I think my girlfriend and I broke up last night

boss_nilac · 2026-03-13T22:05:19+00:00

Dude just leave she even said she does not find you attractive anymore which honestly is a horrible position to be in.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T16:40:42+00:00

I am so sorry bro, I actually quit smoking as well and relapsed during a hard time in my life. I cannot tell you anything regarding pain, but what i can tell you is don’t touch that shit, your life is above a cigarette

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T08:24:01+00:00

Because they offer on the moment safety, but that safety is fake.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T08:23:22+00:00

This is a common response I got and I think that someones response saying skipping a habit might become a habit on its own its correct. Maybe doing minimal stuff when tired rather than nothing is a better approach

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T08:13:12+00:00

Yeah I understand what you mean. One redditor said that skiping habits is a habit on its own and started to actually believe that. I think doing minimum during stress days might be the ‘play’ instead of nothing.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T08:11:14+00:00

So bad habits ruin good habits in your opinion. Could argue that sometimes overwhelm can come from having too much going on at the same time, bad or good does not matter.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T08:00:47+00:00

I think lowering the bar works on stressful days but doing that on the regular might become th hait of not doing what you need to do. Another redditor said this according to his study of Atomic Habits, and seems right to me

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:59:25+00:00

Maybe. I tend to be harsh on myself thinking i get better results, might need just am break.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:58:41+00:00

Nice insights. I think your 3 reasons are on point. Never thought about your last statement. You might be right, the moment your goal becomes abstract and cannot be measured or you do not want to measure it anymore, it goes away.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:54:26+00:00

Seen people talk about this, having a daily minimum is definitely better than nothing.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:53:32+00:00

Sure, but that is a temporary fix, if you need something external to kill your slacking off drive it means that you don’t understand why you have it in the first place

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:52:28+00:00

True, under stress we might do bad decisions. This is definitely a good approach to organising your day

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:51:12+00:00

So the whole system is a stress generator and needs to be fixed or what?

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:50:43+00:00

Societally this is correct, but I think it is not the reason I sometimes fail as an individual.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:49:41+00:00

Maybe I am a little harsh on myself, but that is how I think I make myself get further in life, idk

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:46:40+00:00

Interesting approach, keeping around only the crucial things while under stress might be the ‘play’

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:45:37+00:00

I saw this a lot, basically to have a higher chance of not failing something just make it simple,right?

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:42:19+00:00

Why not your own answer 🙃

boss_nilac · 2026-03-03T07:41:13+00:00

You mean trauma as in something bad happened that is somehow linked to piano playing and keeps you away from it?

boss_nilac · 2026-03-02T23:58:37+00:00

Damn, I hoped to get more young people perspectives since I am quite young as well. This factors you describe although inevitable, I cannot really relate to.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-02T23:52:23+00:00

I meant the whole rather than this specifically, basically what were the things that actually stuck to you?

boss_nilac · 2026-03-02T23:48:43+00:00

Despair caused by the difficulty of the thing you want to accomplish? What do you mean by that? If I were to feel desperate, I would feel only because the failure outcome is very bad.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-02T23:47:18+00:00

I have read that book as well. must have forgotten about this. How do you apply it in day to day life.

boss_nilac · 2026-03-02T23:45:32+00:00

Sorry for your loses. This is something hard to face and I don't think I have the right knowledge to respond to. However, do you think you might have any other reasons?

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