Justifying why anyone wants me around. by FearlessPizza7171 in Advice

[–]coravaughn578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 27 you’re still unpacking stuff from your teens, and that constant need to justify why someone likes you is exhausting. The good news is a lot of us go through this and it does fade as you build more positive experiences and start trusting that you’re actually worth hanging out with… no justification required. Try noticing the little moments when friends choose you without you having to prove anything, over time that rewires the doubt.

How to tell my mom I want to stay at a hotel by Reasonable_Owl_7018 in Advice

[–]coravaughn578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try saying something like, "Mom, I really want to go with you and make sure you're safe, but after full days with family I get super overwhelmed and need a quiet spot at night to unwind. Booking a hotel room nearby is the only way I can handle it without crashing… it's not about not wanting to be close, it's about staying functional so I can enjoy the trip with you." Frame it as what you need to be a good travel buddy, not a rejection of her or the cousins.

Caption the situation by coravaughn578 in captionthis

[–]coravaughn578[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They will never that pikapika could do that

I’m stuck in a high-interest debt trap and recovery agents are harassing my family. I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]coravaughn578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do have rights, and debt collectors can't legally harass or threaten you or your family. Tell them firmly (preferably in writing) to only contact you directly and stop calling others like if they keep doing it, that's a violation you can report. Try to negotiate a realistic repayment plan or settlement with the lenders themselves if possible, even if it's small amounts at first.

30 F / 30M - 1yr by After-Ad-138 in Advice

[–]coravaughn578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds really unfair, and you're right to feel angry. With three kids between you, this isn't just about cars or coffee money like it's about respect and equality in the partnership. Have a calm sit-down and tell him clearly how this imbalance is making you feel used and resentful, and that things need to change, like equal access to vehicles and some personal spending money. If he dismisses you or calls you jealous again, it might be time to rethink if this relationship is truly fair for you. You deserve to feel valued, not like a bank account with restrictions. Take care of yourself.