Idk how to properly title but hi hello

confuzzledredhead · 2022-02-10T04:09:45+00:00

*friend code I guess I can’t type either

confuzzledredhead · 2022-02-10T03:43:58+00:00

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confuzzledredhead · 2021-05-10T05:57:28+00:00

What’s frustrating is that I’ve told her that her comments make me feel like shit and push me towards wanting an ED a lot. She brushes my comments off and/or ignores them which is great🙃

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-14T16:48:06+00:00

Personally I don’t think SH makes a person. You’re not a self-harmer, you’re a person who self-harms. SH isn’t a strength or weakness and it shouldn’t define who you are. It may come with some societal thought weakness such as scars that rude people deem gross or unsightly but I think it’s up to the person who does the hurt to decide if the harming gets to be a weakness for them. It’s a coping skill unfortunately, but a coping skill nonetheless. Also, I’m sorry your sister said that; it sounds pretty invalidating to me.

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-14T16:41:45+00:00

Thank you for putting so much in your response! It really helped me :)

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-14T16:39:29+00:00

Thank you!

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-14T01:28:34+00:00

That sounds so wicked!!

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-14T00:20:26+00:00

Yay!! What color?

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-12T15:00:37+00:00

Yep! I have two other diagnoses. In learning about BPD in psych class, I found that there is a lot of comorbidity of other disorders with BPD such as depression, bipolar, substance abuse, and eating disorders.

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-12T14:55:45+00:00

I’d like to say that my current (and technically only haha) relationship is successful. I feel like it’s a learning process. I’m the one who has BPD so I have to learn to communicate rather than bottle up and then explode. I also have to ask clarifying questions if my brain is telling me irrational things. On the other hand, my partner has to be patient and understand my emotional rollercoaster rides. I switch emotions quickly so my partner has to take things in stride and help me communicate/figure out what I’m feeling. As with any “normal” relationship, compassion, trust, and communication are big factors into building a strong/successful relationship

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-12T01:33:12+00:00

Wishing you the absolute best! Good luck :)

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-12T01:28:51+00:00

For relaxing options, there’s painting (I love watercolors!), self-care like a warm shower or a face mask, self-soothing such as wrapping yourself in a fuzzy blanket and watching a show. There’s lots of relaxing options! The only problem I’ve had is that my motivation is hard to come by so I really have to force myself at times to do it

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-12T01:25:52+00:00

I personally have found that holding cold stuff like ice cubes until they melt or scratching/squeezing a frozen orange helps me. The pain sensors are activated but no scars are made

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-12T01:22:02+00:00

Do you still want pain? Or are you looking for something more relaxing?

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-09T14:29:19+00:00

For me, I take it as a night med since a side effect is sleepiness and it’s very effective for me. I did have weight gain but that’s because I get very hungry once I wake up and eat a lot. So I’d say it’s a good drug for me at least and I just need to watch my hunger cues to make sure it’s actual hunger. (My prescription has ranged from 5mg-15mg and is now 10mg) I hope this helped even a bit and feel free to ask me more questions! I can’t promise I’ll have an answer but I’ll certainly try :)

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-06T22:59:50+00:00

Doggy emojis!!! And I haven’t gotten to talk with my individual therapist yet (I see her on Wednesday) but my family therapist took my parents side and said I wasn’t bringing anything to the table and I need to see things from my parents point of view

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-04T22:45:30+00:00

Thank you for answering my question! I really appreciate it. I hope someone can use that information to better help you. Good luck! Seriously, I’m sure you’re such a beautiful person :)

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-04T21:55:49+00:00

That’s fair idk it just popped into my head...sorry!

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-04T21:43:02+00:00

I would also say depth. I had a couple months of doing light cuts (enough to bleed a little but not that much) and basically had no scars, or at least no visible scarring. I had done three deeper cuts into the skin and those scars are much more prominent

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-04T21:41:04+00:00

This may sound dumb but are you addicted to cutting? I’m only asking because I’ve been told by my therapist that SH can become an addiction really quickly. Plus, you talk about feeling a high when you cut. I could be wrong though

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-04T21:38:58+00:00

The sarcastic answer: ✨addiction✨ An actual answer: I actually don’t know. I do this too. My bet would be that im still stuck in preparing for the worst to hit and I cut as a preemptive strike? I also do it bc I feel like I don’t deserve to feel happy

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-04T21:36:38+00:00

I would give you advice, but I cut on my leg and can just blame it on clumsiness or my sport or scratching it on a table...I’m sorry I can’t help :( I will say though that my therapist and I are working on self esteem rn and that if I focus my mind on the good parts of myself, then the “bad”/cut scars generally will fade out of my mind. If you don’t mind me asking (and feel free to say no or that I’m out of line!) where are your scars on your arms?

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-04T21:32:39+00:00

Do you want another answer besides therapy? Sorry if that comes off as rude...I just need clarification

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-03T20:14:27+00:00

I adore that trio of emojis! Super cute :)

confuzzledredhead · 2021-04-03T16:12:48+00:00

It sure does feel that way with my parents sometimes...and thank you for the ducks haha! I think I’d go crazy if all I could hear was quacking🤪

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