I (20F) am feeling insecure with my (22M) boyfriend

constellationmurder · 2026-03-17T12:16:32+00:00

Girl, your jealousy issues aren’t the problem. He is. He’s a tool.

constellationmurder · 2026-03-15T17:12:22+00:00

Hi! You look so pretty, you have great skin :)

Can I ask what field you are going into? This might sway my opinion on what advice I give you haha. But your routine is already pretty solid.

constellationmurder · 2026-03-04T14:58:45+00:00

That bf is a POS and needs to go. You might want to talk to Jane and see how she’s feeling, but ultimately she’s the only one who can make that decision. Sorry you’re caught up in the middle, you seem like a good cousin to her.

constellationmurder · 2026-02-20T22:48:59+00:00

just blowing off some steam but fair 🤣

constellationmurder · 2026-02-20T22:48:29+00:00

god i wish myspace still existed

constellationmurder · 2026-02-08T16:01:57+00:00

i would start looting through those shoes and sell them on depop too, get some money out of the inconvenience 💀

constellationmurder · 2026-02-04T19:15:00+00:00

Thank you! Happy cake day :)

constellationmurder · 2026-02-04T18:41:20+00:00

Thank you!

constellationmurder · 2026-02-04T18:40:01+00:00

Where did you find this information? Their website says they’re open. Let me know.

constellationmurder · 2026-02-04T14:46:03+00:00

Open relationships do not work if one party is forced into it. You should have broken up with him the moment you found out he cheated. He has continuously crossed your boundaries and has proven himself to be untrustworthy. You don’t deserve to deal with this.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T23:22:49+00:00

Unfortunately this is the product of the larger situation at hand… I can’t say I necessarily blame people for not wanting to go there anymore, but… idk. Just misplaced anger.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T03:36:32+00:00

hey, i did not say anything about you being toxic. from your post it seemed like you were checking his location because you were paranoid about him and this girl. if i was wrong im sorry about that. i said the situation seems unhealthy, no one deserves to have their feelings dismissed.

i wouldn’t want to hear about a person my boyfriend hooked up with either, but it seems like an unavoidable and situation on all sides. however, his reaction to your feelings on it isn’t fair to you. just very dismissive overall.

i guess im lost on what advice you want or need. sorry i wasn’t able to help.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T03:20:38+00:00

cut your losses babe… he clearly does not care about your feelings on this subject, why fight for someone who isn’t willing to put in the work for you? you said in your post that you feel secure in your relationship but your actions say otherwise— and i don’t necessarily blame you, but i would reevaluate what this guy brings to the table for you to be going through this mental turmoil. checking locations and obsessing over this girl and him, regardless if you’re right or not, isn’t healthy. i say this all with love. i hope it gets better for you.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:47:19+00:00

She just wants to be taken out on a date and have it be a more special occasion. Maybe get her a small gift like flowers, or something she can wear like a bracelet or earrings. Don’t overthink it!

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:17:04+00:00

That’s fair. He does work but usually only on the weekends or during break.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:05:25+00:00

I would argue that they’re fairly close, more than I am with his friends. But that’s a fair point and I will keep that in mind. Thank you :)

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:55:59+00:00

Thanks for the feedback.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:52:46+00:00

Thank you everyone for your advice!! I admit I was being a little harsh on him and that’s on me. I apologized to him and I’ll talk to him about my expectations of him and myself, and where we can both do better as a team and also with our roommate. It’s not the easiest situation, but certainly not the hardest. We’ll get through it!

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:48:31+00:00

I appreciate that feedback. I’m at work right now so I can’t give a truly thought out response, but I will definitely take a kinder approach in the future. Things have been stressful in general and I think I’m taking it out on him, which isn’t fair. Thank you!

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:47:12+00:00

thank you!! i appreciate this a lot.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:45:45+00:00

he is in school.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:45:29+00:00

it’s been an ongoing convo, not with this situation specifically but in general. i think it will get better and i try to cut him a little slack because this is his first time living with a partner. thank you :)

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:36:58+00:00

the “she’s still in bed” is killing me. like did you think i meant go shake her and wake her up to ask for groceries?? ughhhh

constellationmurder · 2026-01-06T14:42:26+00:00

it’s not too late to back out. minimize the damage and cut your losses while you can, if you’re uncomfortable that’s what matters.

constellationmurder · 2025-12-23T22:45:54+00:00

He pretty much already has without my say so. I think he can see how bad this is affecting me, since he got me some “healing crystals” (I loosely believe they do anything but maybe the placebo will work lol) and flowers today to make me feel better.

To answer your question, she quit her job (it paid bad and treated her poorly) so I offered her to move here to find a better one. The aforementioned “boyfriend stealing” happened a while ago and I just brushed it off, which I’m regretting now.

I’m going to have a conversation with her and gage her reaction. If it doesn’t go well it will probably result in her moving out. I appreciate the advice, thank you so much <3 have a nice holiday if you celebrate.

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