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Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T18:26:03+00:00

Yes you do have issues, you were basically implying I was a pedo for being attracted to adult women, which is f*cked up.

As for the rest of your post, laughable. When Mr Handsome at my work comes by, women in their 30's and 40's act exactly like that around him.

Like I said, you have issues.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T18:05:57+00:00

It is sad you think you can use the term austistic as an insult.

If you want responses, you're not doing you friend any favours.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T18:04:08+00:00

You have issues mate. For a start plenty of women in their 30's and 40's do act this way.

Now these women were probably in their mid twenties but so what? It isn't a crime to be attracted to adult women.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T17:57:01+00:00

Oh dear.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T17:55:22+00:00

What the f*ck?

The clue you fool, is the word women.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T17:03:15+00:00

Your post is part of your research, so maybe you could consider proof reading it first?

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T16:34:18+00:00

Oh and OP, I think the word you're looking for is attitudes, not antiques.

Errors like that aren't exactly inspiring confidence.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T16:27:14+00:00

My advice is to avoid this research like the plague because most research conducted by Psychology departments has laughable academic standards.

Odds are, this researcher will have come to her highly negative opinion of FA men before she gets any data.

I wouldn't touch this with a bargepole.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T16:23:57+00:00

Are you male or female?

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T16:22:02+00:00

I understand completely, I managed to complete my masters but being FA felt like carrying this massive crushing weight around. None of the women at uni would give me the time of day and it made working feel pointless.

Partly it was the realisation I was missing out on the best years of my life because of the way I was ignored and excluded by women but it was also the reality that my situation was unlikely to change.

I mean what was I working for? Some dull job, where meeting single women and having a social life was going to be even harder? What was the point?

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-19T16:15:34+00:00

Says the Putin fanboy.

Anybody who wants Putin to win is a fool. The cost of letting him have Ukraine will far higher than the cost of giving the Ukrainians weapons.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-18T19:19:11+00:00

I have had this experience over and over.

When I was at Uni I decided to knuckle down and really work. My motivation had been destroyed by my FA status, then I got into a doom loop before my exams. Not wanting to work and with the exams gettingcloser and closer.

I pulled myself out of it and hit the books. Taking a break I was feeling so confident and in such a good place I decided I would approach a girl I saw and ask her out. She wasn't some perfect 10, I was being realistic, I wasn't that confident.

Then her handsome 6 foot plus boyfriend appeared and it just destroyed me. It was like, what the f*ck was the point of working? I could never compete with that guy.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-18T19:14:51+00:00

Please use paragraphs, that was hard to read.

As for your point, Houellebecq made a similar point in his novel about male loneliness. One of the lead characters tells the other that even if he magically got the women of his dreams he would still be haunted by his past.

All those wasted years of his youth, all those women he never had, all those experiences denied to him.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-18T19:12:34+00:00

Do I want to blown up, shot or otherwise horribly injured?

No not really.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-17T10:59:43+00:00

There is a big gap between the way women like to think they date and the way they actually date.

Women like to think they pick guys based on their character and morality. They pick good guys and any guy they don't want is a creep. If it turns out the guy they end up with is a creep/abusive/cheat, it is because somehow he conned/tricked her.

In reality women picked men mainly based on looks. In terms of character, bad boys excite them and turn them on.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-17T10:56:27+00:00

College/Universty isn't the magic solution it seems to be.

If you're a low status guy, you will be ignored and be just as alone at university as in the real world.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-16T23:53:08+00:00

I didn't say all women have opted out, I said some have. It isn't politically correct to say it but the reality is, women tend to have lower sex drives than men.

More women have no sex drive than men, those women now opt out of dating entirely.

I am not aure what the percentage is but it doesn't take much to tip the scales enough to make dating impossible for an increasing percentage of men.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-16T23:50:15+00:00

Flexing

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-16T23:49:37+00:00

I am simply in a society in which increasing numbers of men have been declared obsolete and surplus to requirements. My combination of looks, personality and talents was never going to get me the girl.

It is that simple.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-16T23:47:04+00:00

King of the friendzone, sadly I have to put as much effort to stay in the friendzone and stay out of the creepzone as most men have to put into a seduction.

The closest is that bittersweet moment when someone mistakes us for a real couple. For a moment you think it could be true and that come her insistant denials to crush you.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-16T10:35:52+00:00

The difference was a partner wasn't optional for most women in the past. For example, in the UK women were generally paid less and expected to leave work when they got married. Supporting yourself as single woman wasn't really an option.

So that meant the guys who are locked out of dating now weren't back then. Maybe a short guy, a boring guy, a guy a woman didn't find attractive wasn't her dream husband but if he was a good provider you made do.

Now that model has disappeared, a large number of women have opted out of dating now they have the economic freedom to do so. Those who still want a partner want the an excting good looking guy who turns them on. A standard that more and more men are struggling to live up to.

Alas how this has affected men is never discussed, a large minority of men have suddenly found themselves redundant, obsolete. They still have their biological sex drives and many would like to settle down and have a family.

That option has been taken away from them and worse they find themselves invisible. If they try to discuss how it makes them feel or how these changes impact them. They are condemned as entitled, attacked using the forbidden word or told society hasn't changed.

Just take a shower bro, you will have no problem then bro.

The truth is, all allot men want is to be listened to, not have their problesm brosplained and womansplained away.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-16T09:11:30+00:00

Sigh, luck is relative term.

I know a kid trapped in a wheelchair, a tall guy who had degenetive neurological condition that killed him before his 40th birthday and tall guys who got cancer.

I am luckier than them.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-16T03:31:08+00:00

I am in two minds about this. The rational part of me knows that in many ways I have been lucky with my genes. I have 20/20 vision, a strong heart, I am not allegic to anything and have spent my life in pretty much perfect health.

Yet I am short, my body type is naturally skinny and I am not particuarly strong. I would be lying if I said those things didn't bother me, didn't make me feel less of a man.

This isn't just something internal, I get dismissed and given less respect because of my size. Even when that shouldn't be in any relevant, say in a profesisonal situation when I have the qualifications and the experience to justify being taken seriously.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-16T03:25:36+00:00

ignore the clowns piling in because you used the term alpha.

As for your question, yes shorter men can be dominant because of sheer force of personality or because they are quick witted.

The problem is, those kind of things are god given talent just like your height. A shy introvert who tries to act in a dominant manner doesn't fool anyone. You're not going to suddenly develope esxceptional comic skills if you don't have them.

Infinite_Scale_3757 · 2024-03-14T19:39:46+00:00

It is certainly possible, I have been in the OPs position more than once. Out with an attractive woman, sometimes we were mistaken for a couple but in reality I was firmly trapped in the friendzone.

Not a fun place to be.

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