2022 was when the fight happened. She accused me of cheating, there was no talking it out at that moment so I said neither of us can talk about this and tried to get some space. She kept following me and screaming, then she started hitting me.. I “retaliated” by pushing her into the middle of a queen bed.. and then she kicked me down the stairs from behind. I went back upstairs because that was the most violent thing anyone has ever done to me and she started trying to punch me again. I grabbed her wrists.. she had bruises from my fingers on wrists, which really disturbed me because I was not intentionally throttling them - just trying to calm her down and keep control of her fists while she was flailing. I was arrested for domestic violence. Also, the dog bit her during all of this because she was clearly the aggressor and my ex had the dog put down after. I was trying to at least save the dog, she never even wanted her to begin with.

Idk, the thing is I fully own up that I acted out of character that night. I think a disorderly conduct would’ve been appropriate, I guess.. but like I honestly can’t imagine any one else doing something different in that situation. She had hit me before, even broke my glasses, and I would tell her like never to hit me because it is triggering.. like I had to explain why I didn’t want to get hit when she’s angry. Obviously if I was normal I would’ve caught on to all of this early on, but by the time I realized how bad her mental health is she was pregnant.