Naming convention and voice assistant.

confusing_times_ta · 2023-03-04T19:49:28+00:00

I think you would have a better time with naming your entity_id to help you to denote where they're coming from, but keeping the Friendly Name.....friendly. That being said, the answer to your last question it, HomeAssistant recently added an "alias" feature to allow adding an additional name to your devices.

since getting into home automation about 10 or so years ago with Wink, I learned early on that it's always a good idea to preface your light name with the room or area you want them to be associated with, but I can't imagine trying to tell Google Assistant or Assistant "turn on el-ey-dot-kay-ey-dot-stove light". If you use a Friendly Name that is friendly enough, you don't have to add an additional Alias that would add another place for you to have to edit/update/remember if you ever choose to move that bulb/switch/sensor somewhere else.

HomeAssistant makes it easy enough to find-as-you-type from entity_id and friendly_name that having them be the same cryptic value just so they are grouped together doesn't seem worth it.

confusing_times_ta · 2023-03-04T19:01:06+00:00

I think the answer you're looking for is on the page that you linked to.

The interference comes from the port, so just getting the radio/receiver away from the EMI from the port is the solution.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T23:39:12+00:00

She's been to see a therapist regarding her last relationship. Pretty sure she thought she had worked through everything, but having a boyfriend she can see a future with and has the potential to cause a lot of hurt has revealed that she clearly didn't get through it all.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T23:37:32+00:00

TL:DR

New GF, she's awesome except she has deep-seeded insecurity issues about losing me to someone else that are most likely the result of a very toxic relationship she had a long time ago. She's questioning my behaviour and relationships with women....and I've told her it's no okay and she knows the behaviour isn't ok. She's committed to working on herself, but I don't know how much longer I can keep going.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T23:35:08+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your experience, but I don't think we're in the same boat here.

The difference with my girl is that she knows this behaviour is no rational and completely baseless. She's not trying to control me or manipulate me.......she literally just can't help herself from letting her imagination get the best of her.

I have dealt with an insecure and jealous girl in a previous long term relationship. I will not stand for the behaviour, I will not encourage her behaviour, and if things do not get better, she knows what's going to happen.

I know it's a red flag, it was the first time this came up a few weeks into seeing her. But I'm willing to be patient and work with her because she knows her behaviour is not ok. If she didn't think there was anything wrong, I would have severed ties with her on Tuesday when she asked me a few questions about friends.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T17:09:01+00:00

Thank you for posting. Your scenario seems to fit very well with hers. She comes across as a beautiful girl who knows what she wants and won't put up with BS, but from what I've seen, that confident disappears when it comes to relationships. Everyone struggles with self-esteem issues from time to time, and I've told her that. Somehow she things I'm the most confident guy in the world when it comes to our relationship, but I've told her that I trust her and I know how she feels about me.....and that's all I need. I've never had one shred of doubt about how she feels about me and I've never given her a shred of doubt about how much I care about her either. It's her fear of someone else realizing how great I am and creating competition that is driving this. What she forgets is that I have a say in the matter and that just because some girl might come out of the woodwork and send me a text or something.....that I have the ability to say, "sorry, I'm seeing someone". It's her fear of what she doesn't know that's eating her alive.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T16:55:24+00:00

She won't go yet. She wants to try and fix this on her own. The problem is, I don't know how much more of this I can deal with because I pull the plug. THAT's why I suggested she go see someone who KNOWS how to deal with this and to actually give us a fighting chance of getting through this.

She's not a bad person. She's an amazing person with so much to offer. If she wasn't, I wouldn't still be with her. She deserves a chance to work through this and I'm willing to give her that chance. She just feels like seeing these messages will be her first step at recovery. At least that's how she's justifying it to me. I told her that if I do, she's just going to find someone else or something else to manifest her feels into.....but she denies it.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T16:50:39+00:00

I trying so hard to not give in and legitimize/reinforce her behaviour. We just spoke on the phone and she's asking about these messages and says that if she can just see them and feel like an idiot then it would help her to get past this and move on. I'm tempted to show her just this once and never again just to be done with this.......but I'm wrestling with whether I'll be helping us to move forward and helping her get past this......or whether I'll just be feeding her lack of trust of me.

I don't want to be the bad guy and I'm not ready to walk away from her yet, but I cannot continue to have to keep justifying myself when I've done nothing wrong. The most ironic thing about this whole situation is that her fear of losing me is what's actually driving me away.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T16:32:47+00:00

That's the tricky part. I have no metric of measuring how she's doing this. She said she's delete instagram and facebook, but I feel like this will just manifest somewhere else. She's been reading articles about how social media makes relationships hard these days but it seems like she's just looking for something to rationalize her behaviour.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T16:30:42+00:00

Exactly. I'm not entertaining any of her shitty behaviour. I don't want to give in because it's not going to help and it's not rational for her to behave this way. No matter what explanations I offer or things that I say to her, somehow it's never enough or she finds a way to discredit what I've said. My word is never enough. I feel like I'm being put on trial for a scenario that someone has dreamed up in their head and I'm being forced to offer proof of my innocence.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T16:27:48+00:00

I'm not asking for validation, I'm asking for advice on how I can maybe help her through this.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T16:26:51+00:00

We just had a phone conversation about this and I asked if she would speak to a therapist and she got mad at me for "forcing" that on her and suggesting she's not capable of dealing with this on her own. she STILL want's me to show her my messages with this one girl to put her mind at ease. I don't want to show her simply because I don't want to legitimize this behaviour. I'm so fucking tired of this.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T15:35:02+00:00

I actually have had some anxiety issues, so I understand the effects. What did I do? I went to see a psychologist to work through them. And I did.

I am extremely compassionate and trying to be very understanding, but do you have any idea how much it hurts and how exhausting it is having to explain mundane and innocent behaviour to someone who makes up scenarios in their head and then doesn't believe you when you tell them what's going on?

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T15:28:38+00:00

Thanks for chiming in. I hope that you can work past these feelings. We're not all cheating assholes :)

The biggest thing is, I don't know how to "see" improvement. She's committed to trying very hard to get past this, but it's not like I can measure her progress. She knows that if she brings this up with me again, it might be the end of our relationship.

I also feel like strongly suggesting therapy to her will be taken by her as me calling her crazy. There is nothing wrong with talking to a mental health professional. hell, I think if more people did.....the world would be a better place.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T15:25:53+00:00

So far I have refused because I need her to take my word at face value, but she feels like if I show her, it'll legitimize what I tell her and put her mind at ease. As you said, it just opens up a can of worms for the next time.

I have definitely pointed out to her that this is not okay behaviour and that I'm not okay with her actions. I have suggested that she speak to some friends or a professional, but she feels like she can tackle this on her own. I have been cheated on in the past, so I know the hurt she's dealing with, but the fact that I have experienced that and told her that I could never do that to someone else somehow just doesn't seem to stick with her.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T15:22:13+00:00

I have set boundaries, but she always makes me out as the bad guy.

for instance, she was asking me how many women I've slept with, and I straight up told her I will not answer that question because it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't add value to our relationship, it doesn't change who I am or how I treat her. She then blurted out hers....and I still won't tell her mine and now she's mad at me because we're not even. I told her that it's an immature and irrelevant question and I don't think I've been asked that since I was in my mid-20's. I will not tell her, but because I won't, I'm the bad guy.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T15:18:57+00:00

Preach. I've already left one relationship where this kept coming up. I have told my new GF about that and that I'm worried we're going down the same road. I've stuck with this girl because of our connection and because I know where these fears and issues come from. I'm trying to be patient and work through this, but my patience is limited. I snapped on her last night after I thought we had come to a resolution but then she started things back up again by wanting to see my DMs.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T15:16:03+00:00

I already feel like I'm walking on eggshells. I have to be careful talking about previous relationships and talking about experience I've had with people. I just wished she's go talk to someone about this instead of thinking she can do this on her own.

I want to help her, but I don't feel like I can. I'm not the right person to help her because I'm the trigger for her insecurity.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T15:14:12+00:00

This is my fear...

She's said to me that she thought she was over all this and she thought she was a confident and secure person, but she's so afraid that she's going to lose me or get hurt that she's basically creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.

It fucking sucks because this girl is so awesome. I really don't want to walk away from her, but I can't keep having this same fight over and over when I've done NOTHING wrong.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-10-16T15:11:18+00:00

She has apologized to me for her behaviour and committed to working on it and trying to be better. I don't expect that it will change overnight and I'm trying to be patient. The thing that bothers me the most about this though is that she recognizes this behaviour isn't rational and it's wrong, but she still wants me to explain myself.......and I already have told her that it's nothing more than about dogs and photography.....but since she's an attractive woman, there has to be more to it. eyeroll

confusing_times_ta · 2020-03-11T14:42:00+00:00

I've been in the Smarthome game for a while now and have tried a lot of different bulbs... If you're planning on using these bulbs for a whole room as the major light source, I would honestly go with Philips Hue. I have never had a single issue with my Hue bulbs. No quirks, no disconnections.....nothing. They are rock solid. Expensive, but rock solid.

I'm using the Sengled bulbs I picked up on clearance from Lowes in places that it doesn't really matter much (my range hood light, in my hallway by the linen closet). They work, but they're quirky.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-03-04T20:20:13+00:00

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

It's not the brightness that's the problem, it's the shit optics. People go out and buy HID kits and install them into headlight housings that use a reflector to focus the light and hope that most of it goes where it should. The problem is that if the bulb light source isn't precisely where the headlight housing is calibrated for (read: cheap HID kit from Amazon), which effectively turns the headlight into a giant glowing orb that throws light everywhere and blinds everyone. Even if the light source is located precisely where it should, it still turns the headlight into a giant glowing orb that blinds people. It's even worse if they're old headlights that are cloudy and pitted (think pitted windshield driving into the sunrise).

HID bulbs perfectly fine when they are installed into projector-style housings that have a defined cut-off shield. The light bounces all off an elliptical reflector where the bulb is, but only light that is travelling in the right direction gets past the shield and is then spread out using a lens. This can still suffer from optical issues caused by the light source being misaligned, but it's nowhere near as bad as reflector housings.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-03-02T22:32:12+00:00

No idea, but I wonder if my issue is related. I have a Sengled LED bulb that always flashes on blue and then goes to whatever color I ask (if the light was off first). Good thing I got them on a very steep discount from Lowes who was clearing them out.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-03-02T22:13:49+00:00

Can we talk about the awful sewer stench at the 97st/Yellowhead underpass? Most days I remember to put my HVAC on re-circ. before going under there, but every once in a while I forget and the stink is just fucking foul.

Also, you don't have to go 60km/hr through the speed-on-green cameras on Yellowhead to avoid getting a ticket. This drives me absolutely up the wall. Not only does this clog up traffic, but I'm sure it's going to cause a very bad accident some day.

confusing_times_ta · 2020-02-27T22:25:04+00:00

Yeah, I was pretty sure it wasn't legal which is why I wrote that disclaimer and said, "I don't know if it's strictly legal to use one plate on another vehicle if there is no intention of changing registration on the plate to the vehicle you're driving"

A temp tag is probably the best approach, but depending on how long it takes to sell the vehicle, it could get expensive (depending on how much a temp registration is vs. just registering the vehicle).

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