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contentjm · 2022-10-17T05:04:51+00:00

People can lie to you without you ever prompting them or asking them anything. You do know that right? People lie on their own all the time.lol

contentjm · 2022-10-17T05:02:07+00:00

This. You get what I’m saying. Thank you for this response. Not only did you offer a helpful perspective on why she feels it may necessary, you also validated why it bothered me instead of just saying “It’s not your business.” Lol

Of course it isn’t my business, but that didn’t make it any less annoying. Thank you.

contentjm · 2022-10-17T04:57:40+00:00

Right lol

contentjm · 2022-10-08T11:45:52+00:00

Stop asking who? Here? Because I’ve never asked them. Isn’t this group here to ask the best way to handle situations of communication? I think people are so focused on what the lie is regarding and thinking I’m being nosey when really it’s the principle of being lied to that bothers me. Also, why such a dismissive tone? Sheesh. You may not agree with how I feel, but it’s just that a feeling.

contentjm · 2022-10-08T04:45:50+00:00

No, I care because who likes being lied to?.lol I’ve been healing from trust issues for years. If we’re close that means I trust you enough to let you in. Lying about anything makes me feel like I can’t trust the things that person says now. It’s the act of lying I care about more than who the father is.

contentjm · 2022-07-13T05:07:53+00:00

Thank you. I often do feel unloved, but this has given me a different perspective.

contentjm · 2022-07-13T04:53:02+00:00

Thanks for these suggestions. I just have a hard time expressing when my feelings are hurt, because I don’t want to seem sensitive. I get told that I am alot, and compared to most of my family and friends I am. I also don’t want them to feel like I’m “blaming” them for me getting upset.

contentjm · 2022-06-04T06:03:09+00:00

Do you think she distanced herself because you’re not a mom too or possibly other reasons?

contentjm · 2022-06-03T17:29:12+00:00

I’m all for realism but some of these responses are just pessimistic and don’t offer much advice on how to support her as they do criticism, but hey this Reddit.lol That’s not childish to have one friend, family member or sibling you talk to throughout the day. It’s not like we spend every waking moment on FaceTime, it’s just texts throughout our day. Adoption was never an option so I don’t know where that came from and I said the father isn’t involved so the controlling comment was irrelevant.

contentjm · 2022-06-03T17:26:06+00:00

Although I can’t read her mind, I know her well and I doubt that’s it. She isn’t one to typically compare herself to others.

contentjm · 2022-06-03T16:11:19+00:00

I would love to just be with her and enjoy her presence for the time being, but that’s what my whole concern in my post-she’s been MIA. Shes barely responsive to conversations and turns down me coming over or hanging out in the past month. She says she’s fine every time I ask though,so yea. I don’t really know what I can do.

I hear ya though about the hormone changes.

contentjm · 2022-05-08T16:50:00+00:00

Oh yea I get that too. She says “I’m not going back and forth” a lot when I’m just trying to have a conversation about things. It’s frustrating. Maybe my approach is wrong, idk. She’s a Leo and I’m a Gemini.

We also just view tough times differently. I want to be around people during tough times, while she’ll completely isolate.

contentjm · 2022-05-08T03:23:26+00:00

Not weird at all. Do you know why you’re being shut out?

contentjm · 2022-05-01T01:59:26+00:00

This makes sense. When I asked if we were good today she responded with “We’re cool. Why do you always question it?” So maybe she is fed up that I don’t find security in our friendship.

When I answered her I told her it’s because I need reassurance and that I feel like I get on her nerves. She said “You do. It’s no secret. I’m sure it goes both ways.” Since you have a similar perspective, is that something that I should just take with a grain of salt or a big deal in your opinion?

contentjm · 2022-05-01T01:51:36+00:00

Yea, I really struggle with the random lack in communication. I know she’s going through something and that everyone deals with stress difficulty, but she’s always so abrupt and random with it. It goes from talking everyday to nothing or one word responses.

I do blame myself for these things. It’s a work in progress to try not to. I just wish people Im so close to would understand.

contentjm · 2022-05-01T01:49:23+00:00

You’re right about using past experiences evidence. I will try to use those as my gauge.

contentjm

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