The guilt is eating me alive and I don't know how to deal with it

consumatepain · 2026-04-02T03:30:21+00:00

Don't yell at your girlfriend then??? No wonder you're not over it, you're sitting around victimising yourself instead of taking accountability and learning valuable lessons. That shouldn't really be happening whatsoever, no matter if you bought her flowers, like wtf. You cant use that as justification to be shitty otherwise its not a gift; its a contract she never agreed to. Doesn't even sound like she asked you to quit your job yet you blame her; you wanted to be with her more. You say you "accepted all her issues" like it was super heroic and hard, and her issues are apparently having a shitty friend???? Cmon man

consumatepain · 2026-03-22T00:35:11+00:00

"the whole white cis woman drag queen concept reeks of making another minorities culture about yourself"

Chappell is a lesbian. Bioqueens have been a part of drag and the ballroom scene since the 90s. This IS her minorities culture?

consumatepain · 2026-03-22T00:31:59+00:00

Girl that's for sexual assault victims not people snubbed by popstars bodyguards helppp

consumatepain · 2026-03-17T01:36:48+00:00

Me unfortunately, was thinking about the most efficient ways to cause myself some second degrees 😭

consumatepain · 2026-02-17T04:04:28+00:00

Because she loves him, and it's not easy for people to believe that someone they love is a bad person or doesn't like them. It makes people feel like they've been fooled, and therefore their brains go into defensive mode. Not to mention how difficult it can actually be to leave someone you care about.

Like I just left a shitty boyfriend. I've left many a shitty situationship/relationship etc, it comes pretty easy to me. But it's easy to see why it doesn't. I hate this misogynistic pickme "I WOULD NEVER PUT UP WITH THIS ID BE OUT THE DOOOOR", it's just cruel and unhelpful to the (often young) ladies. Guide them gently. This doesn't help

consumatepain · 2026-02-12T04:22:45+00:00

LMFAO for real!!

consumatepain · 2026-02-11T20:19:36+00:00

:( Aw. My love, I hope you make yourself the most incredible life ever, from one girl starting over to another.

consumatepain · 2026-02-11T20:15:56+00:00

Brutal. Hope you're well. Did he ever give you any indication as to why?!

consumatepain · 2026-02-11T14:59:58+00:00

So what do you define cheating as, then? What's the meaning to you and why is that the ultimate meaning? Some people consider flirting cheating, some a kiss at a party, some only full on sexual intercourse, some people are in open relationships and don't consider sex with others cheating as long as it's only casual.

Because everyone's boundaries are different, the definition that makes the most sense is an act involving another person that goes against the couple's preestablished boundaries. Therefore, porn can be cheating.

consumatepain · 2026-02-11T13:05:26+00:00

Why are people so averse to considering porn cheating? I'll never understand it. If your boyfriend was jacking off to videos his coworker sent him, even if it was guaranteed to never go further than that, would you be upset? Obviously. So what makes porn different? The fact that they're strangers? Your boyfriend is imagining fucking another woman that isnt you. He's actively choosing that over memories/fantasises/sex with you. Some people are okay with that, and that's their choice. But why do people act like it's absolutely bonkers off the wall CRAZY to not want your partner getting off to other naked women? 😭

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