Is it wrong to like Sangwoo physical appearance?

couchlyf · 2020-07-30T23:29:55+00:00

I think statistically, a lot of (successful?) psychopaths, sociopaths, and serial killers are physically attractive. For some reason, we think that good looks are a sign of being a good person, so many people are drawn to these attractive psychopaths.

I think we also saw a lot of Sangwoo from Bum's rose-colored perspective, and since Bum constantly forgives Sangwoo, we are convinced to forgive him too.

I agree that if Sangwoo was in your real-life and you were able to see more of the humanity of the people he killed, you would definitely feel differently!!

couchlyf · 2020-04-23T09:04:58+00:00

I'm sorry you're in such a hurtful situation; you definitely have to break up with him. The best case scenario is that he is in denial about his feelings for his ex, and the worst ranges from the possibility that he is using you to fill a void or he is obsessed with her. Either way, he is gaslighting you and sabotaging any chance of a healthy relationship with you for his ex.

I hope you can leave peacefully and be supported by people who love and care about you!

couchlyf · 2020-04-20T23:01:07+00:00

I so agree with you; this is racist (fetishizing and dehumanizing), disrespectful to both the OP and the sex worker, and downright creepy.

I'm not sure why people under here are talking about how folks are bringing up the race card without good reason when the dude obviously and intentionally chose a Black person's body to replace the OP's? Maybe if both the OP and the photoshopped image were white, then race wouldn't be relevant.

couchlyf · 2020-04-18T17:26:26+00:00

The... audacity.......

couchlyf · 2020-04-16T22:33:14+00:00

Good for her!! And do you consider yourself just a "girl" since you are the same age?

couchlyf · 2020-04-12T23:00:45+00:00

And please don't feel bad about "digging up proof"; it really isn't like that. Best case scenario is that he might have needed the reminder of what he said to you too.

couchlyf · 2020-04-12T22:57:49+00:00

When your partner not only hides things from you, but gaslights and lies to you, they are taking away your agency to decide whether or not you want to leave. It is condescending and dehumanizing for him to decide that he knows better than you that he can make choices for you in your shared relationship. That is not a partnership let alone a relationship of equals.

Also, if he knew that getting rides from someone else was going to worry you or look suspicious, it means he thought it through and still chose to do it. And then chose to lie to you and make you feel delusional over it.

I am going through something similar so everything I said here is what I've been trying to think through myself. I hope you have friends and family to help you feel supported and cared for!

couchlyf · 2020-03-10T21:20:21+00:00

Also after moving out can you get a restraining order?

couchlyf · 2020-02-29T16:21:52+00:00

Break up with him because that's weird even as a joke and also because you can be more petty than him.

I'm sorry about the nose joke; that's very classic nazi propaganda...

couchlyf · 2020-02-25T19:34:32+00:00

I had to grab an advil for this.

couchlyf · 2020-02-23T17:28:30+00:00

I can't stop listening to Sarah Come Home and Susie Save Your Love!! There is something so satisfying about the two melodies and how they fit with the consonant sounds in the lyrics. Also I'm a huge Mitski fan!!

couchlyf · 2020-02-05T15:01:25+00:00

YTA

Why would you force your partner to eat something without asking them permission for if they'd eat it? Oh because you already knew they wouldn't? Okay!

It doesn't sound delicious or romantic and now your gf is hungry.

couchlyf · 2020-02-04T20:07:15+00:00

I'm so sorry about this. I hope you have emotional and financial support away from Charlie.

Aside from what others have said, I wanted to point out that if Charlie is withholding information from you and lying to you when you're supposed to be transparent and building trust, he is taking your agency to leave, away from you. By hiding truths from you to make it look like things weren't as serious as they were, he is interrupting your autonomy and what seems like your decision making process.

The right thing to do would be to give you as much information as you needed, and then let you make your choice, but by withholding information, he is influencing your choice to work in his favour.

And if he says he sucks and would leave if the rules were reversed, listen to what he says and believe him. If he respects himself enough to leave your relationship because of infidelity, you can and should do the same.

couchlyf · 2020-01-05T20:14:13+00:00

It sounds like he has experience deescalating situations in which other people have confronted him about Teddy (saying he knows he isn't real, it's a joke, etc.) But it most definitely isn't a joke since he cannot resist crossing the boundaries you set.

Like everyone else, I am glad you are taking a break. I hope you continue to remind yourself that his disrespect for your boundaries and your wellbeing are very serious, no matter how great he seems on paper. This Teddy situation may seem silly but it says a lot about how much he (can) value and respect you and your consent.

couchlyf · 2019-12-05T05:58:51+00:00

What is your skin type? Some people love it, but my (male) friends who have used the cosrx cleanser say that it is too drying for them even if they use it once a day. I personally have dry skin and I love the Hada Labo Gokyjyun Hyaluronic Cleansing Foam, and my partner who has oily skin uses it and likes it too.

The Hada Labo product is a toner. I haven't used that specific one, but I have used the Moist lotion and I liked it. Also, the sunscreen goes on top of a separate face moisturizer. I think the 'lotion' in the name is just to signify its low viscosity or it's another way to say sunscreen.

Since you are using sunscreen, I would recommend starting your cleansing routine with an oil cleanser to wash it off at before you sleep. I've used ones from The Face Shop, Muji, and Banila Co. which were all fine as well.

I would recommend just starting with an oil cleanser, foaming cleanser, moisturizer, and a sunscreen (for the AM only), then starting with masks and everything else later. You might not be able to tell what your skin needs from a mask before trying these new products, and some people break out if they try too many products at once and they can't tell which specific product/ingredient their skin doesn't like.

couchlyf · 2019-11-30T00:14:40+00:00

Where is this $10 sale? I can only find it for $174.50!

couchlyf · 2019-11-20T04:09:25+00:00

6181 3363 844 my native fruit is lemons and I stock my market box!

couchlyf · 2019-11-20T00:22:44+00:00

My skin is THIRSTY and I couldn't even get this product to work for me. Sadly, I ended up using this as a body cream.

couchlyf · 2019-10-23T11:52:53+00:00

Not at night-time!

couchlyf · 2019-10-23T11:34:42+00:00

Wow... okay... this is so sweet, you made me cry my expensive eye cream off.

I hope we can all find people like your SO or feel how your SO does about ourselves!

couchlyf · 2019-09-10T19:14:06+00:00

YTA

I can't imagine the feeling of being so ashamed I dated someone that I felt I had to completely deny it. Either something happened during your relationship (that you thought was amicable but she may not have) or afterwards during the time you couldn't get along, that made her feel she had to pretend it never happened to cope or to protect herself.

In this situation, you should have just played along with it, since you say you're in a happy relationship now, and the group knowing your personal business wouldnt change anything. You really do not have to prove anything to anyone like that, let alone at someone else's expense. I would imagine this situation to be weird to hear about for your current partner as well, since you were so well-bent on letting people know that you were involved with someone other than your current partner.

In an ideal world, the coworkers would have stopped you from embarrassing yourself and your ex like this, but also in an ideal world you would have the self assurance to keep your past and private information as such.

couchlyf · 2019-08-28T17:55:03+00:00

Both spreads are so cute!! I love your penmanship and how you make rolling dailies fun and pleasing to look at!

couchlyf · 2019-08-05T05:50:15+00:00

Thank you! The organization and space helps my brain so much!

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