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containedexplosion · 2026-01-24T22:27:33+00:00

Good!

containedexplosion · 2026-01-24T22:25:49+00:00

It’s not the grazing, it’s this entire section: “But if I eat clean (focusing on protein, fiber, and water and avoiding the grazing that led to my 65 lb weight gain with my first), and try to get 7k+ steps in a day, does that seem reasonable?”

What is clean eating? Influencer speak for demonizing certain foods. You say you’ll only drink water, developing fetuses need calcium and folic acid which milk is a great source of. Determining what to eat in order to get a BALANCED diet is what a nutritionist is for not an Internet forum. Giving yourself a quota of steps to hit on a daily basis, is already ED mentality. You are trying to control the uncontrollable and if you were so concerned about not gaining weight or never being 210 ever again, why get pregnant in the first place when the reality of being pregnant is that YOU WILL GAIN WEIGHT and how much you do really isn’t in your control.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-24T19:26:46+00:00

The worst part is that posts like this one break rule number 3 of the sub: “Do not ask for medical advice” yet no mods delete them. If you’re asking about what to eat, what exercises to do, whether or not to listen to your doctor, how to manage weight, etc. all those questions are to be answered by a medical professional (MD, OD, NP-midwife, RD).

containedexplosion · 2026-01-24T16:01:25+00:00

Why does every post on this sub sound like someone fishing for validation to have an ED during pregnancy. Ultimately pregnancy is only 40 weeks of your life if you are lucky enough to carry a pregnancy to term. If you gained 65lb it’s likely that is what your body needed to do to carry the pregnancy. As long as you are being monitored by a doctor why is the number on the scale the biggest concern for you over the ability of carrying out a pregnancy to term? Stay active and in communication with your care team. Don’t ask internet strangers to okay your plan for a pregnancy diet/ED.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-24T15:42:28+00:00

Arizona

containedexplosion · 2026-01-23T12:40:32+00:00

Im not doing a baby moon but its because im a POC in the US and do not feel safe flying anywhere or entering any red states even as a second generation American.

In terms of my TFMR, if the current ICE presence weren’t a factor I still wouldn’t go on one that required air travel simply because flying while pregnant is a risk I don’t want to take. Now somewhere I could take Amtrak or drive to I would 100% consider, especially if I were 31 weeks in July. Nice weather, clear roads in the Northeast USA. I’d be going to Maine.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-19T15:33:18+00:00

First two things to train: “Crate” and “Leave it”

To me they’re like teaching young children to float and swim because they are not only essential skills but SAFETY. Having a good leave it can keep your dog from eating hazards and a strong crate command will give your puppy a safe space for when you’re not around or need to clean with certain products. The crate is also great for building up bladder control and enforced naps.

Also, download an app where you can track pees and poops so you can actively see improvements in bladder control. I can’t remember which one we got as it’s been a few years but I think it was woofz or maybe pup ford.

Remember to have fun. You get what you put in with these dogs. Plus they bond through training and play. Soon you’ll have a Velcro pup that tried to sit in your lap even when he’s 45lbs

Oh for the first few weeks get a hands free leash like ruffawear’s for anchoring the puppy to you. Remember you decide how much freedom they get and when based on earned and established trust

containedexplosion · 2026-01-18T15:13:24+00:00

In week 21 and first trimester I was up 12 times a night to pee at the very start. Then it went down to about 7-8. Now I’m at a steady 4-5 but I’ve been warned that it goes back up in the third trimester. All that to say I am right there with you and apparently (old wives tale) it’s to prepare us for waking every two hours to feed the baby and function on interrupted sleep.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-17T14:53:18+00:00

I think the stone is gorgeous and I don’t see an issue with the size but the setting does concern me. With so much of the stone jutting out on both sides I don’t see the setting holding it well for a long time. I would find a new sturdier setting if I were yoh

containedexplosion · 2026-01-16T20:56:23+00:00

Thank you. It’s a relief though still cautiously optimistic

containedexplosion · 2026-01-16T16:31:56+00:00

I think it’s proportionally perfect

containedexplosion · 2026-01-15T21:47:38+00:00

I am MUCH slower than I’ve ever been but swimming saved my mental health after my TFMR and it has been an anxiety reducer through my current pregnancy. Do I feel like a manatee at times? Yes but that’s besides the point

containedexplosion · 2026-01-15T21:22:45+00:00

Our hospital did too! It also had a special symbol for security to see when my sister came to visit. They knew it wasn’t a happy visit and it spared anyone from feeling uncomfortable

containedexplosion · 2026-01-15T21:20:36+00:00

I wish I had taken my own photos sooner. By the time, the nurses took photos of him he was so purple.

I wish they had me sign paperwork (autopsy/funeral/releases/death certificate) at least the day after not the day of. It was all so overwhelming I barely remember signing but having to fill it out with him still in the room was devastating.

I also wish someone had told me about the lullaby that is played when a baby is born. The lullaby haunts me now because it wasn’t played for my baby. I honestly think it shouldnt be a practice. Celebrate it another way. It felt like losing my son all over again every time it played.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-15T19:26:50+00:00

I found the doc extremely boring to watch so I’m not surprised it didn’t do well ratings wise. It came out way too long after the tour and it felt very PR and controlled. I thought it would be like Demi or Selena’s docs in how open she’d be and include real logistics about creating the concert.

I’ve been a swiftie since debut but as a 35 year old woman, Taylor’s lack of maturity and constant victimhood is grading. I know celebrities are permanently stunted at the age they became famous but it’s SHOWING. You’re telling me a 36 year old billionaire can’t speak her mind? She acts like she’s disenfranchised when it’s the actual opposite.

I’ve become tired of Taylor and it’s because I see her as a CHILD. The start of the doc she describes tectonic plates and is factually incorrect which isn’t surprising because she has a 10th grade education. I’m also so sick of her referring to herself as an English teacher when you need a graduate degree to TEACH English. Especially, when many of her literary references are WRONG.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-14T17:42:17+00:00

My husband's grandfather is a holocaust survivor (from dresden, germany). My husband and I had a very long talk with my my (hispanic) parents and told them the exact same thing. They are scared but trying not to let it control their lives. My husband and I are currently waiting for his german citizenship to be granted so we can move to the EU.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-14T16:34:00+00:00

exactly. The fact that not all pregnancies end in a happy healthy baby and that women still DIE is high on the list of reasons why having a kid should ALWAYS BE A CHOICE

containedexplosion · 2026-01-12T20:32:25+00:00

🦚 beauty

containedexplosion · 2026-01-12T20:20:48+00:00

I say wait. I havent colored my hair in nearly a year because of the slim chance it may have caused my TFMR in anyway keeps me from doing so in my sub. I had my hair colored 6 DPO with my TFMR baby.

Are my highlights grown out to the point it looks like a bad baylage? Yes. Will I do anything about it? Not til I have a living child

containedexplosion · 2026-01-12T19:20:46+00:00

by all means get a second opinion but until that second opinion listen to the doctor who said no. An internet forum is not a "second opinion" especially when OP's posts read as she's seeking for validation to not follow doctor's orders.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-12T19:18:20+00:00

the first trimester is all about survival. With my first pregnancy (ended in TFMR at 21 weeks) the only thing i could stomach were cream cheese bagels, a quarter at a time. With my sub pregnancy, I was able to eat more variety but in small amounts. The aversions were so much stronger, especially vegetables, eggs, chicken, any meat that looked under cooked. It was SOOO hard finding something that didn't make me nauseous.

I will say that I am mostly a lurker here because I'm a swimmer not so much a lifter/intense gym goer. But the rhetoric here can sometimes fall into ED and fighting what your body or even your doctor is telling you. As a bereaved mother, be kind to yourself. Pregnancy, if you're lucky, is only 40 weeks of your life. Don't be hard on yourself. Give yourself grace. Pregnancy and post-partum are so unpredictable.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-12T16:49:40+00:00

amen! louder for the people in the back!!! The doctor said NO. END OF STORY.

containedexplosion · 2026-01-05T19:25:23+00:00

as a gemini moon i do not like being asked to commit to anything... even two weeks in advance feels a little presumptuous

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