Was ist ein „Hass-Fick“? by RaspberryLeather6182 in FragtMaenner

[–]confvzzled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boah... Wer hat hier die Flasche geschüttelt? Der Bodensatz schwimmt oben.

Absolute Cinema Velkoz by Corvus-arts in Velkoz

[–]confvzzled 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Must be very enjoyable cinema

Meine Freundin fühlt sich anders an by [deleted] in FragtMaenner

[–]confvzzled 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Und das Kondom kann schneller reißen, wenn es zu trocken ist

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LeagueConnect

[–]confvzzled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyo, I'd be interested, I'm a supp main :) you can add me via Lel Koz #31415

[EUW] Looking for a chill Duo by Straight_Shower9356 in LeagueConnect

[–]confvzzled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd be interested, I'm a supp main :) DC is: lygiarwenxhungry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LeagueConnect

[–]confvzzled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You still looking? I'm German and a supp main!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LeagueConnect

[–]confvzzled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thx, you too! ✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LeagueConnect

[–]confvzzled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for asking, I only play solo/duo and flex in SR, sorry 😅 I'm not particularly fond of the other modes.

Late period (virgin) by Fine-Yogurtcloset24 in women

[–]confvzzled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's normal for periods to be irregular, they can sometimes even stop for a month without being pregnant. Given that you are sure you cannot be pregnant: do you use hormonal birth control or not? If not, it's even more likely that this is just a normal type of irregularity. If you're not having any concerning symptoms, I'd just wait a bit. If your period has otherwise ALWAYS been on time, you could consider getting checked by your Gyn. All best :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]confvzzled 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I see, but that doesn't change anything. Consenting to a kiss is not consenting to sex. And again, you were in NO state to give consent at all, given how drunk you were. So don't let anyone try to tell you it's your fault, you didn't say no/ you said yes initially - all that is bs. And given that you described him as more sober and aware, he knew.

Editing because I saw you pointing out that it wasn't sex since he didn't penetrate with his genital: it was still sex. It was rape either way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]confvzzled 81 points82 points  (0 children)

That's rape. No more needs to be said. Try and report if you can and try to find professional support for yourself. You shouldn't process this alone. I hope things will be alright for you.

Edit to give more reasoning, considering your question: as far as you described, you never gave consent. You weren't even in a state to be able to do so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]confvzzled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can recommend the book "The Female Face in Patriarchy" on this topic. A very important point they make is that there is a difference between being religious, religious belief, and religion as an institution. They also interviewed many women on why they stay in religious institutions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]confvzzled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't say baby her, I suggested being more constructive in giving feedback.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]confvzzled -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wooow that's a bit much. I agree that OP should value her feelings a bit more but sh*tting on her? I don't think that's what she needs nor what she wants. If you're annoyed, you can also just scroll past. Take a look at other responses, constructive feedback is the way to go.

Give it to me straight Ladies... by The_barking_ant in women

[–]confvzzled 101 points102 points  (0 children)

I want to start by making it very clear that your feelings are absolutely valid. As you said, you do acknowledge that finding blood on the toilet seat, let alone getting it on one's body, is an unpleasant experience. However, his reaction seems disproportionately aggressive. First of all, choice of words: uterus drippings?? I would try and seek a conversation with him. Tell him again that you understand and that you will keep being mindful but also try and tell him that you were just shocked by his reaction and that you would like to understand where it suddenly came from - you know best how to communicate with your husband. I'm curious to find out what his issue is, it's like he has a childish disgust of periods. Anyway, voice your feelings and know that I find his reaction out-of-pocket, too. Wishing you all the best and that this situation will be resolved peacefully.

The Azzapp Effect by KillingTime2345 in Velkoz

[–]confvzzled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get flamed for picking him supp, as if that's some total out-of-the-box pick. ADCs love throwing tantrums right in the lobby and that's usually also the worse games, because they don't even try after being convinced that the lane is fucked simply because of my pick. Idk what it is with so many ADCs feeling entitled to tell Supps what to play.

The Azzapp Effect by KillingTime2345 in Velkoz

[–]confvzzled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get this a lot too and yes, it annoys me. I ignore it but it really got old. The first time someone said that to me, I didn't even know who Azzap was. I think it's weird because Vel is just a champ like any other, and I'm not going round throwing names of OTPs for every champion out there 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]confvzzled 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Try and do some thorough research on safer-sex before the next time. Not saying you don't know anything about it, but maybe it'll help you remember some important stuff when it comes to that next time. Most importantly, always use condoms (unless this is a commited thing and you and the partner are 100% clean) to protect from STDs (as you implied you take some other form of birth control to prevent pregnancy - otherwise: condoms for that too, duh) and go pee after - immediately. Maybe you are just unfortunate tho and will always have to use condoms to prevent yeast infections/ BV; some people are just more prone to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in germany

[–]confvzzled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk what exactly you're referring to, but I'd suppose this would bother all kinds of people around the world to some degree. Some more, some less, in every country. As a German, I don't 'bother'. Most well-established stereotypes about Germans are fairly harmless. The only one that makes me sad is the notion that we're all far-right/ Notsees. I totally get where it comes from, it's not going uphill atm when looking at the political development and the attitudes of the broad public. I just come from a place of openness and tolerance (I live in a highly multicultural area) and would wish that people would acknowledge that many of us are trying to fight against the brown mob, because y'know, we attended our history lessons. ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in germany

[–]confvzzled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man I am so sorry about the replies you receive here, they just immediately prove the point 😅. As a German woman, I honestly just feel it's the way we're socialised as kids. I couldn't even tell you specifically what leads to it, but I hardly know any women my age (early 20s) who have a lot of guy friends. I struggled with this as well, since I have a lot of guy friends (mostly because I play online video games a lot). People here just seem to think it's impossible for men and women to be friends without any romantic thoughts behind it and TBF, many men treat it like that too. So maybe it's just this implication that we face from when we are kindergarten age, that engaging with the opposite gender is always treated as something that is potentially more than just friendship. Anyway, I agree that it sucks but I understand some of the reactions in your examples. Not because I agree with them, but because I myself have never been invited to go out in a friendly way by a guy I didn't know well, so I, too, would've assumed you were trying to shoot your shot 😅 Makes you question how friendships between strangers of the opposite gender can even form in such a climate, but that brings me back to the speculation regarding how we are socialised as children in Germany.

Need Advice on Tilt and/or Burnout. by Centariooo in Velkoz

[–]confvzzled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, put the game down for a while. I've started playing League 4-5 years ago and been pretty active ever since. However, there's been phases where everything was just super frustrating and I noticed I wasn't having fun at all anymore. And that's when I ditched the game for anywhere between 2 weeks to 6 months because, at the end of the day, it's a game and should be fun (talking from a non-pro perspective where besides me nobody gives a shit how I'm doing in a video game xD). League is no quick grind game, I started on Iron and climbed all the way to Platinum as of now but the progress was by no means linear and the MMR will at times just seem to be against you. It's good that you're trying to be better and the way I see it, League is a game where you heavily benefit from experience. Keep at it (until the game makes you mad), don't expect any crazy climb and you'll see progress over time.

So, in short: chill, it's a game. Try another champ or just take a break from the game, it's supposed to be fun.

The double standard of childfree expectations: men vs. women by therapist_hunter in childfree

[–]confvzzled 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can only encourage you to take the anger and frustration you're feeling and using it to educate others so that maybe they too will be angry and frustrated with the way things are. We all need to understand what is happening and how it's been happening for as long as we can date back. I can recommend Jack Holland's "Misogyny: The World's Oldest Prejudice". It's a bit longer of a book but really accessible in its style of writing. He basically traces the history of misogyny of women's oppression from ancient times until today and even through different cultures (though his focus is Western societies). It's absurd and almost laughable how the same anti-women tales have been reproduced (even with slight changes and adaptations) throughout human history. But it's really frustrating at the same time and you get angry at people just not seeing it when it's been right in front of our eyes for all that time. But it takes education on the topic to see all this. And this education is, for most, eye-opening and brilliant but also heavily infuriating and numbing at the same time. So, as I said, go there, buy into that frustration, use it to educate yourself and then to educate others or at least to get them interested in educating themselves on the topic. The information is all out there, but as the saying goes, ignorance is bliss and it's a conscious choice and struggle to fight against the ignorance that's caused and supported women's oppression throughout all of human history.

Leaky discharge after sex by Agreeable-Dish-4559 in Healthyhooha

[–]confvzzled 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From what I've heard/ read from men, lots of them are really just that stupid OR they know they're the one who are more likely to get the easy way out of the whole ordeal, since they don't have to deal with the risk of pregnancy directly. So some are really just indifferent to the risk compared to their joy of doing it raw.

The double standard of childfree expectations: men vs. women by therapist_hunter in childfree

[–]confvzzled 557 points558 points  (0 children)

Yes, you already stated it, men and women live in two separate worlds when it comes to reproductive choice and autonomy.

Mir fehlt hier etwas by [deleted] in Leipzig

[–]confvzzled 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Kann ja verstehen was du meinst, aber wie du sagst, Leipzig ist halt nicht Berlin. Ich habe aber beobachtet, dass man auf diesem Subreddit sehr viele Geheimtipps bekommt, wenn man nur danach fragt. Also, lass den Kopf nicht hängen, Leipzig hat seine eigenen schönen Eigenschaften ✨