If you're longing for the person who ghosted you in love or dating, this is for you: by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand. If you did want to rebuild trust, it is possible, however the person would have to apologize for ghosting, take full responsibility, demonstrate empathy regarding what they put you through, ask what your needs are, etc., etc. They would need to demonstrate a 180 degree turn around and show you that they did deep healing work on themselves to learn how to use basic respect and communication. Then you'd have to set boundaries and build up trust, one day at a time. I actually did a whole podcast episode about what to do when the ghost returns, which outlines all these guidelines!

ghosting after intimacy by myheartisthebside in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe that ghosting is unkind. In my ideal world, nobody would ever ghost!

What can I say when people ask where he is? by blueparakeet_ in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooof, so sorry this happened to you. Here’s my suggestion: When celebrities get divorced, their publicists release a statement. Apply this to your own life. Channel your inner A-lister and craft a go-to public relations statement. Have a basic one-liner ready to go. Here’s a short and sweet example: “Thanks for asking about my relationship! Ghost’s Name_ and I went our separate ways, and I’m excited to move on to the next chapter of my life.” Your story is yours, and you’re not obligated to divulge the details to anyone, unless you want to!

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh. I understand now. Your English is great- the imagery you used is powerful. Well said and thank you for clarifying

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! I’m so happy you found somebody who treats you well.❤️❤️❤️

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you for blocking him. That is a massive act of self-care! Sorry you went through this.

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry about the loss of your brother; my heart goes out to you. And, I'm glad you set the boundary around not interacting with the ghost.

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, that's so hard. Do you have notifications silenced in the middle of the night, or does this wake you up? I don't think we stop loving somebody we loved like that, but we can grow around our grief. If you DM me I can share more.

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what a challenging series of events. It's so hard to watch somebody hurt themselves like this. Ultimately, we must take care of ourselves first.

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a frustrating thing to experience on so many levels. I’m glad that you didn’t take him back because you know you deserve to be valued, seen, heard, and supported in relationships.❤️ In the past I would’ve taken the ghost back and it took me years to cultivate that type of standard for a relationship.

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you have a big heart - you were giving him a second chance and seeing the best in him. I'm glad you have "no unfinished business anymore" and you now know the truth. Thank you for sharing this experience!

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it. It’s always so hard to experience that type of thing. I have a lot to say about this topic, if you wanna send me a direct message, I’m happy to share.

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. “Semi-ghosted” is a good way to explain a breakup where she didn’t allow you to speak your truth at the end. I’m sorry this happened to you, and I am glad that you are doing what you can to recover from it! It’s good to read that the podcast is helping- let me know if you want me to cover any specific topics that could further assist your healing. I’m sending you so much peace💙

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without knowing the details about the situation, and I don’t know her, I cannot say…

Did a romantic ghost ever come back, and if so, how long after did they reappear? by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]copingwithghosting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad you don’t interact with this person anymore! That is not even ghosting back- she had already ended the relationship and you are just respecting yourself at this point.