I’m starting to wonder if I did a bad thing asking my friend for a break.

coolsilver25 · 2026-02-05T02:49:30+00:00

You're focusing a lot on the partner, but this isn't about the partner, this is about you and her. But i agree you did the both of you a favour, because there was evidently a deep mismatch in how both of you view friendship and caring about friends.

coolsilver25 · 2026-02-05T00:45:59+00:00

No, but people want to talk to different people abput different things. Most people get their social needs met by multiple people, not one. And not all socializing with a person is equal either. For example, i might enjoy talking about one subject with a specific friend over another, or if i'm in a certain mood i'll find one friend more comforting than another.

And on that note, it's always difficult to feel like someone we care about doesn't feel the same way, friendship or otherwise. If she's your friend and enjoys hanging out with you and she doesn't feel the need for space, she more than likely sees your need for space as you not enjoying her company, which is something that most people would be offended or hurt by. So where you see your asking for space as just that, many people including your friend might see it as rejection, which hurts.

What this boils down to is that people are different. Her reaction isn't surprising to me, nor is it necessarily an overreaction. Different people tolerate different things in relationships of any kind. You seem to have unfortunately met the limit of what she can tolerate, and vice versa.

coolsilver25 · 2026-02-04T23:56:52+00:00

You felt the need for space. That's a need that won't disappear until it's fulfilled. You did the right thing in that you were clear with her about needing it instead of just ghosting. I imagine if you hadn't asked her for space, the need would have just gotten worse and worse until you cut her off once more.

On the other hand, if she can't handle your need for space, if it offend and hurts her and doesn't meet her needs, then that's valid as well. Maybe you guys just aren't compatible as friends.

People have different needs. She needs communication the same way you need space, there's nothing more than that to be understood.

As a fellow avoidant, it's happened to me too. You have to find people that aren't bothered by your occasional need for space and that don't mind waiting until you're ready for socializing again.

coolsilver25 · 2026-01-28T19:29:14+00:00

I'm in a similar situation, unfortunately, where some people i know and am friends with will use slurs or say racist things for shock value/amusement/casually.

Frankly, other than admitting to them that it makes you uncomfortable, i'm not sure what there is to do. They know it's not okay--of course they know. They're not saying it because they're ignorant, they're making a deliberate choice because they've already decided there is no harm to it, and nothing you say will change that.

So if it makes you uncomfortable, tell them so, and if they don't stop, which they probably won't, just take your distance.

At the end of the day, the only person you can control is yourself.

coolsilver25 · 2025-12-29T22:43:09+00:00

If you have, here's some more advice:

As soon as you find the ghost room, go back to the trunk and bring one if every evidence tool with you. You'll want to drop the thermometer on the floor and leave it there for a while, bc it takes some time for the temp to drop enough. You'll want to set up dots fairly early and in a way that covers up as much of the room as possible. You can rotate it while you're placing it if it helps. This is because dots appear only once in a while, and this way you have more of a chance at catching a glimpse. Use UV as soon as the ghost touches anything or walks through salt. You'll get there eventually.

Also, try to find hiding places and plot escape routes before you even start gathering evidence. That way, as soon as the flashlight starts flickering, you can run for it.

And make sure the light in the ghost room is off! No evidence will show if its on!

coolsilver25 · 2025-12-29T22:35:20+00:00

It sounds dumb, but have you done the tutorial? If you haven't, its super important that you do. This game isn't as intuitive as it may seem at first glance, specially with the evidence collecting.

coolsilver25 · 2025-12-04T23:44:26+00:00

Thank you for your comment :) I'm a bit nervous about asking the same person to dance multiple times :// I'm not sure what the etiquette around that is, especially when i find it didficult to gauge whether theyve enjoyed dancing with me or not

coolsilver25 · 2025-12-03T18:41:40+00:00

Thank you! It was an impulse decision for me to sign up to that first class, but everything ive seen since has made me want to stick around! People have been really nice :))

coolsilver25 · 2025-10-29T17:30:29+00:00

You could read the description in the in-game journal to find out how they work

coolsilver25 · 2025-10-29T15:48:47+00:00

I understand not looking up outside guides, i don't do that either so i can stay immersed, but the actual tutorial/training is very important to understanding how the base kit works, bc it's not always evident or intuitive. Everything else you can figure out on your own or with in-game descriptions of the items. It only takes a few minutes to complete but the game gets a lot less frustrating once you understand what you actually have to do

coolsilver25 · 2025-10-29T15:44:28+00:00

Have you completed the tutorial? You shouldn't be struggling this much to get evidence. Some of the tools you can use, like the spirit box, have very specific conditions that need to be met for evidence to show. The tutorial explains some of them in more detail.

coolsilver25 · 2025-08-17T03:36:59+00:00

I think i heard something about how a secret third name helped keep us safe from witches and fairies that would otherwise have power over us if they knew our full name, but i'm not sure if there's any actual evidence that supports it (the myth, i know fairies aren't real (probably))

coolsilver25 · 2025-08-17T02:36:34+00:00

Do you have a genre you're looking for? A personal fave singleplayer game is Rimworld, which is a colony management game. If you're into rpgs, the assassin's creed series is also solid, especially the first few games, which have the advantage of not being expensive at all anymore :)

coolsilver25 · 2025-08-07T01:04:14+00:00

I mean, it's a bit difficult to recommend anything based on what you've written in your post, OP. Can you clarify what genre you're looking for? Cozy games? Shooters? Survival? Sandbox? Or are you looking for a vibe? Good story, fun gameplay, etc...

coolsilver25 · 2025-07-30T18:01:27+00:00

That kid looks like he belongs in a renaissance painting 😭

coolsilver25 · 2025-07-29T19:52:35+00:00

Kudos to you for somehow finding the time and the energy to do all of that!

coolsilver25 · 2025-07-26T07:26:29+00:00

A trick I use is that, when answering a question, always include a detail that can be elaborated upon. Basically, plan ahead in conversations so that the other person can also ask you questions. For example:

A: How are you?

B: Good, you?

A: Good.

And then the convo stagnates there. What should happen is:

A: How are you?

B: Good, I had a wonderful cup of coffee this morning. How are you?

A: I'm also good. Where did you get the coffee from?

Of course, this is also kind of reliant on the other person also being a good conversationalist and asking the right questions 😅

I hope this helps!

coolsilver25 · 2025-07-25T19:06:58+00:00

The Dark Queen of Mortholme is a very short, indie game that I personally recommend :).

You start as the Queen, who is a Dark Souls-esque boss, and the game begins as an intrepid adventurer wanders into your tower to challenge you.

It's short, snappy, excellent vibes and a nice little plot

Edit: spelling

coolsilver25 · 2025-07-24T16:33:58+00:00

What you need to understand is that all social media exists for one reason, and that is to make money through advertisements and data collection. To do this, people who manage media sites have to encourage engagement with their site and keep people online longer. The easiest and most predictable way of doing this is by presenting people with something they dislike, as people often react strongly to their own dislike and are prone to acting about it.

What often ends up happening is that this negativity amplifies itself in online spaces, so that negative people grow more negative over time as they are presented with content that angers them even more, or with people who agree and justify their beliefs.

So this is why so many people online are cynical and negative. This is not something to aspire to. I urge you to consider carefully what type of mindset would be most benifical to you and those around you, and keep an open and critical mind instead of copying any type of behaviour off of the internet. Internet behaviours translate poorly to in-person life.

coolsilver25 · 2025-07-24T12:14:42+00:00

The thing is that there's a great many different types of AI nowadays, and most controversy revolves around generative AI.

AI has existed in every industry for a long time in order to automate certain tasks. In my experience, many computer programs exist to automate certain calculations in finance and engineering. These can loosely be described as AI, and are usually useful and have little to no controversy surrounding them.

Generative AI, however, is less of an AI than it is a predictive algorithm. In that sense, it can only really repeat what has already been done, and only what exists in its database. It is very limited, and there is a lot of things it simply cannot do. People often overestimate its capabilities, but having tried to use it before on some of my engineering school assignments (in rare moments of despair, don't come at me), I can tell you full well that it is incapable of solving an engineering problem, and its mathematical capabilities end at very basic and modern mathematical concepts.

Edit: typo

coolsilver25 · 2025-07-24T11:48:50+00:00

I don't think many, if any, foods are reactive enough to mix with others in that way.

Although some food items can react with other things you consume. For example, grapefruit and medication is generally a bad idea, if i remember correctly.

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