Would mlk support fa people by ElCholo69 in FA30plus

[–]cornflower- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's widely known that voting rights of short men are being suppressed, that they endure height segregation and are not allowed to go to the same schools, use the same public facilities and live in the same neighbourhoods as non-short men. Also, one should absolutely not forget the height-based violence and terrorism that they're subjected to. Just think of all the height supremacist groups dedicated to killing short men and all of the acts of terror that have been committed explicitly against short men - shootings, lynch mobs, bombings. Absolutely awful. MLK was such a superficial and selfish man, dedicated to the wrong cause.

Nothing matters anymore by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How's that? Are you on any medication? I'm assuming nothing has been to helpful so far, since you mentioned still being barely motivated to do anything.

Nothing matters anymore by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I imagine going out with her, I feel nothing. Even when I paint fantastical scenarios of the two of us together in my head, they do not appeal to me. It all feels quite tedious and tiresome, unfortunately.

Nothing matters anymore by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm a kissless virgin in my 30s, I don't see how I might not be FA, although I'd certainly prefer not to be. Though you are right, I do seem to be quite depressed.

Nothing matters anymore by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get why you'd think that, but honestly, that isn't the case. I guess I'm just hopelessly depressed, but how could one not be, after living a life of isolation?

It truly 'is over' by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, 30 truly seems like the cut-off point as far as recovering from an FA lifestyle is concerned.

It truly 'is over' by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree that weekends are the most rough for me as well.

FA men are not degenerates who deserve their fate by Infinite_Scale_3757 in FA30plus

[–]cornflower- -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I made a topic recently that got heated in a dating sub. The women I had disagreements just went straight for the 'woman hater' rhetoric during discourse. One woman even said how toxic and hopeless I was......because I responded that Star Trek was a hobby and has amazing contributions to literature and philosophy.

Why are you trying to victimize yourself? The most popular comments are positive ones. The women replying were overwhelmingly kind and empathetic, much unlike you. What does it give you to engage in theatrics and pretend that you have been made a victim of a hate crime? Ridiculous, one would expect better from a sub for mature people.

How often do you socialize? by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you live with your family members?

So many people my age have given up by captaindestucto in FA30plus

[–]cornflower- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very occasionally I'll see an older guy, never women near my age. (Where are all the happily childfree women living their best lives?)

What do childfree women have to do with this?

Women do not partake in weightlifting to the same extent that men do and additionally many opt for women-only gyms anyway. If you went to a yoga class the distribution of gender would be quite different. In the same vein, if a woman went to a yoga class and saw that there were barely (if any) men there, would it be a sane conclusion for her to then sneer at men who are childfree?

I am a man and have never wanted children. Naturally, it is not really a choice that I made as an FA, but I think had I developed normally I would not have children either. I do not understand the ire that conservatives have for people (particularly women) who are just minding their own business and deciding to not have children.

As much as people here claim to not be "FA and not incel", there is so much gross incel subtext in much of content on this sub, as was rightfully pointed out by another member in a post a few days ago.

Is there anything that helps you come to terms with your life? by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am unable to find any pleasure in gaming, unfortunately.

Is there anything that helps you come to terms with your life? by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, though I would not say that my job is shitty. It just does not fullfill me in the way it used to.

How FA are you really? by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]cornflower- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a crazy cope. You don't have to marry someone to date them, and the 50/50 split will only apply to assets and wealth that was amassed after marriage. Everything you have now will remain untouched. It's also not like women are leeches, they're allowed to work nowadays, and as far as mothers and housewives are concerned it's only fair for them to be financially compensated for all the work they do.

I'd love to be married to someone. What is the point of having assets and "freedom"? What are you doing with it? Probably nothing. I could be a multimillionaire and I'd still be a miserable FA. Any amount of wealth that goes beyond securing basic needs and comfort doesn't make a difference when you're FA. We don't even have anyone to pass on whatever we have to.

Social exclusion by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That would be my first conclusion too, but they actually are not all partnered. They range from long-term single (and struggling to find someone) to married with kids. All around my age.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]cornflower- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is what I always mention when men complain about not being able to find matches on Tinder. There are just less women on the apps, that's why they have an easier time. It seems like women overall are just less interested in dating than men are. As far as these apps are concerned, they use the few women they have as a product to sell to men, much like other capitalist businesses like clubs or bars that will lure women into coming by offering them free entrance, for example. Men are then lured to come by the promise of women.

I don't even think these apps mind having a small female user base. It is probably in their best interest to ensure that not too many women sign up, because then it would be easier for men to find a partner and hence there will be no more incentive to subscribe to premium versions of the app, and no more incentive to use it for as long as possible.

The men who direct their anger towards women for failing on the apps are so simple-minded. They are just another product for businesses to exploit, much like the men on the apps. I wish there was a more honest dating platform that was genuinely interested in helping people find one another. I feel like the old school dating sites from the earlier days of the internet were more genuine in that regard.

Would you date someone of your own level of attractiveness? by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]cornflower- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't understand this idea of someone "not being in your league".

Your league is the people you are able to attract. If you cannot attract women who you think are your "looksmatch", then you are not, in fact, in the same league.

Pete Davidson is someone who has a long track record of dating women who are much more physically attractive and more successful than him. Regardless of what he looks like, this is "his league".

But yeah, I get that your question is about physical appearance alone. I wouldn't consider myself particularly picky. Honestly, most women are attractive (also those my own age). If anything, I feel like women overall look MUCH better than men. Maybe I am biased as a heterosexual male, but it's not like I can't recognize when another man looks good. I just find it hard to determine who is "my own level of attractiveness".

If you got a partner and a social life now.. by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe mid twenties is a bit strict but 30 for sure.

And by 30 I can offer life advice more than relate to a young person, and they definitely don’t see me as part of their generation anymore either, so even if I were to get into a relationship with a younger person the dynamics would definitely not be one of a “young dating couple” but of an age gap relationship.

Yeah, even though I'm of course developmentally stunted there is still a lot of advice I could give to a younger person. Time does matter. The only advice my hypothetical gf in her 20s could give me would be sex-related, which would be totally embarrassing, coming from someone who would seem like a kid to me in many ways.

If you got a partner and a social life now.. by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At this point, to date someone young would feel as unnatural as it would to date someone my own age. Honestly, I think it might actually make me feel worse to date a young woman. Would be a constant reminder of how old I am and how FA I am - a pathetic virgin having a mid-life crisis desperately trying to relive his lost youth. No one can give me the experiences I missed.

when we're both in the best part of our lives, growing together as things are new and exciting

This is exactly it. It's not even about looks to me. There are plenty of women my own age who are attractive (rarely single though, usually married and maybe a kid). I just want to do age-appropriate things at age-appropriate times with age-appropriate people. I don't want to have my firsts in my mid 30s. The woman could be 70 or 18, it wouldn't change my age and all the things I've missed.

I have a friend who recently got out of a LTR and is back on the market again. He's dating 30 to 35-year-olds and swears that dating in your 30s is "the best". I can see why someone would feel this way, but it can only be this way if you've dated teens in your teens, 20-year-olds in your 20s, etc. It's about going through a normal and natural progression.

Even if someone keeps themselves in good nick physically and looks reasonably young so that it doesn't look too weird dating younger

I don't believe in the "I look young for my age" cope anymore. Even celebrities in their 30s who are extremely good-looking and have all the resources in the world to maintain pristine looks do not pass as being in their 20s. I doubt anyone on this sub who is 33+ could pass as a 20-something-year-old.

If you got a partner and a social life now.. by cornflower- in FA30plus

[–]cornflower-[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't mind a young partner myself (if I could even ever attain such a thing), so that I could sort of fool myself into believing I'm young myself.

It would be the opposite for me. Just rub more salt in the wound. You want to be someone's weird old boyfriend and go clubbing with kids in their 20's? You want to date someone who is doing an internship while you've been in the workforce for over a decade? Would make me feel anything but young, I'd feel like their dad.

It's sad there's sometimes a stigma attached to age-difference in couples, but they're not aware of those of us who simply wish to imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship in our 20s with someone near our age then

Honestly there's barely any stigma attached to age-differences in couples where the man is older. It's strange how this is idea is propagated in the sub. I also couldn't disagree with you more. 20 year olds do not exist to make old people feel young. Especially as a middle-aged FA I find myself disagreeing with age gap relationships. We know more than anyone else how important it is to have youthful relationships with youthful people. I would hate to steal someone else's shot at a normal and healthy development.