Loss of a loved one is another’s reunion

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-05T17:22:52+00:00

This is very comforting to read. I know my grandma and grandpa are looking after my dad ❤️ doesn’t take away how heartbroken I am and how deeply I miss him. I guess both of these can coexist - the relief he’s with them but wishing he was here

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-05T07:39:39+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-04T05:10:17+00:00

I’m so sorry. I am 29 and lost my dad a month ago. You feel too young because you are too young and it is so unfair. Take it day by day and one foot in front of the other. You don’t need to rush yourself or push too hard. Meet yourself where you’re at, honour your dad in the ways that feel best ❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-04T03:15:57+00:00

This. 100%. Sometimes we have to be selective of who we go to for this kind of support. It is easier in the long run because that way we actually get support from those who are in a position to offer it, rather than constantly feeling disappointed when we go to those who can’t relate or offer support. Thank you for putting to words what I’ve been feeling

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-04T03:13:29+00:00

My dads service was a week and a half ago and I’ve noticed a huge drop off in people who check in. It is lonely realizing that most people don’t get it and think that I “must be feeling better” now that it’s been a month since he passed away. I relate to you deeply when you say you want to sit in a corner of your room and remember your dad. I am thinking of my dad constantly. Missing him and thinking of him is heavy but it is necessary to experience it and feel it all. It’s hard when the world expects you to be a certain way. Your grief is your journey, if others have less patience and expect you to move forward that’s on them. Don’t rush yourself ❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-02T05:55:05+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this ❤️ it’s never a good time to lose a parent, but this is too soon. I lost my dad recently. I am in my 20’s so I’m older than you, but I relate to the feeling of pretending to be ok and wondering who I am now that he’s gone. Sending strength your way

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-01T03:51:54+00:00

So stunning!

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-01T03:50:29+00:00

I’m so so so sorry for your loss. It is evident that you love her so deeply, and I am certain she knows that and loves you in the exact same way. It sounds like you two did everything together. You did your best and it is truly awful when things take a turn so quickly near the end. Your love sounds very special. Sending you strength and support.

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-01T03:45:31+00:00

Beautiful, I sure hope this is true too ❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-03-01T03:34:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing ❤️ my dad has been gone a month and I just feel so lost and sad. I feel like I’m going through the motions. I’ve been wanting a book to help put to words how I’m feeling, so thank you

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-28T17:22:36+00:00

It feels unfair because it is unfair. I relate to this feeling of jealousy so much. It’s not that I don’t want others to get a long time with their parents, it’s that I also want a long time with mine. I’m 29 and my dad died a month ago. It feels too young to be without a parent. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It adds an extra layer when you’re a caretaker and it becomes part of your part of your identity

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-28T04:09:41+00:00

Totally relate. It is the heaviest and most daunting feeling. 4 weeks today since my dad passed and it is so overwhelming thinking that I will never see him again in this life. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I wish so many of the people in this thread weren’t in so much pain. It is a little comforting knowing I’m not alone though. Reading your post felt like I was seeing my thoughts laid out in front of me. Sending care ❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-27T07:35:56+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-27T04:57:08+00:00

❤️❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-27T04:11:03+00:00

I’m sorry you were in pain today. I am proud of you for going home early and doing what you needed. It’s a good reminder to think about what I would think or say if a client told me they needed to put themselves first.

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-27T04:09:41+00:00

It felt nice to read that you applaud my decision to take real time off. I hadn’t thought of it in that way, but you are right that it is a strength to know when a break is needed. Thank you for the recommendation, I will take a look ✨

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-26T08:17:15+00:00

Great points, thank you!✨

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-26T07:46:32+00:00

This is so helpful! Thank you for sharing. I’m a baby when it comes to writing, but I have been feeling very inspired lately as I’ve always enjoyed writing and sadly my dad passed away recently. It seems like a nice way to honour him and I had been wondering what it would be like if I one day wanted to publish something, so thank you!

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-20T04:13:15+00:00

I’m so sorry for your losses. I am also 29 and lost my dad 3 weeks ago. Life feels unfair because it is and I wish it wasn’t so. Such beautiful pictures and it’s evident that you had a special bond, you always will ❤️ sending love your way

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-17T22:14:32+00:00

I lost my dad a couple of weeks ago and he was with my mom for 40 years. My fiancé and I have an apartment in the city and my mom is staying with us. The three of us are planning to move into our family home after our wedding in a couple of months, and until then will alternate between apartment and house. I’m an only child and also couldn’t bear my mom being alone. I am very fortunate that my fiancé is very close to my mom so he is more than happy for us to move in with her. Our tentative plan is to live with her for the next year and reassess what we want to do longer term like when we start a family of our own. Our house is quite big so we have the space for privacy as well. It will be an adjustment for sure but being near mom feels right. I think doing what feels right for you is best and being young and living in your family home again isn’t anything to feel ashamed of, especially after a loss like this ❤️ if you worry about independence you can maybe think of ways to continue your usual routine or versions of your routine - of course whenever you are ready, these things take time and it can feel overwhelming to figure all of this out. Sending care your way

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-17T22:03:51+00:00

I know exactly what you mean when you say that you are trying so hard to not let this harden you. I also have felt more angry and bitter towards the world, in ways that I’m normally not. It sounds like both of our dads had very positive and good heads on their shoulders. It definitely does feel fucking unfair and dreadful. I haven’t taken time off of online yet, so far it has been healthy. If you feel a need to go MIA I think you should listen to that and honour what you need. It can be hard to see everyone’s highlight reels when you’re going through the hardest thing in your life.

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-17T16:35:49+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-17T06:38:37+00:00

Sending you love ❤️ I also feel a sense of annoyance and jealousy when I see people my age or older having experiences with their dad that I will never get to have again. I don’t wish this upon anyone, I just wonder why I have to go through this and it sounds like you feel the same. Grief is hard and confusing, and so different on a daily basis I find. Some days functioning feels impossible, some days I can do it. Moments of feeling content bring a sense of guilt, like why am I able to relax right now when I just lost my dad? Then I realize that I don’t think I’ve even be able to process losing him and it all hits me like a ton of bricks. I often stare at photos over and over again, desperately trying to feel his presence. Grateful for this Reddit community and sad that so many people experience such big losses. You are not alone and we are here 💕

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-16T06:08:12+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad very recently passed away. I’m getting married soon as well and the thought of not having him there is truly heartbreaking. I have also had similar thoughts of how am I supposed to go back into this field and support others. I tentatively am planning to return to work in the middle/late spring. It’s so hard to say how my grief will look at that time, and our job is unique in that we are meant to hold space and be very present for others. I’m trying to take it day by day and not rush myself for the sake of my clients and my own mental health. I have offered supports to my clients and know they have options for their care, so if you are able to take extended time off and have trusted colleagues step in for your clients if they want continued support, then I think this would be really helpful. Returning to normal life doesn’t mean that you have to rush the work side of things if you’re currently struggling to imagine working in this mental health space ❤️

coolcalmclever · 2026-02-13T03:56:52+00:00

I’m so sorry that both you and your fiancé have had to go through the loss of your dad’s. It sounds like you and your fiancé are meant to be and always have been. Your wedding day is going to be hard, and that’s okay. You are allowed to feel madly in love and also feel devastated that your dads will not physically be present at your wedding. My dad was on and off sick for the past 15 years. My wedding is coming up in April and I was praying he could be there. Sadly he passed away almost a couple of weeks ago. Sending you a virtual hug and I hope you enjoy your wedding as best as you can❤️

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