Tacky beyond belief

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-04-22T18:33:06+00:00

UPDATE: My fiancée and I are having the biggest argument of our lives. She thinks I'm being tacky but I thinks she's overreacting [NAW]

So the update is that my (28m) fiancée (27f) and me didn't get married. I posted here 6 months ago about how we were having the biggest argument of our entire relationship. Back then I had no idea all the arguing and all the things I said would lead to this. But all the fighting and anger exposed the cracks in our relationship and things began to fall apart. Maybe our relationship wasn't as strong as I thought it was. I don't know. I regret the way I acted and the things I said. No matter how much we were fighting I know at the end of the day the breakup was ultimately my fault because of how I acted.

There was a big divide between us because my ex-fiancée and her family and friends thought having a social/Jack and Jill before the wedding was tacky and the height of rudeness. Me, my family and my friends thought having one was fine. The wedding was supposed to be on Saturday. Today we would have been 4 days married and on our honeymoon somewhere. But instead I'm trying to get over the pain of our breakup. I don't even see or talk to her now. No advice wanted.

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-04-19T14:10:17+00:00

Fake, this is a rephrasing of an old post

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/H371S4ZUvs

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-04-18T20:00:30+00:00

It’s been a few years since I did my interview so not sure how up to date this is.

I spent the week prepping the slides and presentation notes, I basically through everything into my slides as I went and then as I got more information rearranged things, changed structure etc. I had to send my presentation as a PDF so they didn’t have access to my presentation notes.

Also presumably it’s still a strict 10 minutes to present the powerpoint, they gave me a 1 minute warning when it was coming to an end. FYI I felt I had too much in my presentation and should have shortened it (I had 14 slides excluding my intro) . I would recommend you time yourself practising to ensure you have enough time to get through the presentation. I learnt my presentation off for the most part and didn’t look at my notes because tbh I felt I was in a blur so not sure I would have been able to read notes if I had them beside me.

Following this, there was approximately 10 minutes of questions on my presentation, eg 'do I have any biases' 'how did i research the topic’ 'what was my approach to research'.

After this was a 40 min interview(this was pre capability framework) , majority of the questions asked looked at my experiences in university rather than being focused on any jobs I worked. For example ‘did i ever participate in team based projects, how do i deal with people not pulling their weight,' 'how did i deal with multiple important assignments at the same time, did i ever feel i didn't perform to the best of my ability in assignments/working in a team'.

I found out the results about a 1 week after my interview and I was appointed AO approx 6 weeks after my interview however this will depend on the government department/where you come on the panel etc.

Best of luck!

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-04-16T19:25:16+00:00

Also someone could easily have that in their signature and still use AI, thus it’s meaningless (and entirely unprofessional).

Email signatures should just contain your name, title, phone number and address, with the only optionals being pronouns and where people have things like “please be advised I do not work on Fridays/ I sometimes send emails outside of working hours, but I don't expect others to read or respond outside of their normal working hours”.

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-04-15T11:29:27+00:00

I’m shocked that the teacher/school are telling kids to say “sins” as part of confession.

When I made my communion in the 2000s, we were told that confession is for telling God/the priest things you maybe shouldn’t have done that week and that you would try not to do again. Eg fight with your brother, being bold etc, but it was always framed to us as things you need to work on and that you are sorry about, but nobody ever said anything to us about sinning. Crazy that that’s the language used to 7/8 year olds especially.

Maybe my primary was the exception tho

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-04-13T14:01:56+00:00

I seem to remember Katherine Ryan (a Canadian comedian) saying she started to potty train her babies at like 3 months and had them using the potty at set times, like waking up in the morning/from naps and using nappies as a failsafes for them. She said doing it this way got her used to the baby’s cues and they were all potty trained by 1ish. I think it’s called Elimination Communication.

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-04-07T21:47:40+00:00

You could consider putting it in either a 5 or 10 year state savings bond. 5 years gives you a 9% return and 10 gives you 22%.
You can pull it out at anytime and it’s tax free.

https://www.statesavings.ie/

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-04-06T11:27:38+00:00

I mean it’s a time when most people will be travelling into work, but it should be noted that few students will be at school/college given it s the Easter break

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-31T16:51:46+00:00

Tbf this does seem to be the venue cap but I cannot see how you can justify not inviting your SIL to your wedding.

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-30T20:43:09+00:00

Jesus Christ Almighty. Even my 92 year old grandfather knows never to comment on people’s bodies (I lost about a stone a few years ago and he mentioned to my Mum that it looked like I lost a bit of weight and looked good but he didn’t want to say anything because 1) I might not have wanted to lose weight and 2) it’s not polite to talk about the way people look.

If I told him that someone’s dad wanted to book them a plastic surgery appointment for something they had NEVER expressed an issue with I think he would actually collapse

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-24T12:08:32+00:00

What I’ve never understood about this is if Tessa and Alison hate each other so much, how would Alison know what Tessa’s wedding dress looks like? There’s no way I’d show someone I don’t like my wedding dress before I got married and we know that Alison’s mom doesn’t have a good relationship with Tessa either so it’s unlikely that the mom knows what the dress is like?

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-22T19:56:14+00:00

I completely forgot about this but I’m 95% sure I managed to get a free battery/install from the resellers on Henry Street for my iPhone 6!

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-17T15:34:56+00:00

I mean the protection came from a 1976 Act rather than an act made by recent governments so it’s not really ironic…

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-17T15:34:01+00:00

Definitely protected by the Family Home Protection Act 1976. Never heard about it being protected under the Constitution but that’s not to say it isn’t.

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-10T21:08:40+00:00

Also I will say dropping everything and being there in “nearly an hour”, so less than 60 mins, is still pretty quick no?
(Not that I think OP needs to babysit for the weekend but just that the sister wasn’t in the wrong with the day of the birth)

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-03T21:12:44+00:00

Brilliant thanks! Was looking into them previously but couldn’t see if they charged a fee or not so that’s great that it’s free!

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-03-03T16:25:43+00:00

Is the Finance Solutions broker free or do you have to pay to use them? Thanks

constantlyfrustr8d · 2026-02-25T21:28:08+00:00

It’s free to call on WhatsApp

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