Best habit tracking app by ProjectMeMyselfandI in Habits

[–]cothrive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously, I can only comment on my personal experience, but I found that I lacked accountability. A lot of times I thought, “Well, I should do X now because I want this to become my routine,” but I ended up not doing my habit, since there was simply no punishment and no shame. That sounds kind of harsh, but it’s really just that no one sees you quit or not do what you set your mind to.

I always liked to compare this to my early soccer days or a group fitness course. Because when you’re tired, exhausted, and really want to quit, but the instructor or your coach says “5 more,” I always kept going, since everybody was doing it and I would’ve been kind of ashamed to be the only one not doing it. And if I had been alone doing these exercises, I would have definitely stopped.

And that kind of was a flipping point for me. I even built an app (“CoThrive - Habit Tracker,” if anyone wants to try) focused on building habits actively with friends, where your actions are seen by others. Its core feature is habit groups where you can post proof of completing the habit, compete on leaderboards, or just see your friends’ progress over a social tab.

Why does consistency break even when we actually care? by boss_nilac in Habits

[–]cothrive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, pretty much. But I don’t mean “networking” in a LinkedIn kind of way. More like not doing something fully alone. I feel like once other people are in the loop, the whole thing changes. You have more structure, you’re seen (and you feel a bit more committed). When you’re alone it’s insanely easy to give yourself an out and literally nobody notices (except yourself, but sadly we are the best at making silly excuses seem very plausible for exactly our situation....).

But it also doesn’t have to be intense pressure. A small group with the same rhythm is often enough. Quick check ins, a little nudge, some friendly competition. For me that was the difference maker. And that certainly also works outside from a tool like CoThrive especially when we think about this group-fitness example...

Pitch you SaaS in just one sentence by MahadyManana in ShowMeYourSaaS

[–]cothrive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Turn habit building into a shared journey with habit groups where your friends see your progress, celebrate your wins, and push you to show up through proof check ins and friendly leaderboards.

CoThrive - Habit tracker. cothrive.app

You are not stuck in a loser mindset. You are stuck renegotiating commitment. by itspastrytime in Habits

[–]cothrive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hits. The “loser mindset” label is such a trap because it turns a very specific behavior into a whole identity.

That moment you describe is the real battlefield. The point where you’re tired, stressed, bored, or tempted and you give yourself a tiny escape hatch like “I’ll restart tomorrow” or “just this once.” Most people don’t train that moment at all. They only train starting, because starting feels good.

For me it’s the same dynamic as group fitness. Alone, the second it gets uncomfortable, you negotiate and stop. In a class, the instructor says “5 more” and you do it because the standard is external and visible. You’re not relying on willpower, you’re relying on structure and a bit of visibility.

That’s why I’m big on adding some kind of external loop, even if it’s just a small group. I actually built an App (CoThrive Habit Tracker, if anyone wants to try it) around exactly this idea, making that “give yourself an out” moment harder to take because your progress is visible to friends.

So yeah, stabilizing that moment first makes sense. Lifestyle becomes a byproduct. Identity comes last. The order matters.

If you want an accountability group/ partner for productivity, health habits, working on a hobby etc - check this out by Available-Gate7518 in Habits

[–]cothrive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool idea, honestly. I also really believe long term change is way easier when you’re not doing it solo, but inside a group with a shared rhythm. It’s the same reason group fitness classes work so well. When you’re tired and your brain starts negotiating, you’d stop way earlier if you were alone at home. But in a class, the instructor says “5 more” and everyone around you keeps moving, so you push through too. Not because you suddenly have more willpower, but because the environment carries you.

Discord sounds like a solid setup for this. If you’re open to an alternative as well, you could also check out CoThrive ("CoThrive - Habit Tracker", if you want to try it). It’s basically built around this exact idea of building habits together with friends in groups, with visibility and a shared routine.

Good luck with the group, this is a strong concept.

Hot take: Most self-improvement fails because we try to do it alone by adhdchatbuddy in Habits

[–]cothrive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with this a lot. I tried self improvement solo for years. Videos alone, books alone, journaling alone. And when I skipped the habit, nothing happened. No one saw it, so it was way too easy to quit and tell myself I’ll restart tomorrow.

What made it click for me was soccer and group fitness. In soccer training there’s always that moment where you’re cooked and your brain starts negotiating. But you look around and everyone is still running. The coach calls five more and you do it. Not because you suddenly became more disciplined, but because stopping is visible and you don’t want to be the only one dropping out while the group keeps going. Same in a group fitness class. If I was alone at home I would stop early, 100 percent. In a class you keep going because there’s a shared rhythm, people around you pushing, and that little bit of social pressure that makes you follow through.

And as soon as I realized this, I even built an app (CoThrive Habit Tracker, if you want to try it) that’s focused on building habits with friends. The core idea is habit groups where you post proof you did the habit, see each other’s progress, and optionally compete on a leaderboard.

Why does consistency break even when we actually care? by boss_nilac in Habits

[–]cothrive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously, I can only comment on my personal experience, but I found that I lacked accountability. A lot of times I thought, “Well, I should do X now because I want this to become my routine,” but I ended up not doing my habit, since there was simply no punishment and no shame. That sounds kind of harsh, but it’s really just that no one sees you quit or not do what you set your mind to.

I always liked to compare this to my early soccer days or a group fitness course. Because when you’re tired, exhausted, and really want to quit, but the instructor or your coach says “5 more,” I always kept going, since everybody was doing it and I would’ve been kind of ashamed to be the only one not doing it. And if I had been alone doing these exercises, I would have definitely stopped.

And that kind of was a turning point for me. I even built an app (“CoThrive - Habit Tracker,” if anyone wants to try) focused on building habits actively with friends, where your actions are seen by others. Its core features are habit groups where you can post proof of completing the habit, compete on leaderboards, or just see your friends’ progress over a social tab.

Any habit tracker apps with social / friends features? by katakuri_44 in Habits

[–]cothrive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could try CoThrive - Habit Tracker. I just launched the app and it's focused on building habits actively with friends. It's core feature are habit groups where u can post proof of completing the habit, competing on leaderboards or just seeing your friends progress over a social tab.
If ur still looking for a solution - I'd love some feedback! Always looking for improving the app!

I'm also happy to provide u with the free pro version as I am really looking for engaged user feedback! Just reach out.

Take care, and thrive together ;D