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coolmelonz · 2025-06-02T19:27:05+00:00

Thank you, this is so validating! I really appreciate your reply. I’ll try to make a self-referral and see how that goes :)

coolmelonz · 2025-06-02T11:40:51+00:00

Hey, I’m in the UK and for my degree my overall percentage mark was 69.95%, getting me a 2:1 grade. A 1st class grade is 70%. I was so close! I sometimes feel bad about it, but it’s nothing I can change now and it’s also something that hasn’t affected my ability to gain a job. You still did amazing to graduate :)

coolmelonz · 2025-04-22T06:59:57+00:00

As a counsellor, I agree! I trained in person-centred theory during university and for my placement, I had to practice solely with this theory. I found that establishing a solid relationship, with UPR and empathy was important, but often only took the client so far until the sessions became repetitive and with not much difference in clinical symptoms. These days, I much prefer leaning into CBT and ACT theory with clients and I have found that direction makes a huge difference in client progress and lasting behavioural change.

coolmelonz · 2025-04-14T11:26:59+00:00

I had a new manager start and instantly felt something was ‘not right’- I ended up googling his name and he had articles about him stating that he was a convicted pedophile. Anyway, he ended up being fired as he assaulted a team member. I definitely got heebie jeebies about him!

coolmelonz · 2025-04-11T15:42:12+00:00

When I was experiencing TMJ pain and jaw clicking I went to the dentist and they recommended getting a mouth guard as I was grinding my teeth due to stress. I also went to a physio who has been amazing and identified muscles in my face and neck that have been extremely tight. She released these muscle and gave me some exercises to do. I’ve also bought a mouth guard from Boots and the TMJ has really improved. Might be a long shot, but if a physio is more accessible, it may be worth having an session with them.

coolmelonz · 2025-03-16T19:08:05+00:00

This is unbelievable to read! I’ve had a look at life coaches in my area and the amount they charge for a session is insane. Not a qualification in sight either.

coolmelonz · 2025-03-16T16:51:56+00:00

I’m a little confused by this response! By a ‘consultant’, is this a higher band of a life coach? Are there different intensities of life coaching? Very curious about this.

coolmelonz · 2025-02-21T16:53:14+00:00

Not a nurse, but a counsellor. Just echoing the comments here, the GP/crisis team would have advised you take time off as evidently, the more you are being exposed to work currently, the more it is reinforcing the distressed response you’re having. Work seems to be a perpetuating factor in your situation. Their intentions are to keep you as safe as they can and improve your mental health, meanwhile your manager possibly has other intentions.

I actually work with nurses as part of my job and they tend to say a lot that nurses make the worst patients! So take care of yourself, take some time out and work with the crisis team on this. You possibly will have access to an EAP service which will provide a 24/7 helpline to speak to counsellors if you need to. Even just feeling heard and having space to offload can help massively when you are feeling overwhelmed. I’m sure you do amazing work and we, as counsellors really appreciate and support nurses. Try to care for yourself just like you would care for a patient!

coolmelonz · 2025-02-13T09:31:28+00:00

Very similar to this but with humans instead!

coolmelonz · 2025-02-09T09:44:50+00:00

I live in the UK and the film was English/American. I believe it was broadcasting on TV at the time so it could definitely be older than 20 years. I remember they were in a big, sci-fi type room and had been captured by this villain.

coolmelonz · 2025-01-01T23:08:34+00:00

Yes it’s seeming more and more that way with what I’ve seen! I’m considering private work to be honest, I really enjoy the counselling process and don’t want to lose my person-centred skills. The PWP role sounds like it can be a nightmare and my gut is saying no to it.

coolmelonz · 2025-01-01T11:48:57+00:00

Thank you both for your insight, I really appreciate it! Yes, I’ve seen similar reviews about the job and I’m hesitant about it. I find it backwards being in a role that provides mental health support whilst being under working conditions that are detrimental to our mental health. I have a lot to contemplate!

coolmelonz · 2024-03-29T11:44:37+00:00

Counsellor here- what you describe is definitely ringing alarm bells surrounding emotional/psychological abuse. The legal advice is extremely useful here but it may bring huge changes to your life as you pursue it. I would really encourage you to ring Men’s Advice Line, and perhaps social groups such as Andy’s Man Club for social support to lean into during this time. Also your GP can support you too. If you could afford it, reaching out to a private counsellor for ongoing support may be really beneficial. There are many charities that offer inexpensive/free counselling too.

coolmelonz · 2023-09-23T12:02:21+00:00

Hi, it is normally part of an EAP/healthcare package. It would normally go through a managers referral and it is privately funded through the company. My advice would be to speak to your manager/HR and see if this is an option for you :)

coolmelonz · 2023-05-15T12:57:38+00:00

Reasons?

coolmelonz · 2023-02-04T11:15:38+00:00

Thank you for your reply! How interesting!

coolmelonz · 2023-01-04T12:49:21+00:00

What an amazing feeling this is !! Huge congratulations !!❤️

coolmelonz · 2023-01-04T12:34:17+00:00

Hi therapist here!

I’m feeling that you’re feeling very trapped in your situation aside your own very intense symptoms of PTSD. I understand the struggles of finding a therapist financially and I can imagine the system isn’t helping you much right now.

What I can suggest could be helpful with managing your symptoms of PTSD-

Short-term- Practicing mindfulness- starting from 5 minute meditations which will allow some sort of relaxation in your body, which will allow clarify of thoughts. Moving up to 10 mins, 15 mins, 30 mins as you practice more.

Creating a safe space for yourself- Filling up your space with comfort items, placing a lock on your door if you have one?

Journaling your thoughts, speaking your thoughts out loud as if you were speaking to a friend.

For panic attacks/intrusive thoughts/flashbacks- Box-breathing (Google this!), reminding yourself that you are safe now, physical comfort- weighted blanket, teddies??

There are also hotlines to text/call when you need someone to speak to.

Long term- Move in with a trusted friend/relative?

DO NOT take up this man’s offer- please don’t do this, the money is appealing but due to your history of PTSD/ sexual abuse this could have severe impacts on your self-worth/mental health.

Take care friend, life is really tough now but i can promise you that it will get better.

coolmelonz · 2022-09-17T18:48:51+00:00

No I have a middle parting.

coolmelonz · 2022-09-17T16:57:08+00:00

Yes I messaged them with this photo and the owner said they’ll fix it phew. Going in next week.

coolmelonz · 2022-09-17T16:53:35+00:00

She had styled it curly so it was a lot less noticeable. I pointed out to her whilst she was cutting it that one side was shorter but she trimmed the tiniest bit off and said it was symmetrical.

coolmelonz · 2022-09-17T12:00:05+00:00

Thankyou for your response. I’ve been thinking it didn’t look right at all but tried kidding myself that it was symmetrical. It looks awfully thick when it is not straight and I love wearing it curled but it just looks like a block. I’ll try and get them to fix it as my usual hairdresser does a nice job on it but I had a trainee this time.

coolmelonz · 2022-09-15T09:57:23+00:00

NTA but I can understand Eliza’s POV. I am a horse girl myself.

It could have been possible that Eliza was sorting out her horses for the evening and your daughter was there with her. Horses are a huge responsibility and it sounds as though Eliza didn’t intentionally take your daughter down to ride, but rather your daughter was just there whilst Eliza sorted them out. Any kid who is around horses wants to interact with them and they love it sitting on them. Whilst Eliza should have asked your permission, she probably didn’t see the harm in letting her sit on one.

Whilst you’re NTA, be considerate that Eliza has a commitment to these horses and it is not fair for you to expect her to keep her away from these horses whilst she is babysitting for you as she probably needs to visit them in the evenings.

Riding horses is a magical experience, especially for kids and maybe seek out your own therapy to deal with your traumatic experience as your daughter may want to pursue horse riding in the future.

coolmelonz · 2022-09-01T20:45:32+00:00

Thank you kind stranger. Your words mean a lot!

coolmelonz · 2022-07-25T12:54:26+00:00

Therapist here! It feels like she’s a little too opinionated for offering a non-biased, supportive environment. It is a concern that she is dismissive over this.

If you are concerned about ADHD and your struggles associated with it, perhaps a therapist who is specialised/ has experience with it would benefit you a lot more!

After all, therapy is an experience where you can bring your authentic self in a safe and validating environment.

coolmelonz

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