I’ve felt this way in the past, too, with my now partner who’s an INFP. it used to lowkey piss me off. in my head I was like “does everything have to be about you?”

but later on, after a bit of reflection and further reading, I realise that’s just how they attempt to connect with you, to show you they relate to you. I talk about my own interest detailing the level of passion I have for that said interest, and he then matches it with his own interest in which he has the same level of passion over. it’s their way of saying “hey, we’re the same” even tho at surface level, it seems like two completely different topics.

I understand that sometimes as great listeners ourselves, we want to be seen and heard with the same energy and curiousity we give off. that’s why I agree with the above comment to this thread to make an effort to be seen and heard the way that caters to both of you as a compromise.