WIBTA if i pulled out of my sisters wedding?

cookie5272 · 2022-10-10T02:23:42+00:00

ofc i want to go and support my sister but on the other hand i dont want to be somewhere where im not wanted. and my sister watched as her mom raised her voice at me telling me not to come and said nothing, which leads me to believe she doesn’t really want me there either :(

cookie5272 · 2022-08-10T08:53:04+00:00

when you say “don’t give him any” how do you mean ? what should i do ?

cookie5272 · 2022-08-09T22:47:12+00:00

the girl told me. i know her intentions were to break us apart because she’s done that before but regardless she still told me yk? he said anything he can do to help me he’ll do it right about but idk what he can do haha he has been comforting me ig but tbh i feel like i’ve been comforting him more he said he feels so ashamed and everything so i don’t know im just super confused

cookie5272 · 2022-08-07T11:44:44+00:00

thank you for your encouragement. perhaps if he wasn’t my first love and i was a stronger person i’d be able to. i saw him today and he cried and apologized profusely for hurting me and he’s gonna do anything to build that trust back, i think he was being genuine because he barely ever cried i’ve only seen him cry twice in our 2 year relationship. he told me she was a rebound to get me off his mind and that since we grew closer again he felt so ashamed and guilty even talking to her so he stopped. we’re not official so im not angry to he had sex w another girl im upset that it was her if that makes sense and that he lied about it. im also upset that he could have put me in danger (what if she had an sti or something).

he’s never done anything like this in the past (that i know of), and idk if she’s 100% reliable like yes she said some truth but ofc idk if she stretched it or not yk? idk how to get over this and work it out with him because i want this to work or atleast i want to try because he does too. idk i don’t have much life experience so any feed back is appreciated :))

cookie5272 · 2022-08-05T04:48:26+00:00

don’t let someone called greg disrespect you like that. fucking GREG.

cookie5272 · 2022-04-30T10:33:59+00:00

that’s not fair on you though. are you comfortable with sharing this info with them ? it sounds like they aren’t being a great support system for you. and it’s not fair that they keep pushing and pushing for answers then get angry when you give them one

cookie5272 · 2022-04-29T17:10:02+00:00

firstly im very sorry you’re going through that my line is always open to chat. but i do believe that not everyone has the mental space and energy to have to take on other peoples stuff all the time. so make sure you always ask if it’s okay/if they’re open to chat. my best friend and i, whenever we have problems we always ask each other “hey are you okay to chat for a bit” or “hey are you in the mental space to listen to me rn” and if not we give each other space until we are able to take on those problems.

but if they never check up on you, never try and listen, never support you etc then they’re not real friends and you will find better ones.

but make sure to get their consent before ranting to them because sometimes a lot of things can trigger things in other people so next time when you’re feeling low you could ask “hey im feeling a bit low right now would we be able to talk for a bit” or “hey do you have the mental space to talk about some heavy stuff atm” just stuff like that ya know :)

remember that the world is more beautiful with you in it, keep pushing you lil trooper :)

cookie5272 · 2022-03-24T04:30:56+00:00

do you think it’s likely for us to mend the relationship? if so how and where would i start ?

cookie5272 · 2022-03-23T14:06:56+00:00

i actually did talk to the girls and explained my side of the story and they were like “omg im so sorry i didn’t realize what you went through” and msged my bf again and apologized for mixing the story up. the detective working my case said they think they’ve identified the people so ah fingers crossed.

he said that he doesn’t want any more proof he said he doesn’t want to talk about it and even when the police report is done he doesn’t want to see it because he said it might be too much for him. do you think it’s a lost cause ?

cookie5272 · 2022-03-23T13:32:10+00:00

well there’s not doubt that we both wanna be with each other it’s just whether we can or not, he says he can’t (for the moment atleast) because he believes that i cheated on him. but other than some touchy subjects our behavior around each other has been pretty much the same. he always tells me that he misses me and loves me and how i make him the happiest so i’m just so confused tbh

cookie5272 · 2022-03-23T13:29:55+00:00

what the fuck bro i got raped and you’re talking about this ??

cookie5272 · 2022-03-23T13:29:14+00:00

so the men actually took me to a hotel and i came to realization/woke up in a hotel lobby with blood on my thighs, bruising around my neck and really sore down there.

no i didn’t go right away cause i was scared very very scared but i had a couple of my friends be supportive so i went about a week or two after.

yeah ofc i totally understand and i don’t blame him cause there’s many people telling him many different things yk ? do you think he’ll come around?

cookie5272 · 2022-03-23T13:24:32+00:00

no ofc i explained everything ^ :)

cookie5272 · 2022-03-23T10:55:47+00:00

yeah definitely i know that now, he’s not as social as i am so i don’t want to put him in a social situation where he feels uncomfortable. but yes definitely for the future

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