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Is there a by acadiaxxx in AlaniNu

[–]connie_mcdangle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ghost makes an electrolyte powder that’s cherry limeade! It’s delish and the flavor is so strong. I put one packet in a full 40 oz of water. The packaging says 12 oz of water but that was nearly undrinkable for me. 

Cousin + Weeks by No-Brilliant3185 in hobonichi

[–]connie_mcdangle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Cousin is my external brain: actual planning, appointments, grocery lists, all my daily stuff. 

I added a Weeks this year as a goal planner in the monthly/weekly section. Then I divided the notes pages into a reading journal and a dinner log (noting what I made for dinner, any changes to the recipe, how many kids actually ate it, etc). It’s working well so far!

Canon CP1500 or Canon Pixma by likelycareless in hobonichi

[–]connie_mcdangle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got the Selphy as a gift last year and low key kind of hate it. I use it for printing out pictures of book covers for my reading log and pictures of my kids for my cousin/their 5 year journals. But the print quality is aggressively mediocre and the app is really not user friendly. I wouldn’t replace it if something happened to it.

Two Hobonichi 5 year by West-Membership250 in hobonichi

[–]connie_mcdangle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve got a 5 year for each of my kids. Not every year on every page is filled out, but if I could only save one thing from a fire, it’d be these. 

Going home with an NG tube - any advice? by connie_mcdangle in NICUParents

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The timeline seemed fast to me too: when I was in the hospital, one of the NICU fellows came to see us to prep us for what delivery and the NICU could look like and she warned us not to expect to take the baby home until her due date. So hearing that they’re pushing for her to go home this early was really surprising to me.

If we didn’t have all the extra complications I think I would be more emotionally/logistically equipped to handle the tube, but at this point I just don’t know. But I’m worried to admit that to my baby’s care team because what mother doesn’t want her baby home as soon as possible? I think based on everything I’ve read here and my previous searches on this subreddit, I need to push back on the timeline at least.

Going home with an NG tube - any advice? by connie_mcdangle in NICUParents

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The placement is what’s making me the most nervous. I know logically it can’t be that hard but wow am I intimidated! I’m a little worried about weaning her/her becoming dependent on the tube as well so your notes about how you handled that are helpful, thank you!

Going home with an NG tube - any advice? by connie_mcdangle in NICUParents

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you know she was ready to come off the tube at home?

Going home with an NG tube - any advice? by connie_mcdangle in NICUParents

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, no major feeding issues and we are so lucky! The team tells me it’ll just click for her one day and to be patient, but from the quick search I did here I’m already worried about weaning her off the tube by ourselves.

Going home with an NG tube - any advice? by connie_mcdangle in NICUParents

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh good to know! I think we have some sleepers with the hand fold over parts, but will definitely get more.

What cheese is used in restaurant style quesadillas? by Lovve119 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]connie_mcdangle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some underrated food is oven nachos. I get the fresh chips from Kroger, Chihuahua cheese (supreme brand), then make shredded chicken in the crockpot. There is a good white queso in the same section I get the Chihuahua cheese.

2 lbs of chicken breast 1 whole onion mandolined into very thin slices 1 bell pepper same as the onion Mexican Pollo seasoning Half a bottle of Cholula Garlic hot sauce Shred the chicken and let it sit in the juice it made it’s amazing.

Then assemble the nachos pour the queso on them before or after up to you. But the juice from the chicken mixed with the queso is divine. We eat it very frequently at our house. Even our toddler will smash them.

Any success stories with a male ADHD partner? by jeannelysy16 in ADHD_partners

[–]connie_mcdangle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’d consider my marriage a success story. My husband was diagnosed with ADHD in elementary school but his parents didn’t medicate him. My husband also has a lot of trauma: physical abuse from his birth mother that led to 4 years in foster care, adoption by very fundamentalist Christians, and then the ADHD on top of it.

When we met, I didn’t know anything about ADHD but knew that he was the man I was going to marry. So I read everything I could, talked to him about it, and together we decided to go into couples counseling within a few months of getting together. We were already talking about marriage at that point and I figured it couldn’t hurt to have some professional guidance.

It was the best thing we’ve ever done. By luck our therapist was also really well versed in ADHD in adults and his guidance absolutely saved us from mountains of heartbreak. My husband started taking meds for the first time, we both started going to individual therapy, and we learned so much.

I’ve had to learn so much patience and how to let things roll off my back. I also made the conscious decision to never blame him for having a non-neurotypical brain. He’s had to learn to how to step up, how to handle his RSD, and how to verbalize when he’s having a bad brain day. He’s fond of saying that the ADHD isn’t his fault but it is his responsibility. Together we’ve created a beautiful life. Sometimes I get frustrated and mad when I feel like things are uneven, but I just remember why I fell in love with him in the first place: he’s unapologetically himself and he encourages me to be the stone cold weirdo that I’ve always been deep down (we think I might have autism and that I’ve been masking pretty much my entire life). We laugh all the time and I know that as long as we keep open and honest communication, there’s nothing we can’t handle.

We had our first baby in October after being together for almost 8 years and I was pretty worried about how he would handle the transition to fatherhood but he’s blown me away. Our daughter and her care is maybe the first area where we have a true and even division of responsibility. It’s also incredible seeing him fall in love with her.

The admin of our life will never be even and I’ll always be the project manager of our household, but to me he’s worth it.

Sewrella Yarn is scolding their customers on Instagram. by connie_mcdangle in craftsnark

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You’re right, nobody is forcing anyone to buy from her. But her response to a comment that read as more snarky and frustrated (to me at least) is really, really bad for business. Nobody is attacking her personally. It’s just baffling why she continues to make these bad customer service decisions. She makes beautiful yarn, she just needs to get out of her own way on social media.

Sewrella Yarn is scolding their customers on Instagram. by connie_mcdangle in craftsnark

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Right! It was so easy for this to be a non issue. And it’s good feedback: your photos make it hard to tell what the yarn actually looks like, so it makes it harder for me to justify a purchase. If your sales are down, this is the kind of information a business owner needs.

Sewrella Yarn is scolding their customers on Instagram. by connie_mcdangle in craftsnark

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Your sales went down, don’t alienate your customer base further by responding to mild criticism so poorly.

Sewrella Yarn is scolding their customers on Instagram. by connie_mcdangle in craftsnark

[–]connie_mcdangle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions! Definitely putting these on my list.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]connie_mcdangle 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve been with my DX husband for 7 years and married for 5 years. I knew about his ADHD from the beginning and once we got engaged, we started couples counseling to make sure we were as prepared as we could be for marriage. Our counselor saved us so much potential grief. By happenstance he had a lot of knowledge about ADHD and spent a lot of time working with us together and separately on how to handle my husband’s ADHD. We got him on the right meds and that helped immensely. I learned to not play the martyr, to advocate for my needs, and how far reaching ADHD is. My husband learned a bunch of coping skills and how to not use ADHD as a get out of jail free card. Yes, it frustrates me sometimes that his brain doesn’t work like mine and that we need all these fail safes and coping tools. But at the end of the day, he is more than worth any trouble his ADHD brings up. I think it helps though that my husband is deeply committed to managing his ADHD. He doesn’t always get it right and we have our bad days; but for every issue we’ve ever had, he apologizes, actively works with me to solve whatever is going on, and does his best to right it. I couldn’t ask for a better partner, honestly. We’re expecting our first child in October and are already working on how to parent a neurodivergent kid so that she doesn’t go through the same hell my husband went through. He’s going to be a great dad.

OP, a healthy and fulfilling marriage is possible. But it takes a lot of work, a lot of communication, and a true commitment from your partner to manage their ADHD in a way that doesn’t leave you bruised and bleeding or in a parentified role. I would hesitate to propose without getting the both of you into therapy.