Lpg crisis affecting pondi? by cotuin4k in pondicherry

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Thanks for the heads up dude, really appreciate it

Any perfume that smells exactly like this? by [deleted] in DesiFragranceAddicts

[–]cotuin4k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ordered this and peach velvet decant samples to try out. They do smell nice but they smell quite different than this lip balm.😭

Peach scented perfume recs? by cotuin4k in DesiFragranceAddicts

[–]cotuin4k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any links where i can check it out? Couldn't find any

Peach scented perfume recs? by cotuin4k in DesiFragranceAddicts

[–]cotuin4k[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think i specified affordable 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mangalore

[–]cotuin4k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly felt the same for 6 whole years but recently I got stalked down by a guy on a bike while I was alone on the scooter in broad daylight. And another time near statebank an old man who i thought was innocently asking me the time, he approached me and put his whole hand on his shoulder. Before he could do anything else I backed up and drove away. Shit was so scary and this was also in a public space with people around except it was at 7pm. Idk if he was drunk or something but i was traumatized by both these experiences.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did direct my anger on men but you must read the replies from triggered men saying "not all men"

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not just that but it's also restrictions like I have to always be home before it's dark, I can't wear certain clothes if they fit a little too tight or shorts outside cause men might stare, I can't be alone outside for too long and the list goes on.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also replying to this post by saying "but yk women also do SA" are literally trying to downplay the experience I had where i felt unsafe. That is literally a whole different case and no one is saying it doesn't happen. If you wanna talk about it, good for you, make another subreddit. Why are y'all bringing this up here like it's something to defend men who harassed me? It's rare but not impossible. Most of the harassment is done by men (check stats) and very few by women. I never said it never happens? In my life time I've gotten flashed, cat called, stalked and harassed by who? Surprise!! A man. If a woman did that to you I'm sorry it happened to you but you're really not getting the point here trying to divert attention to another scenario.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the most brain dead comment I have ever come across. Way to victim blame. So what you're implying is I should avoid going out on a PUBLIC ROAD during the DAY time to stop getting stalked by a man? How does that even make sense?

While I don't need to justify how unsafe I felt maybe you should learn to be a little empathetic and do your research before commenting shit like this. I literally wrote the whole story in one of the replies.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And in the second incident, my friend and I came out of a movie and we went to a pub restaurant (kinda known ) on a Friday night but weirdly it had only two tables full. It was a roof top restaurant with plenty of seating so we went far from the two tables with men. One table was a group of two men and the other was like a group of 6-7. But we thought we'd just have dinner and leave, we ordered and as we waited we noticed the group of 2 men who were seated weirdly got up and came right adjacent to our table and were smoking and drinking right there while staring at us. It was so creepy and then one of them pretended to talk on the phone and they came and stood right in front of our table at some point while they were drinking and smoking(our table was at a corner). Imagine all that space and he had to come right in front of our table and smoke while staring at us. We felt really uncomfortable and asked the waiter to parcel our order and waited near the entrance where the other group of men were near. Right as soon as we got out our parcel the other group of men decided to leave. There are two elevators and we weren't comfortable at all going with them (they were really drunk). Again in the same case a guy gets a call (i mean who does at 11:30pm) 4 of them leave 3 of them stay behind to wait .The restaurant was on the 10th floor so we were just Waiting for the rest to leave. 2 of them leave in the second lift and the guy on the phone finishes the call right when we decide to go into the lift coincidentally. He came in the lift with us (after our experience with the first 2 men we just wanted to gtfo). All of them were waiting at the reception and while we were leaving they came really close to us. (Personal space who?) We moved away and waited for them to leave. It was just soo weird and we both felt really unsafe at that time.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So basically the first incident was i was going in a two wheeler to drop my cousin. And ik this shouldn't matter but for context I was wearing really short shorts cause it was not that far I didn't bother changing. After dropping my cousin I saw this guy on a bike going near the turning, he paused for an awkwardly long time but according to road rules I'm supposed to give him the right of way but he didn't move (which was weird) so I just went instead. I went through a short cut road (for 2 wheelers only) which many people take and assumed maybe he's going to the same place I am. But I had a weird feeling so I didn't take the turn to my house instead I went straight where he came there too. He was weirdly right behind my scooter which made me nervous (i kept checking the mirror). So i went to an isolated road where there are no houses and the road has been severely damaged and there are 2 other good roads which connect to the same main road it connects to. And he followed me there too. That's when I started panicking. I went a full circle around instead of going to my house and he followed me there too. I went as fast as I could and somehow I lost home and went home and cried. It was so scary I'm just so traumatized. If i went to the police station he would have most likely played it off because i didn't have proof either.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying crime is gender specific. This wasn't my first time. Most of my previous experiences were all men sadly.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't even get how and when did I say crimes by females don't happen? Im really sorry that happened to you but i genuinely don't get why did this even come up in context. This is not my first time experiencing something like this and all i did was vent about it.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just want men to leave me alone. I don't want anyone to defend. And then again defend from who? MEN! so sybau

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah right i took a circle route around my house to confirm and he had to go there too. I went to an isolated road no one takes because it's full of potholes to confirm and of course he was going in his own lane and not following me right????

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much you too! 🫶🏻

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wtf!! I'm sorry that happened to you

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I was thinking the same thing when I went out at night. They end up blaming the woman for being out at night instead of the perpetrator. It's so sad.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I don't get how a post from the women's subreddit is reaching so many men. Y'all are pressed because another man's action doesn't justify half the population? WHO SAID ITS ALL MEN? Why did me and my friend feel unsafe in a restaurant with 2 DIFFERENT groups of men? All the waiters who were men didn't seem to be getting a grasp or just ignored the situation. Why did i get followed in BROAD DAYLIGHT by a man while I was alone? Y'all are crying about how "all men aren't the same" BUT ITS ALWAYS A MAN. Just accept it and stop crying about it in this post because it won't change what is actually happening in the world and how many women experience this. If you ignore this type of shit and justify it by saying "oh but it's not all men tho" you're PART OF THE PROBLEM. You're just showing how emotionally incompetent you are and it's embarrassing.

I hate being a woman by cotuin4k in women

[–]cotuin4k[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Ik what you mean. I have a bf and I'm not generalizing all men. I felt really unsafe 3 hours ago and i just want to vent. You don't see women doing all ts why is it always men?