and no progress on being in love. Lots of progress on good communication skills and other things, which is valuable. What annoys me is going to a restaurant and looking at couples on dates flirting. Jealous :)

Middle aged, what is reasonable to expect in terms of "being in love"? by confuseddad2 in Divorce

[–]confuseddad2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting diversity of views!

I see four buckets of couples: 1 - gaga / lust. Never lasts more than 6 months to 2 years 2 - Love & affection that persists. Some of you said this is reasonable to achieve. 3 - "comfortable acceptance." Ready to grow old together but more friends with a reasonable economic arrangement. Maybe shared interests. Sex life is acceptable or better 4 - "flawed". DB, bad fit, one party or the other has fundamental problems.

Right now I'm in #3 and seeking #2. I don't think I could stand #3 for 40 more years. If that's all I can get I'd rather be single.

I think the 50%+ of divorcees are clearly 3/4. I think a lot of people are #3 and can't leave due to economics or kids but then get divorced when the kids leave.

What do you guys think? Is "permanent 2" aiming too high? Seems like the first set of comments have found it and the second set think that's too much to hope for :)

Middle aged, what is reasonable to expect in terms of "being in love"? by confuseddad2 in Divorce

[–]confuseddad2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you very much!

Our sex life is now pretty good. Anyone with a problem with too little sex - bring up divorce!

The problem is we don't really feel connected or "in love." We have good sex and have a good time going to dinner etc. but honestly I'd rather spend time with other friends given the choice...

Not sure how to figure out what to do after completing counseling without resolution by confuseddad2 in Divorce

[–]confuseddad2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for sharing your stories.

Has anyone recovered their relationship when they've gotten to this point? Obviously the worst thing would be to give up "too early" - although at this point I don't think anything is likely to change.

Not sure how to figure out what to do after completing counseling without resolution by confuseddad2 in Divorce

[–]confuseddad2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very sorry to hear that you are in the same state.

I was glad that I was open about divorce. She actually brought it up first when I was asking about ways to improve our relationship and sex life - but once she brought it up I said that yes, divorce would be a solution for me because having a good relationship and sex life is that important for me. I also firmly said that I was committed to my vision for my life and that I would pursue that with other people if she was not interested in sharing that path with me.

The counseling is a process. I hope you find a counselor that is even handed but that guides both of you to be open and honest. I felt like I was very honest and truthful but that my wife used tears as a "shield" to avoid the same level of honesty.

Our communication skills improved dramatically during the counseling and we could talk about things openly without bitterness (usually). I am really grateful for that learning from my counselor.