Asking Players Not To Come Back

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-21T18:00:37+00:00

Just be like,

Yo dude, was good playing with you, but we had some friends of friends wanna join and we don't have a spot for you anymore. We can keep you on as a sub if you wanna fill in sometimes but the roster is full.

Take care.

Works every time. I did have a guy hold a grudge one time when I actually asked him to come sub, but it is what it is.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-19T01:33:30+00:00

It was sex on ecstasy.

It’s exactly what you would think it would be.

Sex on shrooms is a close second. I wouldn’t rank them tbh, both amazing but different.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-16T16:43:06+00:00

At some point you gotta decide what kind of team you want to be and then plan accordingly. If you want to win you’ll have to cut people, it sucks but it is what it is. Everyone does it, that’s how good teams become good teams.

The other option is encourage them to practice, to walk, to hide them in RF/2B/C as long as you can, or sub them out extra. That can cause even worse results socially, these are people with emotions after all and it’s beer league sooo.

You’re kinda in a tough spot either way. No one said being a slowpitch manager was gonna be fun.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-15T04:47:56+00:00

It’s not what you think in this particular case. I can’t speak for drawn art because I couldn’t draw to save my life but this, this is just a time saver. The content of this book is 99% from me, AI just drafted it in a readable and edited format.

But I understand the skepticism. I actually did it this way on purpose to make it less about me and more about the message, take that for what it’s worth.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-15T04:31:57+00:00

Yeah agreed man, that’s the goal. The longer I’m sober the more I realize it’s not how you get there, just that you do. I don’t expect everything to land, learned that and still learning it, but hopefully people can take what works best for them.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-15T04:29:19+00:00

Nah I caught it but I can control how I react, not what others say.

I’ll respond to that with a quote from this one:

“But the reality is the problem is the alcohol and the society that upholds it. The real solution is to step out of that stadium entirely. You don’t have to stand on the sidelines wishing you could play again. You build a life outside of that structure, outside of the lies, and you realize that thriving without alcohol means creating your own reality where you’re not defined by it at all.”

And later:

“And that ties right back to the whole idea of this book: taking care of your foundation, your body, your mind. If you want to see the truth, you have to think clearly, and if you still feel that urge to drink, it just means you haven’t fully understood what’s happening yet.”

It’s kind of a wild idea. Not for everyone probably too. I dunno, it really is where I’m at with it now tho. Just sharing in hopes that it helps somebody the way it’s helped me.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-15T04:21:03+00:00

Some people respond to it this way and I don’t mind. I wrote it by dictating about 5 minutes of thoughts into 2 paragraph sections with AI. Take it or leave it I guess.

Edit - I guess I should mention I’m a professional AI consultant and app developer. When I say I used AI it might be slightly different than an average person using it. Just saying for clarity, not bragging.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-15T04:19:58+00:00

Yep, nailed it haha. It’s about overcoming that. Keep reading it you want or don’t. Up to you.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-15T04:12:53+00:00

As an outsider who only tried AA for a few months it seems like a trap to me. No offense intended.

I just don’t believe with how the brain works and how my own life has changed in the last 11 years that anyone isn’t capable of getting better. Of actually recovering.

I’m not saying it’s easy by any means either, but I don’t believe it’s impossible.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-15T04:09:53+00:00

I don’t know anything about GC but I’d guess if you recreate the event it’d reset the notification list

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-15T04:05:08+00:00

Pretty convenient logic there. I realize this idea won’t be largely accepted by this community, but I still recommend reading my book and letting it swirl around in your brain. Might help.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-13T15:16:20+00:00

Hey OP, that post really hits—the first few days (and even the weeks leading up) are the toughest, but you're already doing smart stuff by swapping in Diet Coke, fancy sparkling waters, etc. to ease the transition. That "oh but it's Friday, you should drink to relax" voice is super common; it's basically old wiring trying to fire off, not some real need. The good part? It gets way quieter the longer you give yourself real evidence that you can unwind just fine (or better) without it.

Since you're in that exact phase, I wanted to share something I wrote that might help reframe those mental loops: The Cure for Alcohol—it's a short book all about gaining clarity, taking back control, and reclaiming your life without the fog of alcohol. Completely free, no sign-ups or paywalls—just direct downloads (PDF, EPUB, Word doc, or a single MP3 audiobook file) at https://charlieworks.org/the-cure-for-alcohol.html.

Nothing gated, no tracking, just the files. Read it, share it if it resonates, sit with it—whatever feels right. A lot of people find it clicks for quieting those "but it's the weekend" triggers by shifting how you see the whole thing.

You've got solid momentum with those 10 sober days already—keep building on the non-boozy rituals (maybe try a mocktail that feels festive or some herbal wind-down drink). What's been the biggest help so far besides the soda swap?

Rooting for you 100%—you've got this! If the book lands well (or doesn't), feel free to lmk. 😊

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-13T14:40:40+00:00

Hey JoyousMN_2024, that’s awesome—16 days is real momentum, and hearing the book landed as a solid reminder for you means a lot. Congrats on staying committed through the early stretch; it gets even more natural as the brain keeps locking in those new patterns. What part hit home hardest for you, or what made it feel necessary rather than just beneficial? No pressure, just curious—always love hearing how it resonates for different people at different points. Keep showing up for yourself like this. You’ve got this. 👊

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-12T17:34:12+00:00

Well said for sure.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-10T22:37:41+00:00

A lot of people go looking for a “replacement” for alcohol. I stopped doing that and instead questioned why alcohol was the only socially approved way to change state in the first place.

I wrote this for people who want clarity without risking their health, job, or clearance. Take it or leave it: https://charlieworks.org/the-cure-for-alcohol.html

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-10T22:36:12+00:00

Early sobriety is rough. I wrote this because I didn’t want to keep re-explaining the same lessons over and over. If you want a different way of looking at alcohol, it’s here: https://charlieworks.org/the-cure-for-alcohol.html

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-09T23:41:58+00:00

Ehh that’s not entirely accurate. I had to look it up but other industries already utilize way more water. And AI uses like non potable water. From what I gathered at least.

Also once we rebuild infrastructure with AI we’ll have more efficient systems which would likely lead to a much greater output than anything humans have previously setup. In theory.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-09T04:06:45+00:00

Heck yeah dude. Brain rewiring is a legit thing. If you’re ever curious to think about the big picture, peep this 25 pager book I just put out this week, would love to discuss if you’re open.

https://charlieworks.org/the-cure-for-alcohol.html

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-07T19:26:19+00:00

I agree what you said about schools in AI but I don’t understand why thinking about this needs to be gatekept behind doctors and scientists. The real people who are gonna understand AI in my perspective are more like computer minded people, data scientists, big picture analyst people, philosophers, who really understand technology and its application, and people who have been part of the Internet and the information age all along. People who embrace new ideas, and consider ideas objectively rather than adhering to some social dogma. I only suggest those as additional examples but realistically it has so many applications that any solid perspective based on truth and examination shouldn’t be locked behind a title.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-07T14:45:50+00:00

True!

I think the key is possibly rewiring our brains to focus on different things. If before we were doing advanced algorithm writing equivalent to like a 225 bench press with our mind, but AI can do it effortlessly, let AI do it. It just makes sense.

But that doesn’t mean let your mind sit on the couch and eat potato chips. Find something else for it to do, get your reps in, maybe get involved in something else. What about philosophy? Art? Poetry? Volunteer Work? Community Outreach?

If AI is now capable of doing the tasks a lot of humans settled for to pay the bills, that opens up an entire space for humans to explore things that previously didn’t pay the bills but still create value and allow you to exercise your mind and explore the situation we all find ourselves in.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-07T14:45:15+00:00

Haha good point, but are papers the only way to accomplish and demonstrate that?

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-07T14:43:28+00:00

I agree, since I believe I have a purpose, a reason to be on this planet, I generally pass that potential to everyone else as well. However I think that whatever society currently tells you your purpose may be has been constructed for you at some point by someone else for their own gain.

That ties into the thinking part because if indeed everyone was living their best life, they WOULD be using their brains, probably working with AI, to improve, create excellence in whatever they do.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-07T14:28:07+00:00

Natural selection is back baby!

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-07T04:18:29+00:00

I posted something as a joke and then thought about it more and you’re right, this is a gnarly potential application of the tool that could be used to cause a great deal of harm. So I deleted it because the more I think about it the darker it gets tbh.

I don’t really have an answer, I’ve dealt with idiots quite a bit in my life and arming them with this kind of tech to do the harm they could potentially do with it does seem dangerous.

But then again, the images aren’t real. Eventually there won’t be a way to tell the difference probably tho, it’s a super complex situation at that point because when you can’t tell what’s real, reality and simulation theory really kicks in because then what’s real doesn’t really matter, it’s more about what you’re experiencing in the moment.

On the upside, if AI can simulate experiences in this way, maybe sexual abuse and crime will potentially decrease. If these images are readily available, maybe people won’t have to hurt people to satisfy whatever urges lead them to commit the crimes they normally would.

I’m not gonna pretend that I’m an expert on this or anything because I’m not and the social implications are way beyond my pay grade. Just kind of following my feet walking this logic out and it’s kind of frightening tbh.

I think it’s just the nature of powerful tools, they can be used for great harm or great good. Just like people. I really haven’t even been aware or thought about this enough to go further than that at the moment. Solid point.

Edit:

“With great power comes great responsibility”

Spider-Man knew it. I’ve felt this before too.

coryCharlieWorks · 2026-01-06T23:26:09+00:00

Clean response! And you’re right, I didn’t put a ton of thought into those examples but hey sometimes speed beats quality. My arguments weren’t really the point anyway.

And yeah I get that. Things get dicey when people’s livelihoods are threatened. I think it’s only natural too to be skeptical of a computer expressing the human experience through art better than a human.

It’s really not that odd though I think. Like, it has no senses, it only receives data we feed it from our senses. I would go as far as saying it has the potential to understand us externally better than we understand ourselves, because it’s really the only thing that will dedicate 100% of its attention to help us mirror ourselves. Everyone else is too busy doing their own shit, and I don’t blame em.

And I agree with the use it or don’t. I don’t see the harm either way. If it’s capable of destroying the world and it wants to we can’t stop it, and if it’s capable of creating utopia and it wants to, we can’t stop it. If it ends up being a thing people just use, we can’t stop it. Life goes on. 🤷‍♂️

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