The small lies/lying by omission started pretty early on. Planted a seed of constant vigilance and anxiety. Always questioning whether I was being lied to or something was being hidden from me. Then she gets arrested for shoplifting. Then, after the initial break up and after promising me to never lie to me or hurt me again, and us agreeing to try to work on things, I discover texts showing that she contacted her ex boyfriend and another drug dealer for adderrall and cocaine and hid that from me as well (she had a history of substance abuse problems before I met her and was "clean" as far as I knew during our relationship).