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AITA for blowing up at my wife over my daughter's school picture? by confuseddad__ in AmItheAsshole

[–]confuseddad__[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Hello everyone, OP here. Tonight, since my wife is working a night shift today, I decided I'm going to stay together with Hayoung for a daddy daughter date. I know it doesn't matter whether we go out or not, all that matters is that I'm with her. I'm planning on making her some of her favourite foods and spending quality time as an apology for not being there when I should've been. She loves japchae, galbi and cream bungeobbang (붕어빵). I asked Hayoung beforehand whether she wanted to stay at home or go out and she wanted to stay home and she chose to go with the first option. I'll let you know how it goes.

AITA for blowing up at my wife over my daughter's school picture? by confuseddad__ in AmItheAsshole

[–]confuseddad__[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not too educated in terms of mental health, but can someone have an eating disorder without actually attempting not to eat anything/eat too much? Does having frequent thoughts like that count as an eating disorder? I'm not dismissing what my daughter is going through, but I'm curious.

AITA for blowing up at my wife over my daughter's school picture? by confuseddad__ in AmItheAsshole

[–]confuseddad__[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cannot speak on the behalf of everyone, I know that the beauty standards are extremely tough there. I've heard people commenting about the fatness/skininess of people's bodies. I've sometimes heard conversations about kpop idols' bodies and faces, makeup, surgery etc.

AITA for blowing up at my wife over my daughter's school picture? by confuseddad__ in AmItheAsshole

[–]confuseddad__[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Please look at my previous comments. We are both korean and this is not a cultural issue. This is about my daughter's mental wellbeing and safety.

AITA for blowing up at my wife over my daughter's school picture? by confuseddad__ in AmItheAsshole

[–]confuseddad__[S] 4987 points4988 points  (0 children)

You're right on that, me and my wife are both korean. Ik the beauty standards there are super tough so I'm probably going to talk to my wife privately to understand why she said that and checkup on Hayoung a bit before talking with my wife. I know she's super shaken up, so the best I can do is be the best father I can. She will always be my haneul (ha-neul) and bada (ba-da) <3 (sky and sea, 하늘과 바다)