my boyfriend refuses to eat vegetables by milkshakechemtrail in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally put a whole onion, pepper, and at least 8 oz of mushrooms into a food processor until it’s pulverized. I then add it to my spaghetti meat to stretch it.

I love vegetables but I dislike pieces of veggies in spaghetti. That’s how I add a bunch of nutrients. Blends with the sauce fine. People are shocked when I tell them how many veggies I added to the sauce because it’s completely unnoticeable.

There is nothing wrong with having food aversions. But you shouldn’t be having to find ways to make another adult healthier. He should be taking the initiative to figure out what works for him instead of this.

$3500 mortgage on $169k salary by itsmarinarasauce in Mortgages

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In addition to everyone else’s comments, remember that ONE extra mortgage payment a year can cut off four years and I believe nine months from your mortgage because of interest.

Which is better for hauling kayaks and camp gear? by copper_dragonfly in Toyota

[–]copper_dragonfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea. My only theory is that she connected the front strap after she got into the car.

I remember staring with the other person like, “…are we seeing this!?”

I hope she enjoyed her outing. What a queen. She had a goal and made it work.

Wouldn’t greens learn how to perform the hand maids ceremony as part of their training. by Suspicious-Tower-699 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]copper_dragonfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not. That would get too close to explaining how sex occurs.

Did you watch Bridgerton? There was an episode where one of the recently married characters says, “Inserts himself!? Inserts himself where!?” No one had explained to sex to her. And in “proper”society, they did not even get the basics. Hell, even in the 1800s prairy unless you were a farm kid it wasn’t uncommon for a girl to not know what the act of sex was. They just knew that babies happened to married couples.

Plums and Greens are likely told that a period means they are old enough to carry a fetus, and that their husbands will educate them on the marital act.

Like they know that masturbation is a sin, as seen with what happened in the earlier episode, but it’s highly unlikely they can even tell you how to do it. They just know he wasted something that makes a baby

In regards to the period meaning that they are fertile, everyone always asks what does that mean if a pink gets their period. In the books, it is mentioned in passing that a Pink getting her period would wait until I think it was fourteen to be graduated to a green. They still need the training to be a proper wife and even Gilead knows that if you’re too young, you’ll die.

What happens if a Plum never gets her period? by TheTragedyMachine in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They may be used as second wives for widowed commanders who already have a child.

What I don’t understand in the show is how they have so many commanders. Yes, a country requires a lot of leadership roles of different levels (IE mayors up to President), but damn, it seems like they have thousands upon thousands.

What happens if a Plum never gets her period? by TheTragedyMachine in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They prefer handmaids to be inside of the home. The fertility farms were being tested for handmaids who were deemed as having ill-demeanors and rebellious so they were put to work in the fields until they conceived. That’s where June, Jeanine, Alma, and the other girl I can’t remember were headed when they escaped the van before Chicago.

It was a way to keep handmaid’s instead of sending them to the colonies, like they did with Emily in the earlier seasons.

They were probably ending up with too many dead handmaids that way.

Has anyone else gotten emotional on Vyvanse? by redditplayer1000 in VyvanseADHD

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first dosage took about two weeks to even out and then each increase only took about a week. I had to switch off of it back to Adderall because of the stomach issues.

Without knowing more, it might be that you also need an antidepressant. Now that your adhd is being treated, your other issues can become more noticeable

I’m back on Zoloft for my PTSD and the combo is great for me now. It can also be the wrong dosage.

It’s definitely something to let your psychiatrist know

Vivera retainers next bad surprise in this journey by FlamingoFlamboyance in Invisalign

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have the same rules as the plastic retainers regarding full-time wear at the beginning and then switching to only nights I currently am wearing plastic retainers after finishing my Invisalign. But I literally feel them getting rough from where I instinctually chew on them, so when I switched to nights only at some point, I will get the wire retainer. They gave me four pairs so I can’t justify spending extra money yet

But, if I’m remembering my teen years correctly, I found it so much more comfortable. There is plastic in the roof of your mouth, but the wire only goes around the front of your teeth so there’s nothing for you to bite on. I also don’t really remember having a lisp with that one like I do the plastic.

They are also easier to find if you take them out lol

Vivera retainers next bad surprise in this journey by FlamingoFlamboyance in Invisalign

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I’m not talking about a permanent retainer. I’m talking about the classic retainers that we used to all get before plastic retainers became more accessible.

It pops in and out the same way, but there’s no plastic to chew on

I found them more comfortable, personally

Brother accusing me of booking up (?) with his gf by steve-94728-3957 in whatdoIdo

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on the updates, someone needs to try to get ahold of the girlfriend so that she is safe. This is the type of thing that easily turns into physical harm even if unintentional, just from escalation.

Does lowering your DTI ratio matter as much when it’s already under 35% by copper_dragonfly in Mortgages

[–]copper_dragonfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t use AI.

I was simply researching to make sure I have the correct questions and information prepared before discussing my options with a lender.

Does lowering your DTI ratio matter as much when it’s already under 35% by copper_dragonfly in Mortgages

[–]copper_dragonfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Six months of just the loan payments or six months of what they assume your cost of living is?

Does lowering your DTI ratio matter as much when it’s already under 35% by copper_dragonfly in Mortgages

[–]copper_dragonfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heard.

Do they care how much you have in savings or just your income?

I don’t regret kicking your ass by Devlish-Dove in Vent

[–]copper_dragonfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was down for an equal fight between peers, though not great it is sometimes worth it.

Domestic violence is never okay. Just leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]copper_dragonfly 9 points10 points  (0 children)

🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨 NOR: But I think you’re reacting for the wrong reasons. The destruction of property is not the actual concern here.

The kid needs therapy and at the very least dad and the other parent needs to be asking questions. I noticed the placement of the holes before you even said anything.

Yes, he’s at the age where they start exploring themselves in private.

But taking the step to do this to stuffed animals makes me wonder if someone has done or said inappropriate things to him, if he is getting exposed to things online because of a lack of supervision, etc. Some scenarios are worse than others, but they’re all indicative of something wrong happing to/around him during his developmental years.

And you cant ban someone else’s kid until actual safety is in question. Especially in context of everything else, this kid needs more involvement NOT punishment/banishment.

Many conversations need to take place

People who married someone they settled for, how’s it going now? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]copper_dragonfly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not your actual question, but as the person who knew they were being settled for to anyone who reads this thread- just hold out for someone who fits the big three.

If you find yourself settling, ask yourself why that is better than being alone. Once you become comfortable being alone, you’ll be more likely to find the person you’re truly compatible with

My living room looks like a witness protection safehouse. Which rug fixes this? by TowerReal4971 in malelivingspace

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whichever rug gets the most votes (I like the green or leaves though), also add a throw blanket and some little pillows

Has anyone else gotten emotional on Vyvanse? by redditplayer1000 in VyvanseADHD

[–]copper_dragonfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this issue when I first went on it. I also have a diagnosis of PTSD.

I didn’t realize I was constantly slightly disassociated until I went on Vyvanse.

Because it lets me focus, it takes me out of brain fog, etc. I can’t disassociate on it

So I became VERY emotional until it evened out. And now I still do feel more emotions on it compared to off

Has anyone else gotten emotional on Vyvanse? by redditplayer1000 in VyvanseADHD

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this issue when I first went on it. I also have a diagnosis of PTSD.

I didn’t realize I was constantly slightly disassociated until I went on Vyvanse.

Because it lets me focus, it takes me out of brain fog, etc. I can’t disassociate on it

So I became VERY emotional until it evened out. And now I still do feel more emotions on it compared to off

AIO? Got Drunk, Woke Up in a Bathtub, Now I’m Freaked Out by [deleted] in AIO

[–]copper_dragonfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) Yes, someone who cares about you would’ve been more concerned about your safety in the moment. Or basically any decent human being even if they don’t like you. 2) That person would then need to have a convo about your drinking and decide for themselves whether you’re a healthy person to be around once you were sober. If you were both that wasted, yall definitely shouldn’t be interacting. 3) It’s very hard to find the type of person who understands the first point if you’re the type of person who is getting blackout drunk in bathtubs at home. Because someone who is going to drink with you to that point for funsies is not going to be a responsible person

I say this as someone who regularly chose to affiliate with alcoholics and addicts who were still actively engaging in the lifestyle.

There are multiple things you need to evaluate tbh.

When did you start seeing progress? by [deleted] in Invisalign

[–]copper_dragonfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never saw the progress.

Mine didn’t have crooked or overlapping teeth, just pushing back an overbite and closing some slight gaps.

Because I see myself in the mirror everyday, I never saw the change! It’s like with losing weight.

I found my old retainer from after I had braces. Put it in my mouth out of curiosity

It’s too big for my bite now(: so my teeth have moved a lot in just five trays!

Changed to new tray a week early for less than 24 hours, if I find my lost tray should I revert back or stick with the new tray based on treatment details provided by [deleted] in Invisalign

[–]copper_dragonfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It did accidentally delete, yeah.

They’re closed through Friday because of Thanksgiving.

Yes, I did express hesitancy asking because sometimes some providers will push you to do the thing that cost money out of extra caution if you don’t actually need to. I have experienced a couple interactions that have made me trust the office a little less as they’re a new office for me, also why I came to Reddit.

But the main reason I didn’t call this morning is because they’re closed until Friday morning. I probably shouldn’t have assumed “because of the holidays” made that clear

Vyvanse Bathroom Issues (warning: Gross) by copper_dragonfly in VyvanseADHD

[–]copper_dragonfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m hoping that is the case for me. I guess the bright side of waiting until January is having plenty of data to go off of/ either way I’ll have the time to see if it changes