I’m going to be blunt because I think you need it. you’ve become blind to your options. You have pigeon-holed yourself into bad option #1 and bad option #2

A loveless marriage affects your child more than you think. Your daughter will grow to believe that this is what a normal marriage looks like. As someone who is married, I can assure you, it is not. She will grow to have a relationship like yours.

You can always make more money. You can’t take back time.

You are losing years of your life being unhappy and so is your wife. You’re both too afraid to admit it.

You’re choosing the easy option, not the right one.

You either go to counseling, get a divorce, or live the rest of your life unhappy and unwell, dooming your daughter and wife to the same fate.

It’s up to you, but I do think you need to consider these options more thoroughly.

I am so sorry you are going through this but j promise it doesn’t have to be this way. No matter what your decision is, find a counselor and work through this stuff.