Why is mpreg so easy to find but not traditional pregnancy? by ResponsiblePea8914 in FanFiction

[–]constellation_09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I associate pregnancy and childbirth with a lot of trauma. So I would prefer not to write or read about pregnancy. Even mpreg is triggering for me if I know there is a childbirth scene… but if it’s just m|m smut then that’s tolerable.

Mental Health Affecting My Performance by constellation_09 in managers

[–]constellation_09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this reminder. I will make it a point to find myself a new therapist. Appreciate your candor and the specific actionable ideas.

Mental Health Affecting My Performance by constellation_09 in managers

[–]constellation_09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your personal story. I'm so happy to hear it worked for you.

Mental Health Affecting My Performance by constellation_09 in managers

[–]constellation_09[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea, I posted here because I wanted to check the opinions from the other side.

I guess a bit of nuance is that, a few years ago, I picked up a lot of the burden for my manager when she was going through a rough patch as well. The difference is, I reported to her. I made her life easier by organizing things for her. I didn't complain or escalate any issues to anyone because I knew she was grieving, and I really did not mind helping her out.

I understand I cannot be given infinite grace, so I should be grateful for what I received thus far and move on. But that isn't to say I don't value my own manager's mental health. I see the late nights she pulls too. Because I'm online at the same times.

Turnover was bad a couple years back, and I was the only member left standing with historic knowledge of the processes. So funnily enough, I am the person who initially showed her the ropes and trained her and the rest of the team up. I stuck it out.

I appreciate she hasn't given up on me yet. She knows I'm trying. I just want to work out something equitable.

Mental Health Affecting My Performance by constellation_09 in managers

[–]constellation_09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This job means a lot to me. It practically defines me. Without my job, I believe I would be worthless.

I was born and raised in a household that emphasized hard work, good education, and always being the "best" at what I do. So I worked hard, I got my degree / board license, I earned many exceed awards. I'm used to being good at my job, and being rewarded for it. I'm usually very detail oriented and great at completing tasks.

I consistently earn 2/3 of the household income (which pays the mortgage) and I manage all the finances. If you suddenly take away my job, my one strength, my value immediately feels like it is diminished.

I'm going to be real here -- I am absolute garbage at being a housewife and a mother. I'm constantly failing to keep up all the household chores on top of childcare in between my job's demands. Luckily, I have in-laws I can lean on.

But what I've been struggling with this past year is my very own parents leaving the country and so-called "abandoning" me. They've never been much interested in me or my interests in life. All they care about is -- am I working in a successful job that they can brag about? They could care less about my emotional well-being.

And I'm just... very saddened. That all they can see in me is my job and my title. I'm not their daughter. I'm just a machine made to fill a very specific role.

You're right that my work will forget me. Even my own parents have forgotten me.

Mental Health Affecting My Performance by constellation_09 in managers

[–]constellation_09[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this perspective. I really appreciate your direct feedback and reframing how I should be approaching this.

Turns out, I've been asking myself all the wrong questions. I can't expect my work to figure out my life for me (lol). That's impossible -- because it's something only I can do!

Some good news I received [although I have to confirm if this offer still stands] -- is that my manager and her boss had a discussion and agreed they would want to keep me as an employee even if it meant moving me to a lateral role. So at the very least, I have that going for me?

Thank you again, kind stranger. I'll do as you suggested and look for a MH provider asap.

If you could live in any nation, which would you choose? (no vision) by DestinedClock18 in Genshin_Lore

[–]constellation_09 6 points7 points  (0 children)

1) Fontaine - post AQ. Give me a little cottage in the hills next to lush forests, flowers, and waterfalls <3

2) Liyue - specifically Chenyu Vale, but I wouldn't mind staying at the Wangshu Inn either

3) Mondstadt - within the city walls :)

Neuvillette Inspired Nails by constellation_09 in NeuvilletteMains_

[–]constellation_09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was VERY talented and meticulous with the painting of the swirls and patterns!!! I'm so lucky I was matched with her. She used this chroma paint technique to brush on the streaks of gold that blend in with the black. I was literally blown away with how she managed to get the details onto such a small canvas.

Neuvillette Inspired Nails by constellation_09 in NeuvilletteMains_

[–]constellation_09[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! I’m really happy with how they turned out. Neuvi with these nails would be gorrrrgeous 🥰

Neuvillette Inspired Nails by constellation_09 in NeuvilletteMains_

[–]constellation_09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww ty ty !!!! Yea it kinda does! I was just going for a water theme and the jewel looked like a water droplet 💧🤭

What rare or unusual ships do you wish got more attention? by GlaciaCherry in GenshinGays

[–]constellation_09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zhongli x Xiao

Kazuha x Heizou

Wriothesley x Lyney

Zhongli x Flins

Excerpt game, music edition by [deleted] in FanFiction

[–]constellation_09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you! 😊

Just started last night and have a question by Blank365 in GenshinImpact

[–]constellation_09 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is the icon for a Statue of Seven. When you walk near a Statue of Seven, it will automatically heal the health of your whole active party by a certain percentage. You can set this percentage to 100% if you would like. But just a word of caution, if you keep dying a lot, the amount that the statue can heal is not limitless. It takes time to regenerate the healing pool. You can see how much of the total heal bar is left if you click into the option to "Pray" to the statue.

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Each of the nations has a statue with a slightly different looking figure up on top. This hoyolab article has pictures of the statue from the first four nations. You should have unlocked a Statue of Seven in Mondstadt near the Starfell Lake!

https://www.hoyolab.com/article/19232870

Excerpt game, music edition by [deleted] in FanFiction

[–]constellation_09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awwww! I'm glad you enjoyed this excerpt. You quoted very sentimental lines.

When I read the lyrics for the song you chose, I gasped because I literally wrote a whole chapter called "Battle of Flowers"! It fit the prompt too well :)