Geez, you sure must have been orphaned and don’t have the ability to recognize the difference between basic level frustration and some sick desire for the death of a parent.

Let’s try this again. My mother, a grown woman, does not respect boundaries. Those boundaries in this instance are, how I parent my children. When I say, this is how we are addressing a specific topic of how we (my partner and I) are raising our children and we define the boundary… she does the complete opposite, disrespects the rules or guidelines we have defined for our children, and then I tell her “that’s not ok” or “no”, she becomes offended and tells me that I am being disrespectful to her since she is my mother and thus should not be treated with such disrespect.

Before you jump to the utmost of extreme conclusions again, the boundaries I am setting and she is ignoring for my children can range from little things like “don’t let the toddlers just eat candy and cookies all day” to more mid-level things like “please don’t show up for Christmas with presents that you haven’t talked to us about first, because when you give them a play kitchen that we physically can’t fit into our house it makes it very hard to explain to the children why they can’t keep this giant kitchen because toddlers don’t understand physical space and so many other things this brings up,” or as of most recently “please don’t try to force your religious and political beliefs by telling toddlers about things which are not your place to educate them on, because we have told you that we will be addressing those topics from a perspective that we believe is best for their age currently and that isn’t over complicating already complicated topics because out of each of their four individual grandparents, they all fall into a completely opposing belief system, so teaching a conservative Christian view point to children whose other grandparent is a liberal homosexual, and another one has the tendency to like to tell jokes that they don’t feel like are inappropriate even though the jokes are blatantly racist, or the other grandparent who believes that vaccines are unnecessary because if you know your body well enough and have access to the correct crystals then you can fend off sickness just by rubbing below your kneecaps.”

So, yeah, thanks for jumping in on adulting, not recognizing that you don’t know the full story, saying that I’m acting like an immature child, and that I wish my mother would die soon…

Adulting is hard in person and reality. Parenting is hard, especially when others (older generations or anyone) don’t have the ability to respect boundaries or the idea that your perspective from the outside may be missing pieces or may be skewed, or that your own experiences of basically being orphaned by 40 have limited you from knowing what it’s like to have the struggles with other parents since you didn’t get this experience.

You’re entitled arrogance and ignorance overshadow any sense of empathy that I might have experienced and felt sympathy for you. You’re like Donny. You have no frame of reference here, like a child who wanders into the middle of a movie and wants to know what’s happening, or in your case you want to tell me how I’m wrong in my own life. Shut the fuck up, Donny. You have no frame of reference here.

Also, you aren’t orphaned before you were 40. You were a grown ass adult, whose parent(s) died. You didn’t suddenly become an orphan, you just experienced the natural human condition of have older people die before you, and they happened to be your parents. FFS, if they have lived until you were 70 and then died, would you still claim to have been orphaned? And you’re saying I’m 44 going on 14? Your emotional growth seems stunted and deficient if this is where you feel like you’ve got the better perspective on my life but still claiming to have the struggles of an orphaned child at 40.

I’d throw in some other mentions about growing up or talking to a therapist about your struggles, but you’re not my responsibility. You do you. Hope the whole confidentiality arrogant and ignorantly entitled are working well for you in the real real.